There is an old saying: three years old and eighty years old. Three-year-old children have very strong learning ability, so parents should pay special attention to their baby's education at this stage, otherwise it is easy to develop bad behavior habits.

Two years old is a child's first rebellious period. So, how do parents of three-year-old babies teach them? Modern scientific research shows that the construction of children's non-intellectual psychological quality should become an important part of family education.

The definition of a happy life

As parents, the greatest wish is to hope that their children will live a happy life in the future. The definition of happiness can be summarized in six words: success, health and freedom. How to help children achieve success in life? This is a common attempt by parents to develop their intelligence.

There is a formula about success: success = ability+opportunity. Here, ability refers to a person's subjective conditions, and opportunity refers to the social objective conditions in which this person lives.

Different people may have different definitions of ability. Generally speaking, a person's ability consists of two parts: intellectual ability and non-intellectual ability. Emotional quotient is an important index to measure people's non-intelligence ability.

At present, family education in China often pays attention to the development and cultivation of intellectual factors, while ignoring the influence of non-intellectual factors on children's future success and destiny. In other words, we lack all-round family education.

So, what is intelligence? Intelligence is our ability to observe, understand society and solve various problems by using experience and knowledge, including observation ability, judgment ability, logical reasoning ability, thinking ability and so on. Parents pay more attention to the cultivation of this ability, and some people start from prenatal education.

However, does the improvement of IQ necessarily mean success in life?

It doesn't seem that way.

An athlete's skill is very good, but if his psychological quality is not good, he is nervous on the spot and can't bear the pressure and all kinds of twists and turns in the competition, he can't play his own level and achieve good results.

EQ Education and Successful Life

Human beings have always attached importance to the development of intelligence, and there is a test system to measure intelligence-IQ; The research results of modern science show that besides IQ and EQ, there is also a reference element worthy of attention.

Emotional intelligence reflects a person's ability to control his emotions, bear external pressure and grasp psychological balance. Scientists have proved through various tests and surveys that EQ is more important to people than IQ, which determines a person's marriage, work, whole interpersonal relationship and even career.

Scientists once did an experiment. A group of children walked into an empty hall and put a piece of fudge in the most conspicuous position in the hall. The test teacher said to every child who was going to walk in: If you can persist until you are called out and haven't eaten the fudge, you will be rewarded and get another fudge. In this way, you will get two pieces of fudge. If you eat candy before the teacher comes, then you can only get this piece.

At the beginning of the experiment, the children walked into the hall in turn. Some children can't stand the temptation and eat candy. There are also some children who understand that as long as they persist, they can get two pieces of fudge, so they try to control themselves, divert their attention, sing and jump, and wait for the teacher to call him out and get a reward.

Experts divided the children who could insist on getting two pieces of fudge and the children who could not insist on getting only one piece of fudge into two groups and conducted a long-term follow-up investigation on them. It turns out that children who get only one piece of candy are generally not as successful as those who get two pieces of candy. In other words, any child who lacks control and weak emotional intelligence as a child is unlikely to succeed in life when he grows up, regardless of IQ. This research has aroused the concern of the society about EQ education.

Smart parents should cultivate their children to know what to do and what not to do from an early age; I also know what can be successful, what can be rewarded and what can be scored in the competition.

Many parents always pay too much attention to whether their children's life is superior or not, but often ignore their children's ability to grasp life and self-control. Isn't it a pity that parents ignore the main parts that determine a person's marriage, work, interpersonal relationship and career?

Fall down and get up by yourself.

A successful person once said: The most impressive sentence in my life was given to me by my mother, and it was called "I fell down and got up by myself". When I was a child, every time I fell, my mother said, I fell and got up by myself. This voice has become a motto, an epigram, and an instinctive reaction to life. This kind of psychological logic will work no matter what difficulties and setbacks you encounter in your later life.

This enlightens us that people are particularly easy to accept the hints of simple logic and simple sentences when they are young, and then form psychological qualities that affect their lives. Therefore, while attaching importance to family education, there is no need to treat family education particularly complicated. Often a simple action by parents and a simple sentence can affect a child's life.

Therefore, our family education should put forward a clear slogan, attach importance to the development of non-intellectual psychological quality and attach importance to emotional intelligence education. This is especially important for the only child.