On children's education in present society. Set an example and keep your promise.
What parents say and do always affects their children. As parents, we must pay attention to our words and deeds in front of our children. Usually at home, when my children are studying, I never watch TV or surf the Internet. I usually read a book or newspaper and study with him. Usually, I also pay great attention to my commitment. I can't promise my children what I can't do. I promise something to my children, even if it is difficult. When you keep your promise, ask your child in turn, and the child will do the same. I said to my children that day: "Many children are afraid of hardship and give up learning Chinese calligraphy halfway. Will you? " The child said to me, "Don't worry, mom, since I promised you, I will stick to it." I was really touched by this.
Second, be brave enough to admit your mistakes in front of your children.
Parents are not always right. In the process of educating children, we will inevitably make mistakes. At this time, we should bravely admit our mistakes in front of our children. On one occasion, my children's exam results were not ideal, and they only got 88 points in mathematics. I was very angry after seeing it, and gave the child a good lecture, saying that he didn't study hard at ordinary times and did so badly in the exam. The child was wronged and scared at that time, curled up in the corner and cried alone. Later, I looked at his test paper and found that I forgot to do two questions because of carelessness. After communicating with the teacher, I also know that children are still working hard at school. I calmed myself down, walked up to my son, held him in my arms and said sincerely, "I'm sorry, my mother has a bad attitude." You used to do these problems carelessly. No matter what you do in the future, as long as you work hard and do it with your heart, my mother will not blame you. Be careful and learn to check. " My attitude calmed my frightened son. From then on, my son will take the initiative to take out the test paper and tell me which questions he knows and which ones he doesn't. In this way, I can keep abreast of my children's learning situation and give timely guidance and help.
Third, we should respect children and develop their personality.
To respect children, parents really have to give them the right to equal dialogue. Only through dialogue can we know what children are thinking and want, and parents can give targeted guidance. Dialogue is communication with children, and the starting point of communication is listening. Parents should stand in the child's position, have an open mind and an open mind, and patiently listen to the child's meaning and feelings, feelings and views on things. When the child can't explain clearly, guide and encourage him to explain clearly. Over time, children learn to express themselves and are willing to open their hearts and discuss things with their parents.
Only when parents respect their children can they develop their personality. Personality is a whole with multi-level psychological components and complex structure, which cannot be unilaterally understood as children's interests, hobbies and specialties. To develop children's personality is to tap, develop and publicize their potential as much as possible, enhance their thematic beliefs and independent personality, and realize their all-round development.
In family education, parents encourage their children to play as much as possible while asking them to study hard, so that children can communicate with their peers extensively, enhance their language communication ability, actively participate in various group activities and fully show themselves in the activities; Encourage children to actively exercise and enhance their physical fitness.
Tell children a story every day, or guide them to read more extracurricular books, so that children can understand right and wrong, diligence and laziness, justice and evil, honesty and lies, kindness and sympathy from stories and extracurricular books. Stories and extracurricular books are not only beneficial to children's moral cultivation, but also to children's language development and understanding ability. When children are older, encourage them to read books of interest and acquire knowledge by themselves.
Parents should always take their children out of the house, go hiking, climb mountains or go back to their hometown in the countryside. This is a unique family trip. If the children are older, they will travel by bike together. Let the children feel the natural scenery and experience the life in Shan Ye. Appreciate the affection of family members, create an atmosphere of equality and friendship, and relax.
In short, to treat children's education, we should have enough love and patience, learn to communicate with children in time, ask children to do things first, create various opportunities for children to experience life, and create a relaxed and happy environment for their growth.
On children's education in present society. First, family education should adhere to "health first".
Health is not only the absence of disease and pain, but also a completely good physical, mental and social state. In other words, a healthy person should have a strong physique and an optimistic mental state, and adhere to the harmonious relationship between the environment in social and natural.
When educating children, we must see whether it is helpful to their physical health, mental health and social adaptation. Many parents have to deal with their children's diet in order to let them attend professional classes. Compared with children's health, which is more important, professionalism or health? Some parents let their children exercise when they have a fever, instead of having a good rest. Whether children's health is more important than academic performance. When educating children, many parents will say "look at others". Xxx, why are you so stupid or say "You really insulted me"? These words are harmful to children's mental health. Children's health is very important. Or is it important for us to emancipate our feelings?
