Four strokes to save the ex-girlfriend broke through the psychological defense line and successfully saved her. Her partner's change of heart may be premeditated. Forgiveness depends on personal choice. Marriage is not a necessity for a woman, and broken feelings will always be stuck in her heart. Here are four ways to save your ex-girlfriend and successfully break through the psychological defense line. Welcome to read and share!
Four moves to save the ex-girlfriend, break through the psychological defense line and successfully save the unfeeling feeling, she admitted her mistake 1.
Admit to your ex-girlfriend that you did something wrong, even if you don't think you did. Ex-girlfriend broke up with her, there must be her reasons. Defending yourself will only put yourself on the opposite side. So you might as well admit that you did something wrong and apologize to your girlfriend for your mistake, because you must have hurt your girlfriend in some way.
Not near, not far.
Everyone knows the truth about the spring, right? Love is the same, even if you really care about her in your heart, don't show it all on your face. Love is a matter of two people, and love will not last long. Two of a kind is the foundation of feelings, and the correct way is to make her like you again!
To save your ex-girlfriend, you can annoy her all the time last week, give her a cold shoulder this week, annoy her next week, and then make her feel that someone is chasing, loving and annoying.
Of course, it is unlikely that she will make up with you at this time, and it is more likely that she will show disgust. But it doesn't matter, you just need to let her know that you are sad and then leave silently. Quiet for a while, let her lose the feeling that someone is chasing someone and it hurts. Under normal circumstances, as long as she doesn't hate you very much, she will be a little lost because of your departure at this time. And women naturally want to be taken care of, so she may accept you again, even if she doesn't, she won't be too disgusted.
Often "inadvertently" appear in the world of girlfriends.
Look at the scenery outside, make new friends, and put these in places where ex-girlfriends such as friends circle and Weibo can see them; Play with mutual friends and let your ex-girlfriend know your current life state.
Don't refuse to get along with other women. If you let your girlfriend know that you get along well with other women, she will start to miss the days with you. Remember to send text messages to your ex-girlfriend at important times, such as her birthday and your breakup anniversary, which can be appropriately sensational and remind her of your past together.
Wait until your girlfriend contacts you.
After your girlfriend contacts you, you can talk about recent things, what you are busy with, what you are studying, and what you are going to do as good friends. Your girlfriend will notice your change in conversation. Don't rush into it, your relationship will improve.
The key to finding your ex-girlfriend is to change yourself and let her see a better self. Under this premise, take appropriate strategies and tactics to make her ex-girlfriend moved by herself again!
Four strokes to save ex-girlfriend 2 Someone once said that the most difficult days are watching movies alone, shopping alone, and going to the hospital for surgery alone, especially during the period when we just broke up. She opened her eyes and closed them. She loves but can't, which is the most painful. Everyone has one thing in common: when she loses it, she will want to cherish it more.
Every day of breaking up is desperate. How can you let the other person know that you still love her in your heart?
Now, you may be in the painful stage of just being lovelorn, or trying to save it without a clue. In fact, you know in your heart that everything you have is really useless, because you have just lost the person you love, and you are in a negative mood, and the way you talk to her will make her feel disgusted.
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Student case
Xiaobai male is 26 years old
Rescue goal: girlfriend is real.
Redemption keywords: sense of need framework, love experience, emotional intelligence
Students' self-report
My name is Xiao Bai. I am 26 years old. I am a programmer of a listed company. My girlfriend's name is Zhen Zhen. She works as an e-commerce operator in a media company.
We met on a blind date. It was introduced by relatives at that time. We talked a few words and felt very congenial. After the blind date, we added WeChat. In the following days, I have been looking for opportunities to ask her out to play.
Really belongs to a lively girl, and she feels very relaxed every day. In fact, when I was dating, I showed a good impression on Really, but I was really cautious about her feelings, and she didn't want to establish a relationship too early, so we got along for more than four months, and she finally agreed to be my girlfriend.
After being together, I regarded Pearl Krabs as the apple of my eye. Whether it's clothes, shoes or all kinds of cosmetics, I will buy it for her as long as she wants it. Even the troubles at work are solved by me, and she thinks I am more practical and steady.
I like the feeling of being with her. When I am free, I will pick her up from work and have dinner together. At that time, there seemed to be no one else involved in our world, and I was happy, but this happy life didn't last long. Slowly, she began to say that she was tired from work and didn't want to go out.
Zhen Zhen is actually very caring and independent. She hinted to me that she wanted some space of her own, but at that time I mistakenly thought that she didn't like me. These are just excuses that don't want anything to do with me. The more she wants to be free, the stronger her thoughts and the tighter her bondage.
We talk less and less together, even if we go out on a date, she just plays with her mobile phone, and she gets impatient when I talk to her. I don't know what to do.
Slowly, her reaction became colder and colder, and my heart became more and more anxious. I want to keep this relationship, so I find various reasons to ask her out and buy her things just to make him happy, but her attitude is getting colder and colder, and she even refuses to meet me. I had no choice but to block her downstairs. She began to hide, and after a while, she really broke up.
