? Mom would rather eat you? There was an animated film last year. What was it about? Treat children like life? The story of my mother. One day, a mother found that her wrapped buns were alive, so she lost her enthusiasm for life and became energetic again, taking care of them like a son. The mother takes good care of the baby, and almost all her efforts are dedicated.
But gradually, the baby grew up and began to have his own privacy and social circle. His mother was very sad, but there was nothing she could do. But one day, the baby brought back a blonde and wanted to go with her. The mother almost collapsed, but failed to save the child. Finally, my mother stuffed the steamed stuffed bun into her mouth and ate it in a rage.
From then on, the mother began to blame herself, feel guilty and angry until one day, her son came back. At first, the mother didn't want to talk to her son, but finally the mother and son got back together. At the end of the story, we found out that the baby is actually a son and the beauty is his girlfriend.
Great love has changed shape. For some parents, it may be a sign of love, but not for children. What kind of influence will this deformed love bring to children?
First, children are overprotected and lose the ability to face setbacks.
These parents always regard their children as the key protection objects. No matter what setbacks and hardships they encounter, they are unwilling to let their children bear it, and try their best to isolate their children in the protection circle they have built. This seemingly love for children is actually more like harm to children.
Growing up in such an environment, children will lose the courage and ability to face setbacks. Small setbacks in the eyes of peers are insurmountable canyons for them.
Second, children are paid too much attention and lose privacy and space.
Parents always like to know everything about their children in the name of love. In order to prevent children from growing beyond their expectations, they will try their best? Espionage. A child's life. In such an environment, children lose their private space and have no privacy at all.
Third, the requirements are too strict and the children are under too much pressure.
We all say that adults are the most tired, but so are children? These parents who have devoted their lives to their children have unimaginable expectations for their children. Under this huge expectation, children can only bear great pressure and have to do their best to repay their parents' expectations.
Fourth, the depressed living environment makes children want to escape.
Family should be warm, but under the pressure of these parents, the word family is terrible for children. The infinite pressure that children have to face day and night, and the high hopes of parents that are repeated every day will make children breathless. Finally, the idea that children want to escape is getting stronger and stronger, which even leads to tragedy.
Even parents should not give their whole lives to their children. It's actually a kind of? Self-touched? Sacrifice may not be appreciated by children. And parents' efforts should not be to touch themselves. So, what should parents do so as not to lose themselves?
1, don't give up learning.
Even as a parent, don't give up studying. Knowledge is infinite. In the process of learning, parents can also realize their own shortcomings, reflect on their own problems, and find a better way of education.
2. Have your own hobbies.
How to keep an optimistic attitude is to have your own hobbies and work hard for them. It is not only a way of learning, but also a way to find self-confidence and become more cheerful by paying attention to children's interests. Parents' emotional changes will directly affect the family atmosphere.
3. Keep your social circle.
Many parents regard their children as life-long expectations because they are still somewhat lonely after all. Parents need their own social circle, don't take children as the center, all excessive love will become a sharp knife that hurts people.
Parents should grasp their love for their children? Degree? However, parents must be responsible for their children. But when we treat children, we also need to pay attention to several points.
First, give children independent space.
Everyone is an independent individual, and so are children. Since you are an independent person, you need your own independent space. Parents don't need to control everything in their own hands. Giving children some private space appropriately is more conducive to their independent thinking and family harmony.
Second, give children the opportunity to experience.
Many parents always want to do everything for their children, which is very unfavorable to their growth. Parents should give their children proper opportunities to face difficulties alone. Only after experience can I know how heavy I am, which is conducive to my future growth and more opportunities for progress.
Third, don't treat children as your own accessories.
Children have their own independent personality, things they like and dreams. Parents can't treat their children as their own accessories and impose their expectations on them, which is unfair and unhappy to them.
Fourth, when children are in love and marriage, parents should keep a normal heart.
Many parents attach so much importance to their children that they can't adjust their mentality whether they are in love or married. In fact, this is completely unnecessary, because for children, parents are actually just a passer-by in their lives, and they still have to go on for the rest of their lives.
Parents send their children to that intersection, but they still have to go back to their own way. Many parents in our country are just too self-righteous. It is natural to instill their own ideas into their children and ask them to grow up according to their own expectations. But it is obviously disappointing to raise children with such an idea. In fact, this idea of parents is completely unnecessary. To tell the truth, children are just a small fork in the road of parents' life.
Parents still need to return to their own life path after accompanying their children for a period of time and sending them on their own path. Instead of spending all your time cutting through thorns for your children, you should enjoy the scenery around you. After all, no one can guarantee that the road you have worked so hard to separate is the road your child wants to take.