In addition, the social adaptability is also very good. In order to let children have more questions and learn more professional knowledge, many parents arrange a lot of time for their children, and the children have no time to play with their classmates. We must think calmly. Children's study is ultimately for life. If it becomes a learning machine, how can children talk about life? How to let children learn to communicate and learn good social adaptation? When arranging children's life and study, we must consider these issues in a unified way and adhere to health first.
Second, family education should be humanized.
It's terrible to treat children as adults, but many parents really don't treat children as human beings. When communicating with children, many parents show their parents' attitude. What do you want? You have a high attitude. Children are not only our wealth, but also an important part of our family. When dealing with family problems, we must study the children's mood and listen to their opinions.
I once saw a parent kick his child down when he was learning roller skating, because the quality of roller skates was poor and the child's own strength and learning speed were slow. Children are tools to save face for themselves or their parents. Do parents treat their children as human beings? There are children around us, too. Now we are students in Grade Three. Parents let their children practice learning every day and seldom let them play. Seeing this child now, they are not only poor in sports skills, short in stature and young in psychology. They can hardly communicate with children. I don't think this parent will treat his children as human beings. At the school gate, I also saw a scene of a mother kicking her child step by step. The child obviously has something to say, but the parents don't give the child a chance and kick the child into school. Parents think their children are babies or children, at least not alone.
As parents, we really work hard. Sometimes children don't listen to us, but we should try our best to restrain ourselves and reason with our children in an equal tone before getting angry. Children need respect as much as we do Because they are people. The child is herself. Please don't pin all parents' expectations on their children. He is very tired.
Third, family education should not be blindly followed up.
Many parents blindly choose to follow their children's career development. Xxx: I studied dance and participated in public performance on TV. Let's go dancing too. Xxxx learns the violin and takes the exam. Learn violin together. To put it simply, I seldom see others studying the bright side of children's mood.
Our child is one of the victims. The Li family has been learning piano since they were four and a half years old. Actually, I don't like her. I stubbornly believe that piano can help a girl's temperament, so I let her practice. The Li family likes painting very much. I didn't give her a chance to study. Because there is no time. I'm six and a half years old, and I didn't take a painting class until my children repeatedly asked me to. There is a child around me who likes painting very much, but my mother thinks dancing can improve the temperament and cultivation of children. She has always insisted that the children study.
This is what children don't like. It is difficult to make up for their psychological blow in the process of learning. When I was rehearsing dance in the children's class, I saw that the children who learned dance were not particularly outstanding. On the contrary, some movements are very uncoordinated. Should dancing be a compulsory course for girls? Of course, there are also boys' taekwondo. When we choose our children's career development, we must combine their own characteristics and interests. We can't blindly follow them. Only when you are interested can you continue to study and get better grades.
In addition, many parents read articles on family education, listened to classroom contributions, and listened to other guardians' parenting experience. They felt very good, so they immediately used these methods to do experiments for their children. These parents may forget that every child has his own characteristics. They put other people's methods on children and hurt them. Every child has his own habits. Educational methods should not be blindly followed. What we need to learn is not other people's operation methods, but the concept of family education and science.
Fourth, in family education, personal education is superior to language.
Every child is born without defects. Many children's shortcomings are mainly family education. I want to remind parents that when you blame your child, blame your child or complain, think about how you did it first. Some parents complain that their children are unsociable and introverted. Does it take time to socialize with children? Do the children have a favorite combination? Have you created opportunities for children to interact with others? Some parents complain that their children don't study hard. Deal with the problem seriously. Do you give serious guidance to your children when they study?
Some parents complain that their children swear. Always say that? Some parents complain that their children do not pay attention to hygiene. What do you always do? Let's calm down and think about it. Many problems are caused by parents, and many bad habits directly affect children's study and later life. So parents and friends really need to re-examine their own problems. Habits can't be formed in a day. We want our children to be excellent. We should be good parents first.
The child is very proud. Then, she asked me how I did it, and I said to the child, "No matter what you do, you will take it seriously and work hard." The child doesn't seem to understand whether he understands or not, but no matter what he does, he is now looking at his children and making serious progress.
We must be careful for the sake of our children. As parents, we must always pay attention to ourselves and set an example for our children. Because if you teach children a hundred words, you'd better do one thing.
On children's education in present society. For a long time, teachers' mental health has been neglected.