I can't accept the consequences. No matter what she says, I don't agree to break up, thinking that begging can save my feelings as before, but it's just my wishful thinking. Really began to avoid me, can't contact her. Only then did I realize that this relationship was over.
1. Analysis of students' problems
The initial passion of love has dissipated, life began to be dull, the two sides met in a quiet life, and the small problems that were inconspicuous at first gradually enlarged. These problems have not been solved for a long time, which finally led to the ending of breaking up.
In the understanding of Xiaobai, we found the following problems:
1, weak personal framework
Through Xiao Bai's story, we know that Xiao Bai is in a passive position in this relationship. Because his personal framework is weak and he cares too much, he shapes the other person into his own spiritual pillar. He doesn't know how to refuse, and everything is obedient. This weak framework directly led to. When he really broke up, Xiao Bai could only passively accept it and there was no way to stop it.
2. Strong sense of demand
Xiao Bai is too clingy in this relationship, which has really become his whole life. He not only abandoned his own living space, but also encroached on each other's personal freedom. He can't understand the girl's core needs and manages his feelings in a self-righteous way, which really makes him depressed and tired.
3. Less love experience and low emotional intelligence.
Xiao Bai has only been in love once before, lasting for three to five months, so more often Xiao Bai can't understand what he really wants to express in real words. He looked at the chat records of Xiao Bai and Zhen Zhen, and found that they were really looking for a topic when chatting. Xiao Bai's reply was called Steel Straight Man. In the long run, Xiao Bai can no longer mobilize the real chat mood, which eventually leads to real disappointment and breakup.
One: Psychological intervention to reduce the real antipathy to Xiaobai.
Detailed description of redemption
Pearl Krabs has given up Xiaobai. When she decided to break up, she was most afraid of Xiao Bai's struggle. Therefore, when Xiaobai seriously thinks about it, Pearl Krabs will hate to take Xiaobai to the next level.
We instructed Xiao Bai to change his mobile phone number and make a phone call. During the call, Xiao Bai said that he would definitely respect his true thoughts. Now that we are together, we should get together and leave, and we will not entangle in the future.
There are two purposes for making this call. The first is to really understand that Xiaobai has put down her feelings and won't pester her any more. The second purpose is to save the image that Xiaobai has collapsed, and let me really understand that Xiaobai is impulsive, but in essence Xiaobai is still a good person with mature feelings.
Two: change your image and rearrange your way of getting along.
I really have a qualitative impression of Xiaobai: I'm not in the mood for life, straight, and I can't understand what I'm saying. In this step, we designed our own image change and lifestyle change.
Really a girl who knows how to make up. Xiaobai has a good foundation. Because of her busy work and the clumsiness of the programmer, she looks like a clown and it is difficult to attract her. So our designer provided the overall image design for Xiaobai, from hairstyle, clothing to basic skin care, so that Xiaobai's overall style was improved, and then displayed in the circle of friends to enhance her appeal.
Third, increase chat interaction and restore comfort.
After a series of adjustments, Zhen Zhen's attitude towards Xiaobai has changed obviously. At this time, the tutor thought that we could resume contact, so the tutor guided Xiaobai to chat with Zhen Zhen through WeChat, and the tutor grasped the direction of the topic behind and the frequency of chatting, so as to exercise Xiaobai's emotional guidance ability.
To start a topic is not to talk endlessly and make any comments, but to listen to the other person's voice and feel the change of their mood.
Four: take the initiative to invite and enhance the relationship.
With the increasing number of chats between Xiao Bai and Pearl Krabs, Xiao Bai has been able to chat with Pearl Krabs independently without being silent. At this time, the tutor instructed Xiaobai to make several vague invitations. In order to improve the success rate of the invitation, the tutor instructed him to choose a multi-person party as much as possible, so that it would not be too embarrassing after meeting, and at the same time it would reduce the possibility of the other party's refusal. With the help of Xiaobai's friend, Xiaobai's date went smoothly, and Pearl Krabs's attitude towards Xiaobai began to become ambiguous.
After the party was accepted, Xiaobai sent Zhen Zhen home. At the gate of the community, Xiaobai took off his coat and put it on Zhen Zhen, causing several physical contact accidents. Zhen Zhen did not refuse, but said to Xiaobai: "Continue to come out to play next time."
Five: emotional guidance to save success
After several times of preparation, Xiaobai has understood how to get along with Pearl Krabs, thus successfully saving the distance, but lacking a reasonable opportunity, so the tutor guides Xiaobai to invite Pearl Krabs to road trip. On the way, Xiaobai looked for opportunities to have simple physical contact with Pearl Krabs several times, but Pearl Krabs didn't resist obviously, and even took the initiative to tease Xiaobai on the way.
This is a strong composite signal, so the tutor directly booked a couple suite for Xiaobai. After arriving at the hotel, he really didn't refuse. Xiaobai was glad that this relationship was finally saved.