A 9-year-old child should not be in a rebellious period, so pay attention to your communication with your child. They have been able to understand the tone difference between "command" and "consultation". Please note the following points:

1, don't use "command" to tell children what to do, this tone will only make children disgusted;

Many children can do things by themselves. He has his own way. You do it your way. When he thinks your way is more efficient, he will naturally learn from you. In other words, educate children with actions instead of preaching;

3. When the child asks for help, don't "guide" some of his behaviors or habits. They will naturally ask you for help when they encounter problems that cannot be solved. At this time, the "help" you give him will make him feel that his mother (father) is really capable, and he will ask her (him) when he encounters problems in the future.

4. Guide children's behavior with the tone of "consultation". For example, "What do you think of this?" "Do you think this will work?" "Why don't you try?" Waiting for words makes him feel that you respect his opinion, instead of forcing your idea on him. Although the child may still do what you think in the end, he is more willing to accept another expression.

As for "playing", I suggest you take him to play "crazy" when you have a rest, and do more games that both adults and children can play. Any child likes his parents to play with him. However, during work and school, you should also show that you love studying and reading, so that children can consciously know that at work (his job is to study), they should concentrate on their work wholeheartedly and play seriously when they should play, instead of forcing them to study when they want to study and play when they want to study.