There is no formulaic prescription for education: discipline or doting, coercion or trusting children, guidance or laissez-faire, which should be considered comprehensively according to children's characteristics. For example, children like watching TV very much. What would you do? Arguing with children about the disadvantages of watching TV? It's useless If you promise him how long to watch TV, you should turn it off at once and fathers should make effective rules. Now that the rules have been made, we should not compromise. And we, time and time again, always compromise with our children. Parents are used to compromise, and so are children at school. If I haven't finished my homework, my teacher won't do anything to me, and neither will my parents. Then don't blame the children for playing only without doing their homework.
Cultivate children's good character. Personality cultivation strengthens children's personality. In the face of children lying, you are tolerant and do not respond; Or insist on teaching? Are you a kind, diligent and honest parent? Educators' principle of "one word and two words": discipline, justice and control. The established code of conduct cannot be shaken. You wavered, you compromised, and it's not yourself who has to bear the consequences, but your children. For example, if you can't stand children crying, make an exception and give them sugar, and the consequences of dental caries will be borne by the children. Because all the rules we made before were for the good of our children. Watching TV is the same, which not only destroys children's imagination, but also passively accepts many contents of the adult world, not to mention that their eyesight will be affected. You can't force it, it's your own children who are hurt. How do children spend their time when they are not watching TV? It depends on yourself. Would you like to spend some time reading stories and playing chess with your parents, or just playing, or sitting still in front of the TV and letting your children watch TV with you? For another example, it is agreed that children should not do housework slowly, so you should spend more time waiting and do it yourself.
Self-study instead of letting go. My son's connivance has some advantages. He will go to the teacher's house downstairs to play alone, and do some things alone, which is very independent. It also brings some disadvantages. There seems to be no room in my mind except for playing.
Now children's living environment: too much love and too little discipline, so there should be some discipline. When children don't obey the discipline, we don't compromise, but stop them, let them know that it is impossible without the original agreement, and let them compromise. Family has more time than school. If they don't spend time, education will surely muddle along and get into trouble. Discipline can cure those children whose lives are chaotic and arrogant.
As the book says, having discipline will lead to an outstanding life. Too much love and too little discipline will make children out of control and self-expansion, leading to chaos in life and even mental illness. Only through discipline and phased coercion can we find the way to healthy growth. Discipline is an excellent condition for children to have goals, be educated, live an orderly life, be self-disciplined and become better.