Children grow up day by day. They have their own psychological and physical changes, thoughts or puzzles. They need parents, society and schools to do a lot of things in their growth. The rapid development of society is also affecting children. This has both positive and negative effects. Children are faced with many temptations and choices. They are at a loss and need the guidance, help and management of us adults.
High school is a critical period for children to grow physically, acquire knowledge and form various life-long views. Parents are busy with life and work, and pay more attention to their children's life and study, but they lack guidance and education on the formation of their children's psychology, habits and concepts, and have little time to communicate with their children, thus failing to deeply understand their inner world. A qualified middle school student should have a healthy body, a healthy mind and comprehensive knowledge. Therefore, we are eager for you to do the following things with us:
First, cultivate good habits.
A person's actions depend on habits, which affect his fate, and the ultimate difference in life lies in the habits he usually develops. If you know how to cultivate your good habits, you must know how to live, study and work.
Several habits necessary for successful people:
(1) The habit of positive choice: A positive attitude and a positive choice are very important to everyone. Everyone and everything has advantages and disadvantages, and we need to choose the right one and the excellent one. For example, do we choose to work hard, or do we choose to retreat, be lazy and have fun? Positive choices can help people build self-confidence, overcome inferiority, and overcome troubles and troubles.
(2) Independent living habits. The child will grow up sooner or later. Let them do something and think about something independently. Learning is their own business. Let them face their own success and failure, experience some setbacks in life, and don't rely too much on their parents.
(3) Have a strong sense of responsibility. Being a man should at least have "principles, responsibilities and obligations". Responsibility is a very important quality of a person. Responsibility is the foundation for children to become men and adults. Children should have certain moral standards and working standards from an early age. They shouldn't study for their children. Parents should do everything for their children, let them serve themselves, from simple to complex, from easy to difficult, and consciously let them do what they can. When you do things, you should form the habit of doing everything and doing nothing.
(4) the habit of perseverance. We should cultivate their perseverance and endurance, encourage them to face difficulties and setbacks, learn to be patient, learn to struggle, face difficulties, and never retreat or escape. Life is spent in rough struggles, and only by defying difficulties and overcoming failures can we succeed.
(5) the habit of self-confidence. Self-confidence means believing that you can do things well. Self-confidence and inferiority are often different. It is self-confidence to look at yourself with a positive attitude, and inferiority to look at yourself with a negative attitude. We should help and encourage children to start from small things, don't set too high a goal, build self-confidence from the success of one thing, and don't hit children easily. What children lack most is encouragement and praise.
(6) Know the habit of respect. Respect is self-esteem and respect for others. A person who is too selfish is a person who has no friends, no group and no life. Only those who have self-esteem and respect for others can realize their own value. It is silent training to cultivate children to respect others equally, exchange hearts for hearts, and learn to be kind to others. Parents should create a democratic environment at home.
(7) Keep the habit of honesty. Honesty should lead by example, be consistent in words and deeds, be honest with classmates, friends and teachers, and keep your word.
(8) the habit of benefiting others and benefiting themselves.
(9) the habit of being kind to others. It is to learn to care about others and let children know how to love their elders, classmates and friends.
Nine bad habits: (1) Being late often. (2) No sense of time. (3) distraction. (4) resistance. (5) Being nervous and forgetful when talking or doing things. (6) Call loudly and eat snacks. (7) all hands and feet. (8) inappropriate body language. (9) Scribble errors.
Second, understand children and set goals.
Hoping success is the greatest wish of our parents in China. The real success is to become an adult first. 80% of the important factors of adulthood depend on non-intellectual factors, such as habits, perseverance, attention, emotional management and mentality. And intellectual factors can only account for 20%. All kinds of intellectual and non-intellectual factors should mature and develop in high school, which will affect their life.
Therefore, we hope that parents can deeply understand the present situation of their non-intellectual factors: what are their advantages, such as strong self-esteem, strong self-confidence, wide interest in making friends and so on. What is in urgent need of improvement, such as laziness, procrastination, fear of hardship, inattention, unclear goals, graffiti, carelessness and poor results; Self-awareness is too strong, and self-interest is not conducive to others; Disrespect for teachers and classmates and so on. We also hope that parents will urge their children to correct their shortcomings in time.
This semester, the main training content is "habit, foundation and learning method", which strictly trains students' habits, lays a good foundation of knowledge and studies life scientifically. While helping children set lofty goals, they are required to concentrate, take notes, do their homework carefully and tidy up their study for a day. Write every word, do every problem well, understand every problem, live every day carefully, and be clear every day, every week and every month. We believe that if children want to succeed, they must fully understand their own status quo and pay attention to the formation of their basic knowledge, habits and behaviors. Please cooperate with us to train basic habits at home. Only good habits can make a brilliant life. After understanding their current situation, please put forward all kinds of normative behaviors and achievement goals that they can accomplish to help them succeed step by step and make great progress in three years.
Third, strengthen management, scientific education and active communication.
Education is love and management. Children are the pride of parents. It is your wish and the bounden duty of teachers to let children grow into talents. Children's progress can not be separated from society, family and school, and their learning is mainly the responsibility of teachers; Their communication, the content and time of surfing the internet, the content and time of reading extracurricular books and the content of leisure and entertainment all need the control and guidance of parents; Their inner activities, such as right and wrong, values, outlook on life, aesthetics, and treating others, all need teachers and parents to communicate with them, understand the situation through communication and give guidance.
This requires us to spend time, to have a correct concept, to have a sense of democracy and a harmonious family atmosphere. At the same time, if you have shortcomings and problems with children, you should also have scientific methods and attitudes. Don't worry and don't scold them easily. Which child grew up in one day? Which child has no shortcomings? We're not cops. We should ask, "How much time did we spend communicating with our children? How much time do you spend with your children? How long does it take to really help children solve their difficulties? What are they thinking now? What difficulties do they have? What should we do? " Communication is the best way of education. We suggest that parents should spend several hours with their children every week no matter how busy they are. Communicate with teachers more and actively find ways to help them overcome the current difficulties and grow up with their children.
Three years is very short, and three years in high school will affect a child's life. Parents, let's join hands, care for children with our greatest sincerity and best efforts, help them through the important transition period of life, and try our best to realize their dreams!