Hook is not only an actress, but also an excellent mother in the family. He has two very handsome and lovely sons, Angie and Xiaoyu. Hook's education method is worth learning, and he will also share his parenting experience on many platforms.
Children like to lose their temper. Naturally, Fish and Angie are inevitable, so we can often see two children crying in the program.
For example, when recording the variety show "Incredible Mom", Xiaoyuer suddenly started to lose his temper, but Hook patiently comforted the child instead of reprimanding him immediately.
Originally, everyone sat together to eat, but Xiaoyu was not in the mood to eat, but repeatedly asked his mother to assemble new toys for him. After being rejected by Hook, Xiaoyu immediately began to lose his temper.
Hook didn't immediately criticize the child's performance, but patiently said to him, "I know you really want me to change, and you also want the toy to become a robot with weapons, but these will have to wait until after dinner." This is the rule, you have to obey the rule. "
Xiaoyu began to cry again when he learned that he couldn't take his beloved toy home. Hook hugged him and comforted him all the time: "I know you are sad that you can't take your beloved toy home, but this is the rule."
The word "I know" seems simple, but it actually brings invisible power to children, making them think they are understood and letting them know that adults see things from their own perspective. Hook also expressed his experience in educating children, that is, understanding equality.
Many parents are helpless to lose their temper with their children. It is better to understand why children lose their temper for no reason than to solve it in an extreme way.
Why do children lose their temper for no reason?
1. does not meet the requirements.
In fact, the reason why children lose their temper for no reason, what they show is easy for parents to understand, that is, children are not satisfied at the first time, so they will express their feelings in this way.
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Another possibility is that children are neglected by their parents in life. Sometimes parents really ignore some of their children's feelings because they are busy.
Then naturally children will feel that this is unfair and want to express their dissatisfaction through venting, which will naturally let parents see that they are angry for no reason.
3. Self-esteem is frustrated
In fact, children's hearts are often not as strong as they think, and a little trivial matter may make children angry. When children's self-esteem is frustrated, they will lose their temper for no reason, which is only in the eyes of parents.
But in fact, the child's psychology has become very uncomfortable, so we must vent in this way to make our emotions calm.
Therefore, every child who loses his temper for no reason actually has real thoughts in his heart. When this happens to children, we should also solve the current problem through better methods.
What should parents do if they are angry with their children?
1. Accept children's negative emotions
In fact, everyone has their own negative emotions. It is normal for children to have these negative emotions. We should accept their negative emotions.
In this way, every feeling of the child can be accepted to the greatest extent, and the parent-child relationship will become better. If you always reject your child's negative emotions, then the child will not dare to vent his true thoughts in the future, which is not good for his mental health.
2. Know how to listen to children's needs
It is also necessary for us to listen to the real needs of children, because children also want to meet some of their own needs, and if parents always reject their children's ideas, then children will become more depressed in the future. So don't let these unimportant things happen, and meet the children's requirements, as long as it's not too much.
3. Know how to respect children
Sometimes it is because we are unfair that children lose their temper. This means that in our daily life, we should never underestimate our children too much. We should pay more attention to their feelings and do more things that are fair to them. This will ensure that the child will not lose his temper at random.
The above three methods can make children stop losing their temper, so as parents, they must know how to understand their children. Only by walking into their hearts can we really understand what they were thinking at that time.