In a family, most mothers do their best, while most fathers play TV and mobile phones. For children, they are almost thrown to their mothers for education, and occasionally they will be impatient and lose their temper with their children! My family also has a "father" like everyone else. At home, educating children is my business. As for him, he watches TV, plays mobile phone and occasionally plays with his son after work every day. Because the child is hard-won, the father almost dotes on his son, and the child is whatever he says! I, with strong principles, always actively guide children to do what they can and can't do. So at home, my son always turns a deaf ear to what my father said. Sometimes, what I said is just like "imperial edict". Being strict with my mother and loving my father has become a true portrayal of our family! Dad never hits children, but occasionally he makes a hullabaloo about. I remember one night when my child was two years old, because he was greedy and even cried and refused to eat, his family tried their best, but to no avail. Finally, my father left a sentence impatiently: "If you cry again, I will leave you alone." The child looked at his father and cried. I strongly disapprove of his behavior, but it is not good to contradict him in front of the children. I can only comfort his crying son: "You have your own emotions." Dad looked at his crying son and said, "Don't worry, he will make his slightly better son stamp his feet and cry. Finally, dad put the child directly in the dark bedroom, and I quickly ran over and took the child out. The helpless and scared eyes of the child make people feel distressed and worried, fearing that it will cast a shadow over his young mind! Afterwards, I had a long talk with my father and told him that educating children is not a one-off event. We should actively and patiently guide them, don't shout loudly, listen to their voices, don't blindly follow the wishes of adults, and don't have direct or indirect corporal punishment. That will only make children timid and even rebellious, which is counterproductive! From then on, whenever a child is naughty and his father can't control his emotions, I will remind him, and his father will restrain his anger and guide him patiently and calmly!
Indeed, dad's scolding education is far more harmful to children than mom's. Mother's nagging and reprimanding are mainly aimed at children's life and study habits, and they are accidentally "nagging" and become schoolmasters. The father's roar is mainly aimed at whether the child obeys himself and adults. A child is always faced with his father's cynicism, ridicule and scolding, and even beating and cursing, so he only gets hurt, which will not only make the child feel scared and fearful, but also cause alienation and distance from his parents, which will lead to lifelong problems such as introversion, timidity, impaired memory, inability to concentrate, and even personality defects. In adolescence, children are more likely to rebel. Some people spend their whole lives healing their childhood, while others spend their whole lives being cured by childhood. I promise not to be violent, you promise not to resist!
So, dads, please remember that what matters to children is not how much material things you give them, but the care and love you pour into them. A caring attitude can not only save you a considerable sum of money, but even make you feel gratified, because you spend less money and pay more care than gifts.