I've always been curious about the difference between father and mother. Until the next day, I saw one thing and finally understood it. 1. Motherly love can satisfy children, and father love gives children direction.
The language between father and son is different from that between mother and son. According to American behaviorist research, father and son will have some physical contact when fighting, which will lead to deep communication between father and son. The communication between the two fathers made the little boy follow his father's example, that is, in the eyes of the child, his father is the person he will become in the future.
Mothers are different. Maternal love is gentle and delicate, so boys can get warmth and satisfaction from maternal love. Fatherly love is rough and rational, and children can find the direction of the future and find their own future similar to their fathers.
2. Boys in early childhood need to be attached to their mothers.
As we all know, excessive love is not a good thing for children Excessive maternal love will cause a kind of growth stagnation, and the little boy will become a mother-in-law and stay at that simple age forever.
This is actually caused by the excessive love of mothers. Of course, it is undeniable that boys in early childhood need their mothers, but excessive maternal love will indeed lead them astray. So, the only solution lies with my father.
"I like my father holding high, which can make me see far!" Xiao Ming, who is attending kindergarten, said.
Fatherly love can just dilute excessive maternal love and let children return to the normal development track, which is also the reason why those children educators emphasize paternal love and maternal love.
3. Childhood boys need self-control.
A famous British educator said, "If you want to be one with your son, you must learn to wrestle."
I'm afraid the "gathering" here is really "gathering". In the battle with his father, boys can experience deeper things such as rules and strength.
I deeply remember that a long time ago, when my son Xiaodong was fighting with his father, maybe Xiaodong didn't want to make trouble. I don't know what happened. He suddenly kicked his father hard. But to my surprise, my husband didn't lose his temper, but calmly educated Xiaodong. He said, "You hurt your father, so he can't play with you in the future ..." Then he began to educate Xiaodong not to hit others at will. Unexpectedly, Xiaodong nodded frequently.
From then on, Xiaodong children learned to control their own behavior, which I once felt incredible.
4. Adolescent boys need moral restraint.
Boys have finally reached puberty. As parents, it's time for us to educate them in adolescence. First of all, the education of adolescent children must be completed by parents at the same time, and there is a feeling of black and white. Let children feel the sincerity of husband and wife; Secondly, the content of education should move from physiology to psychology and finally to spirit.
Father is rational, and his education can make children calm and rational, complete their own moral transformation and complete their own road to adulthood; Mothers are different. Under such circumstances, a warm-hearted mother is likely to get the child's disgust, so at this time, the role of the father comes out again, to make the child aware of the mother's "love."
It is natural for parents to educate their children, but if they can pay attention to methods and feelings, they will get twice the result with half the effort. Does your child lack a sense of security and value? Come and learn advanced.