When a child asks such questions when he is young, you should tell him frankly, or take a picture book to tell him what is going on. But more importantly, don't think like an adult: will children try it as soon as they know? You shouldn't treat children with the worries of adults. The most important thing is to make children feel that sex is beautiful.
A mother said: when our little girl was four or five years old, she began to pay attention to where she came from and began to ask such questions. At first, I told her about her childhood every night, starting with what she was like when she was born and how she could crawl and talk for months.
Slowly, I found that I couldn't seem to get around that problem. Because she started asking, "How did I get out? How did I start so slowly? " At this time, I also began to think, then read some books, and then had an idea.
I found beautiful pictures in all aspects, and then I edited them myself and deleted the text a little, which was simpler and bigger. I told her about it that night, and she was very excited after reading it. She watched it several times, then watched it again every once in a while, and watched it again every once in a while. In this way, after a period of time, she can accept it normally.
Then I bought a book about the human body, called Human Organs, which is very detailed. After she read it, I think she seems to know this problem very well now, and she feels normal. She knew the difference between boys and girls and learned to protect herself.
This mother is an expert in sex education. At least she gets along well with her daughter. Look at her daughter. She is a little girl in grade one now. The little girl in Grade One feels completely different from the children in Grade One at this time. She has no sexual impulse at this time, so telling her about genitals at this time is similar to telling her about cups.
Therefore, I think one of the shortcomings of sex education in China is that it is too late. It was not until the second day of junior high school that the children were well developed that they began to popularize sexual physiology knowledge. In today's family education, sex education may be the most difficult.
The latest research shows that the sexual development of children in China is obviously ahead of schedule: girls have sexual development at an average age of 9.2 years, 12.54 years; The average age of boys is 1 1 year, and nocturnal emission occurs at 13.85 years. Therefore, our sex education should be a lifelong process, with different tasks to be completed at different stages, especially to seize favorable opportunities.
Look at this mother's four or five-year-old child. She can't have any violent sexual impulses or dangerous attempts. She will have children's understanding, so I think this mother's education is very successful. At this time, the child knows what happened, so he will not be so curious in the future, and he will face it calmly and know how to take care of himself.
To put it more profoundly, this is an education of life. Children feel that every life is precious and difficult. It is easier for a child to understand if she is close to her parents.
Therefore, we can consider sex education from the perspectives of children's rights and the preciousness of life. Children have the right to know these problems and the responsibility to protect and cherish their own lives. Sex is part of growing up. I think, if we adhere to this concept, children's education will be successful.