In family education, children's knowledge learning is emphasized, but there is no concern for life and spirit. This makes family education a purely technical behavior, focusing only on learning knowledge and cultivating children into tools rather than people. Children have changed from a person to a tool, and most of the problems in family education began to appear at that time. Education is a belief-based behavior, and the main mission of family education is to promote children's moral cultivation and spiritual growth. The problem of family education is the schooling of family education: intellectual education centralism.
In essence, it reflects their talent view. What is the value orientation of family education? A project survey found that most parents don't know what the primary task of family education is. They spend most of their time and energy on children's learning culture and intellectual development, while ignoring the cultivation of children's most essential things, that is, the shaping of personality, the cultivation of personality and the training of thinking methods. As Rousseau pointed out, there is only one discipline that must be taught to children: this discipline is the bounden duty of a person.
Therefore, what is the primary task of family education remains to be discussed. To let parents know that they are the main body of family education, the first thing to teach their children is the way to be a man. Especially now, most of the students we face are only children, and some of them have the shortcomings of learning difficulties, emotional instability, loneliness and timidity, fear of setbacks, lack of perseverance, and then laziness, cowardice and selfishness. Therefore, school education should make full use of psychological theories and methods, strengthen mental health education, promote students' subjective development, and improve students' moral level and personality charm.