A report of UNESCO predicts: "From now until the middle of 2 1 century, no disaster can bring people lasting and profound pain like a psychological crisis." Einstein once said: "It is impossible to teach only one kind of knowledge and technology. Although specialized knowledge and technology make people a useful machine, they cannot give people a harmonious personality. "
According to the statistics of relevant psychological counseling institutions, the proportion of students who are psychologically unhealthy or have psychological barriers is on the rise, and the mental health status of students is worrying. The present situation of students' mental health can not be ignored, which gives us an early warning signal. As educators, we have the responsibility to shoulder this heavy burden. We can't just stay at the level of understanding and analyzing problems, but try to solve these problems, so that mental health education has practical significance. The questionnaire survey of relevant departments shows that most university leaders and teachers only pay attention to students' test scores and enrollment rate, but pay little or no attention to students' inner world and mental health, and school mental health education is in a state of desertification. In the teaching staff, some teachers themselves have psychological problems of different degrees, such as bad temper, capricious mood, lack of tolerance and forbearance. This bad individual psychological quality has a negative impact on students' mental health. This situation has not attracted enough attention from many educators, especially in the ideological understanding of many educational leaders. Lenin said: "The quality of school education and teaching ultimately depends on the quality of teachers." Because of this, the demonstration role of front-line teachers is of great significance in educational practice and should be highly valued. Educator Gary Ning once said: "Every day, a teacher is like squatting in a mirror, with countless pairs of delicate and critical children's eyes staring at you all the time." 1983, in its white paper "Teaching Quality", the British government once listed "appropriate personality quality" as the first of the three criteria for identifying qualified teachers. More and more domestic research results and educational practice also show that after teachers reach a certain level of ability, knowledge and educational ability, their own personality and psychological quality are important factors affecting students' growth (especially the formation of healthy psychology). In view of the problems existing in school mental health education, we should do everything possible to popularize mental health knowledge to all teachers in the front line of education, so that they can not only consciously infiltrate mental health education into teaching practice according to the laws of students' physical and mental development, so as to safeguard students' mental health and improve their psychological quality.
Second, it is the teacher's responsibility to cultivate students' self-confidence.
2 1 century is a century full of competition. Dare to take risks, dare to explore, be good at competition and be creative are the basic requirements for talent specifications in 2 1 century. All these qualities are closely related to good psychological quality. Among many psychological qualities, the cultivation of self-confidence is particularly important. Psychologists abroad have followed hundreds of teenagers with high intellectual development level, similar living environment and educational conditions. When these people entered the age of achievement, there were obvious differences, some became the best in their careers, while others achieved nothing. The research results show that individual psychological set plays an important role in the process of becoming a talent. People with stable self-affirmation tend to have a higher success rate than those with obvious self-denial. As a positive internal motivation, the level of self-confidence is corresponding to the success or failure of activities. As Vanderbilt said, "a confident person always has a smooth career, while a person without self-confidence may never step into the threshold of his career." It shows that self-confidence as an important condition for success has been accepted by people from all walks of life. Among the students, most of them have low self-evaluation and think that they can't do what they can, so they cringe and hesitate, which suppresses the exertion of their inner abilities. Excessive self-denial evaluation is usually called inferiority complex. Students with low self-esteem are timid, relying on teachers, parents and classmates everywhere, and their activities are inefficient. Teachers' negligence or misunderstanding in education can easily make students feel inferior.
So how should teachers cultivate students' confidence?
1. Make more positive comments on students. Students' judgment ability is weak, and teachers' psychological projection is the main source of students' self-evaluation. The famous Rosenthal effect shows that teachers have formed an expectation effect on students' emotions, smiles and positive comments. It can not only arouse students' enthusiasm for learning, but also let them learn to be independent, self-reliant, confident and self-reliant, and also show the original ecology of life. Why not?
2. Cherish students' success. When students do something by themselves or follow the teacher's instructions, the teacher's affirmation and encouragement can have a positive psychological effect. The proper compliment is the rain and dew that moistens self-confidence. This will make students confident in their communication. American educator Rhoda Baker mestel said, "If we want our students to be confident, we must trust them."
Teachers should give students more practical opportunities. Excessive protection and manipulation of students, distrust of their independent involvement in "difficult problems" in life, and manipulation by themselves are manifestations of underestimating students' strength and depriving them of practice, which not only hinders the formation of students' ability, but also makes them lose their independent attitude and confidence in life. Smart teachers never suppress students' thirst for knowledge and encourage them to study independently.
