There is a saying in the countryside that "you can tell that a girl has three or four points by looking at a mother's heel", which means that a mother's words and deeds will have a significant impact on her daughter, and her shadow will also be reflected in her daughter. Parents are the children's first teachers, and what kind of mother has what kind of daughter. As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for children. What kind of personality a child has is partly inherited by his parents and partly influenced by his daily life. Illustrates a kind of humanity. Some of them may have been handed down from generation to generation by farmers and regarded as the motto of family education by farmers' families. Even now, they still exude wisdom, and they are all expressing a truth. People living in rural areas should have heard some life experiences from the old people in the village since childhood, which is the crystallization of the wisdom of many generations of farmers. In order to spread easily, these very practical life experiences are often summarized by farmers into very short and memorable words. For example, some relatives have lost contact with each other because of the death of the old man, and farmers will say, "My aunt died, my uncle left, and my cousin at home is not coming." There are many similar words in rural areas, and the regionality is obvious. Even in different villages, the story is different. Although these statements don't look very high-end, the truth contained in these words can stand scrutiny until today. We have a saying here, which is used to describe the married life of rural people. This sentence is called "marry a husband to look after the house, marry a wife to look after the mother", which is very intriguing to think about. So what exactly is "marry a husband to look after the house and a wife to look after the mother"? In fact, this is related to many rural customs. Inverted doors in rural areas are rare. The default for a woman to get married is to live with the man. In order to prevent the daughter from being wronged in life after marriage, the girl's parents usually go to the man's house to have a look before getting engaged. This is called knowing the root and the bottom. At that time, the countryside was not interested in buying a house in the city, so farmers lived at home and built their own houses. The woman's parents should look at the quality, old and new degree, materials, etc. of the house, and indirectly understand the man's family situation without hurting both sides' faces, and estimate the daughter's living conditions after marriage. This is the origin of the so-called "marrying a husband to look after a house". In fact, this sentence is still correct now, but it is no longer a house built in the countryside, but a house bought in the city. As for "taking a wife and adopting a mother", it also contains several meanings. Old people in rural areas believe that you can see that a person is unreliable by looking at his appearance. However, because the girl was under the age of one year ago, her appearance looks inaccurate, but the girl's mother is different. Therefore, the first significance of getting married to take care of my mother is to make a general judgment on the future daughter-in-law from the appearance. In this case, it's not just the face you saw when you married your mother. Because of the same sex, a girl's mother has a great influence on a girl, and this influence is often from the inside out. From a girl's temperament, dress, dressing style to talking and doing things, her temper is influenced by her mother. Therefore, the second significance of marrying your mother is to judge whether this girl is suitable from the social behavior and personality. Of course, there is a third meaning when you get married and meet your mother, which is to see the reputation of the woman's mother in the village. If it is fierce and has a bad reputation, most men will hesitate. There is a young man in our village who works outside and knows girls from a county town and another countryside. They talked for half a year. The young man brought his girlfriend to visit his parents at home, and the man's parents immediately changed their faces and said that they did not agree with his son to marry her back. The reason is that the girl's mother is not good to her mother-in-law, and she is also famous in the village, even a little far and near. However, the young man in love is blind and wants to marry her back no matter what he says. However, the man's parents agreed As a result, after less than two years of marriage, there was a contradiction at home. No matter what the old couple do, the daughter-in-law is not pleasing to the eye, and the son stands on her side. Finally, the young couple simply moved out and basically never came back.