With the opening of the second child policy, more and more families want to have a second child. Because the second child is small, they are afraid that the boss will "start" the second child. So parents always like to teach the boss to take care of the younger one, not to beat him, but to let him go. This "Kong Rong makes pears" education method makes the boss miserable. He has been uneasy because of the arrival of his second child, fearing that his parents will no longer pay attention to himself. There is a debate in the first issue of "Seven Overlords": Do you have to ask the boss for advice when you have a second child? Fu Seoul said, "When a child has a hundred sweets, how can he mind sharing them?" Why do you ask him to be generous when he has two pieces of candy in his hand? "This sentence hit my heart.

Children's desire for love is the most direct. No matter how old he is, he still needs companionship and care, from his parents' affirmation to a hug. Research by British child behavioral psychologists shows that even children as young as 1 year-old are hostile to other children at home, and they feel threatened. Dabao's hostility and sensitivity come from the love he once enjoyed alone, and this love was deprived by the sudden arrival of his younger brother and sister.

There is a study in the University of California, USA. The final result shows that 65% of mothers and 70% of fathers will unconsciously have a special preference for a child. Whether it is Dabao or Bauer, the struggle and jealousy between them just want more and more complete love from their parents. In the second-child family, such words are often inadvertently said by parents. How to deal with the problems between two children in a balanced way, parents must have a steelyard in mind.

1. Pay more attention to Dabao's feelings.

While taking care of Bauer, parents should also face up to Dabao's psychological activities and keep abreast of his emotional changes. Give him some time alone, hug him, listen to his complaints, and let him feel the state when he enjoys the care of his parents.

2. Give Dabao a sense of participation.

Most mothers will consult Dabao when they have a second child, so that Dabao can participate in family discussions from the beginning. The sense of participation will make the child feel respected and valued, and it will also make him have more expectations for new family members.

Professor Li Meijin, an education expert, once said: The second-child family should not always put the boss aside, but should involve him. If there is a dispute between the two, the focus of education should be on the big one rather than taking care of the small one. Give children equal love, let the boss participate in it, assume the responsibility of brothers and sisters, let him feel that he is valued, and let the little guy feel the friendship of the boss. Let them become each other's most trusted playmates when they are young and become each other's dependence when they grow up.

3. Give children equal love

The child's heart is extremely satisfied. You can give him a hug when he is willful and frustrated, which is enough to fill his cup. Every child is the most beautiful angel in parents' hearts, and also the best gift from God, and we should tell the boss by actions that the love of parents will not be reduced because of the arrival of younger brothers or sisters!