Third, there is no future without innovation.
Innovative education, also known as creative education, is an education that cultivates creativity. In recent years, it has become the focus and core of educational reform all over the world. Comrade Jiang Zemin pointed out: "Innovation is the soul of a nation's progress and an inexhaustible motive force for a country's prosperity." In today's era of knowledge economy, it has become an important task for educators to strengthen the cultivation of students' innovative consciousness and ability. In the eyes of many educators, "innovation" has nothing to do with management, but with teaching. This concept is wrong. On the one hand, it ignores the creativity of students; On the other hand, there are no effective means and methods to stimulate and cultivate students' creative potential. The differences between traditional education and innovative education in social needs and the understanding of the educated. Traditional education aims to emphasize the unity of action and make students' school life stay at the level of observing discipline. Students' thoughts and actions run on the track determined by educators from beginning to end, and the uniformity of actions is the only standard of management. Education emphasizes "following orders", and students are always on standby, just like soldiers on the training ground. The quality of students depends entirely on whether they are obedient and the speed and accuracy of "executing orders", which makes controlling students the main task of management. And our society doesn't want talents to be carved in the same mold. As a teacher, the important task is to help students develop their creative potential, cultivate their pioneering and innovative spirit and promote students' self-development.
As educators, we should have the following consciousness: First, actively create an innovative atmosphere. Innovative education is not competitive education, but cooperative education, which is a democratic education with students as the main body and teacher-student cooperation as the basis to continuously optimize the educational environment. This requires teachers to have an equal and democratic style, treat students with an equal, tolerant, friendly and guiding attitude, and let students express themselves freely and stretch their bodies and minds. Cultivate students' confidence in their innovative ability and courage to achieve innovative results, actively encourage students to explore, choose new ways and methods to deal with problems, and be good at stimulating students' desire and need for continuous innovation. The second is to encourage students to question management, activate students' enthusiasm and internal potential for life, and encourage students to think in other's shoes. Teachers should provide them with creative space to give full play to their management talents, and exercise and cultivate students' ability to seek differences; Encourage students to dare to break the "convention", dare to mark "new" and "different", and dare to solve their own problems in an unprecedented way. Only in this way can students' innovative ability be tempered and their innovative consciousness be sublimated.
Fourth, love is the cornerstone of a harmonious society.
For students, the teacher's love is a magical and great power, and it is another kind of great love besides maternal love in the world. This kind of love is selfless. But teacher's love is different from maternal love, because teacher's love is the blend of reason and soul, and it is a bridge to communicate the hearts of teachers and students. Only when teachers give students sincere love, closeness, trust and expectation can students have attachment and admiration for teachers, open their inner world to teachers and take the initiative to move in the direction pointed out by teachers. Therefore, teachers must use their love to influence students, so as to achieve emotional effect and better moral education effect.
At the same time, to educate students well, we must show love to others. Every student is an independent individual. They have different living environment, growth experience, personality characteristics, inner world, demand for love and ways of receiving love. If you give the same praise to one thing, students with strong self-esteem and stubbornness may take effect on "eating soft rice instead of hard rice"; Naughty students who are used to being afraid of clothes may not be useful for "eating hard but not soft"; For biased and wary students, it is even regarded as irony, but it causes greater disgust or resistance. This will inevitably lead to the embarrassing situation that teachers love and students are ungrateful. So there is a very interesting educational phenomenon. Some teachers are gentle, but they can make naughty students obey. Some teachers criticize students and can convince them; Some teachers criticize students but trigger students' rebellious psychology.
In addition, it is easier for teachers to love excellent students than poor students, so please remember that Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, once said a famous saying to teachers: "You have Watt under your pointer, Newton in your cold eyes, and Edison in your ridicule." This sentence tells us that with the growth of age, the change of environment and the improvement of the working methods of class teachers, they will also develop and change. Even if you don't become Watt, Newton or Edison, you should be shaped into a person who is beneficial to society. If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn; If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident; If a child lives with irony, he learns to be shy; If a child lives with recognition, he learns to love himself. There is no student who can't. The question is what angle the teacher stands in and what language to express it in. Believe in loving your students with affection, love, wisdom and sincerity.