1, don't cry "You are a boy, you can't cry, crying is a girl's business", and we often hear many parents say this in life. This is not only a wrong view and sexism, but also an unhealthy way of education. In fact, crying is a healthy way to vent emotions.
Be like your father when you grow up. In China, most parents will let their sons follow their father's example. We often hear parents educate their children like this. Parents should actively guide and encourage their children to choose the role model they want to learn.
3. Don't be a girl. We should not make decisions for our children. We should let them choose what they want to do according to their hobbies.
4, must be strong, the word "strong" seems to be more used in boys. Most parents in China tell their children to be strong when they are very young, which is not a bad thing, but it is not a good thing to overemphasize them.
5. The more, the better. We now live in a highly developed world. Although money is becoming more and more important in our world, many people hold such a wrong idea about men: to see his value depends on how much wealth he has. If parents instill such a wrong idea in their children, they will pay too much attention to all the money and ignore other factors. In fact, compared with money, quality and personality can better reflect personal value. It is very important for parents to educate their sons to stand on their own feet and serve the society. Of course, it is also important to help them see things other than money and material things.
We must find a beautiful girl. There is a popular saying in this society that "this is an era of looking at faces", and beauty is a kind of capital. In fact, this is a wrong understanding. Boys may not want to find a girl with a beautiful face. Compared with the beauty of the face, the beauty of the soul is more worthy of consideration, such as kindness and diligence. Parents should actively guide their children to discover factors that can make them appreciate, and let their sons choose people who attract them.
7. All girls want to find a rich husband. "Money is not everything, but you can't do anything without money." Money is really important to us, because it can guarantee our most basic life. Money worshippers do exist in our society, but not all girls want to find a rich husband. Money is only one aspect of measuring a person's ability, and it can't represent all of a person. In fact, many girls will pay more attention to Wan's character when choosing a spouse. Therefore, parents should not lose this wrong idea to their children.
8. Boys will always be boys. Boys are not always boys. In fact, boys will also become men. Boys can also choose what they like, or they can have some "good things that girls can have". If parents tell their children that you will always be a boy, you should not love kicking shuttlecock when you were young, and don't wear fancy clothes or get your ears pierced when you grow up, which will be very bad for your children's hair. In this society, the boundaries between boys and girls are not so clear. Parents should keep up with the development of the times and look at their children's changes with more appreciation. Parents should not build buildings for their children, but should encourage them to be themselves.
9. You don't have to express your feelings. In China, most fathers are not good at expressing their feelings, which has a subtle influence on boys. Parents generally agree that boys don't have to confess, they just need to do things silently. Actually, this is a wrong view.
1, you must know how to fight back. When children are bullied, parents will educate them to learn to fight back. If someone hits you, you will fight back. This is actually a wrong practice, which will make children tend to be violent.