First, stay calm and understand the reasons.
When you find a child stealing money, you should keep calm and know where the child spent the money. Don't emphasize the word "stealing", let alone abuse, beat children, or even drive them out of the house.
We should investigate the reasons why children steal money and know where they spend it, so that we can know why children take money privately and deal with it according to the reasons.
Second, educate children about the seriousness of the problem.
When parents find their children stealing money for the first time, they should communicate with them very seriously and tell them not to steal money. Such behavior is called stealing, which is illegal in modern society, and there should be no such idea as "unbridled". This irresponsible, selfish and unprincipled practice cannot be recognized, and adults don't like such children.
Let children understand that problems should be solved in a reasonable way, and they can ask their parents for help, and they can't achieve their goals by hook or by crook. Children should deeply remember that their parents are very angry because of their wrong behavior, but at the same time they should comfort and understand, so that when children need money in the future, they can discuss it with their parents instead of secretly taking money.
Third, give children appropriate punishment.
If it is the first time for a child to steal money, parents must take it seriously and not be ambiguous. Ambiguity is connivance, and children will definitely commit it again next time. Parents can judge whether they need to give him a good beating according to their children's personality, and let him know that stealing money will bring them serious punishment. Parents will be very angry and children will have a good memory in the future.
You can also ask your child to write a written inspection or guarantee, so that he can reflect on his mistakes and realize them. You can also exercise children's labor consciousness through proper homework, cultivate children to gain gains with sweat, and let children know that punishment is not an end, but to better correct mistakes.
Fourth, give children pocket money appropriately.
Why do children steal money? In fact, parents can also reflect on whether they are too harsh on their children and too "poor". You can give your child some pocket money appropriately and let the child make his own plans. This can also cultivate children's awareness of money from an early age, develop a correct view of money, and lay a good foundation for their future growth.
Fifth, instill a correct view of money.
Discuss the concept of money with children, how to get money legally, and let children realize that money is hard to come by; Ask your parents for help if you have no money, instead of reaching out to steal or rob; Take money through formal channels and so on.
Sixth, let children learn to spend money.
Find a time, when accompanying children to the supermarket to buy daily necessities, parents can make a list and make a budget, so that children can personally browse the price of goods, choose, weigh, settle accounts and pay. When shopping at home, children can be involved, giving him a chance to learn how to control the budget and know where every penny is spent.
Seven, clear the purpose of education
You shouldn't steal money, you shouldn't lie, and the most important thing is the "unscrupulous" way of thinking. Tell children that what annoys parents most is not lying, not taking money, but the idea of "doing whatever it takes to get what you want". This wayward, selfish and reckless idea is intolerable to parents.
Tell him to satisfy his wishes in a reasonable way. If the reasonable way doesn't work, then the right choice should be to ask parents for help, not to satisfy his wishes by hook or by crook.
Eight, to meet the reasonable needs of children
There are some things that children need very much, and parents should satisfy him as much as possible. If parents firmly believe that children should not be satisfied, then they must explain to their children why and try to gain their understanding. This should not be a strict direct ban.
In fact, many children steal money because they know that even if they tell their parents what they want, their parents will not hesitate to object and criticize themselves for buying things indiscriminately.
So they think it's useless to communicate with their parents and they can't get what they want. Therefore, it is better to take money secretly. If parents can't find out, that's the best result. Even if parents find that their needs have been met afterwards, the big deal is a reprimand or education, which is neither painful nor itchy. Anyway, their needs have been met, that's all.
If parents object to some of their children's needs, but they can't persuade them to give up and can't get their children's understanding, the root of this problem is actually not the problem of stealing money, but the problem of communication between parents and children. Children's stealing money is justified in their view, and they are also "forced".
Nine, praise the attitude of taking the initiative to admit mistakes
Don't criticize children when they admit their mistakes instead of covering them up. You should tell him that although you made a mistake, you admit it and realize your own problems. It's great that you are like this. Your mother still likes you and loves you.
Children who make mistakes are not necessarily bad children. Everyone will make mistakes when they grow up, and making mistakes is also a part of growing up. A child who corrects mistakes is a good boy, and a child who repeatedly makes the same mistakes is a "bad boy" in the eyes of adults. Parents of such children don't like it.
10. Don't look after the children with colored glasses.
When you find a child stealing, you think the child's behavior is wrong. Seeing children with colored glasses and being wary of them everywhere will push them to the abyss.
Children's awareness of "stealing" is actually very vague. They think it's no big deal to take their parents' money, maybe it's just to meet a temporary need. They don't think it is an unforgivable mistake to do so. Parents just need to guide their children correctly and don't look at it with colored glasses.
Eleven, guide children to form a correct view of money.
Give children the opportunity to earn pocket money and let them understand the hardships of making money. Parents can ask their children to help, pay them a certain amount of money, guide them to learn how to get paid through labor, and increase their confidence in their abilities.
Twelve, keep calm and understand the child's thoughts.
In fact, stealing money from home is a mistake that every child will make. As parents, we can't equate this behavior of children with that of adults, so as not to make children feel that they are not good people and hurt their self-esteem.
At this time, the first thing parents should do is to keep calm and ask themselves: what is the reason for his doing this? What does his behavior convey to us? To understand the real reason behind children stealing money.
Thirteen, correctly guide the child's desire
In the process of growing up, children will have desires for the outside world, and by constantly satisfying their own desires, they will gain the original motivation for happiness and growth. Parents should respect and correctly guide their children's desires, such as telling their children that everyone wants what they like when they see it, and they should get it within their own ability.
Keep in touch with your child, see what he wants and needs, and discuss with him how to get what he wants, which ways are not allowed and which ways are right. In this way, children can distinguish right from wrong and know what they can and cannot do.
XIV. Eliminate the incentive mechanism in time.
To prevent children from stealing money, parents should set an example in daily life, avoid spending money lavishly in front of their children, often use money as a means to coax or reward their children, and at the same time, put the money at home properly. In addition, we should pay more attention to children emotionally and psychologically, and prevent children from using "stealing" to compensate themselves because of inner loneliness.