2020.04.20 Pay tribute to the 20th anniversary of Ye Yong's death: You and I are no longer lonely on the road of gender equality.
On the 20th anniversary of Ye Yong's death, Taiwan Province Province became the first country in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage. However, in those days, Ye Yong, a junior high school boy who had been ridiculed and bullied for a long time because of his feminine gender temperament, was afraid to go to the toilet after class, and as a result, he was injured and died alone in the toilet. After losing her son, Mama Ye also expressed some ideas to support the same marriage referendum in Taiwan Province Province last year.
The following is the full text of Ye Mama's letter:
Hello, everyone, I'm Mama Ye, Ye Yong's mother. Ever since I was a child, I have been a person who would loudly scold when I saw unfairness. But my child Ye Yong likes knitting and doing housework very much. Neighbors think he is very sweet and a very gentle boy. When Ye Yong told me that someone would laugh at his sissy and take off his pants, I taught him to scold him bravely and fight for his rights.
I often wonder why he didn't inherit this from me and couldn't teach it. When I was a child, I took him to see a doctor. The doctor said he was fine, but the problem was our parents' idea. I feel more at ease after listening to this, because I know that he has the advantages of kindness and love to help others.
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Later, Ye Yong passed away. I was very sad and didn't want this to happen to us. I cry every day. My friends took me out for a walk, but I felt sorry for them because I cried all the way. Even temples are full of excitement. When I saw Jiao Tong and Eight Generals, I cried loudly in front of everyone, because it was once Ye Yong's favorite.
I couldn't sleep during that time. The doctor prescribed me sleeping pills for a month. Sometimes I feel like I want to open up a little bit, but the next second my heart is intertwined. I want to grab a handful of sleeping pills and take them several times so that I can see Ye Yong. Later, I told the doctor not to prescribe sleeping pills for me, because I still have family members who need me, so I have been looking for something to do to divert my attention.
Life is hard, but many friends who support me, People-oriented Education Foundation and Taiwan Province Gender Equality Education Association, are my crutches and help me stand up again. Because I have gone through this road of worry and self-blame, I know my parents' feelings very well, and I am even more reluctant to part with my comrades. Taiwan Province people's ideas have changed, but now they have been kicked into the closet by those anti-gay groups.
Some people say that gay education will make students gay. I said it's best to teach so well and teach all the children to heaven. If homosexuality is taught, why does the same family teach heterosexual and homosexual children?
Some people say that gay education should not be taught too early, but only by teaching gay education too early can students know that there are not only men and women, but also a third or even more gender, and everyone will know that homosexuality is not wrong. Those who are not comrades should support and encourage comrades and strive for their human rights and living space. When there is a comrade around us, don't beat him to death.
Will gay education make students sexually rampant? I heard them say in black and white that gay education is not about watching porn. How can it get itchy? If we want to protect students and prevent sexual harassment or pregnancy, sex education and condoms should be taught more.
Others say that it is enough for schools to teach students to respect boys for being gentle and girls for being brave, and there is no need to teach gay education. But comrades are bullied so badly, how can they not teach! Anti-gay people treat gay people as abominably as China bullied Taiwan Province Province. Is it true that schools in Taiwan Province Province don't let students speak their mother tongue and are not exposed to the history of Taiwan Province Province?
I am a barefoot peasant woman with a hoe on her back and a dustpan. Ye Yong is too old to grow up. I don't know if he is gay. Even if he is, I don't think he is wrong. I think the concept of parents is the most important. Many parents don't accept that their children are gay and feel that they are being pointed at and humiliated. But I want to tell them that you gave birth to the child and you raised it. If you don't accept your gay children, you won't accept yourself. Parents have to support their children first. Who will cherish them if we don't accept them?
Comrades are life with souls, not puppets at the mercy of others. You can teach without teaching, and you can change by force.
Mother Ye is willing to do more for her comrades-in-arms, but my strength is not enough. I can only say these words to encourage everyone, but I will always stand with you, and I hope you will remember to agree in the referendum 13, 14, 15, and love me for life. Let's work together!
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