For example, some mothers say that children are really "impatient" and it is not enough to buy a toy online. They have to look at their mobile phones more than ten times a day, and they are still talking about why the courier uncle hasn't sent it to me yet; Going to the supermarket to queue up to buy things, the children kept asking, why hasn't it been our turn yet? I have been waiting for several days. When waiting for the bus, I waited for a while and began to complain loudly. Where did the bus go? Why didn't it come? Make a cake at home and keep asking, is mom ready? Mom, are you ready? ......
When some mothers meet such children, everything is slow and there is no hurry. It is good enough to urge children to take a bath from 8 o'clock every night and start washing at 9: 30; Pack up the toys, which can't be finished in 3 hours; You don't get up in the morning, and you get up very slowly; How long did it take to finish? It always takes a long time. ......
Although it is said that when the child is young, this situation is not a big problem, and it is too impatient. If parents help them control the time, it will pass. It's too long, and it's almost enough for mom and dad to rush. But it's different when you grow up! Once such a habit is formed, it is really "endless trouble"!
In fact, these performances of children can be attributed to "no concept of time".
The concept of time is also very important for children.
On the one hand, children who lack the concept of time can lead to procrastination.
Without the concept of time, when you do something, you will subconsciously delay, which is human nature. Over time, children will develop procrastination. Even if they understand the time in the future, they will still delay doing things.
This is very bad for children. Once procrastination is developed, it is difficult to change.
On the other hand, children who lack the concept of time will form the habit of being late.
Without the concept of time, children can easily form the habit of being late. Whether at school or at work, this is a very bad habit. A person who is often late will greatly affect their social interaction and even their future.
Where has all the time gone? Children really have no concept of time. Although many children can recite poems such as "an inch of time and an inch of gold, an inch of gold can't buy an inch of time" when they were young, it is really difficult for them to really have the concept of time and know the length of different time representatives.
Children's understanding of time has just begun at the age of 3.
The event itself is a very abstract concept, which is difficult to explain clearly to anyone, especially the concepts of time, moment and time period. It is even more difficult for children to understand time.
Research on children's psychological development shows that children before the age of 3 have no concept of time. Even if they say I only play 10 minutes, I only watch 1 minute. In fact, they don't understand how long 10 minutes and 1 minute are. For children, all understanding of time depends on the "biological clock" inside the body, that is, their own physiological changes to indirectly understand events.
For example, when children say that they play 10 minutes, they may feel tired and don't want to continue playing. In their cognitive world, by this time, 10 minutes have passed. For example, children say that they only watched 1 minute cartoons. Although it has been a long time, there is no standard measure in children's mind, so when they are uncomfortable sitting or don't want to watch any more, they can only feel that 1 minute has passed.
And the correct understanding of time, from about 3 years old began to gradually form.
Generally speaking, for children aged 3-4, you can already know the difference between day and night; Children aged 4-5 begin to understand the complex concepts of yesterday, today and tomorrow. Although they sometimes make mistakes, they can already understand these concepts from the perspective of understanding; At the age of 5-6, children can roughly understand some simple concepts of time, such as having 24 hours a day, going to kindergarten at 8 am, going to bed at 9 pm and so on. By the age of eight, children have a sense of time, and there will be no more cases where 10 minute is actually half an hour.
Wait a minute. Wait a minute. How long has it been? This baby only lives in the present.
Similarly, the words "later" and "later" that we adults often say represent time, and children can't understand them at all. In their minds, as long as they are hungry, they need to be able to drink milk immediately, even if mom and dad say, you wait a while, I still need to rinse the milk and add milk powder, stir it evenly, and let it cool before I can give it to you! But children don't think about these things at all. In their minds, they feel that milk should appear in front of them as long as they want it.
Therefore, although mom and dad said, wait a minute, just for a while, there will be no corresponding reaction in the child's mind. They will still stick to their own ideas and act according to their own understanding.
In addition, for children, the brain is immature and the ability to control their own behavior is poor. Therefore, waiting is a big challenge for children. They can't wait and don't want to wait.
Time goes by like water?
Children have no idea about the passage of time.
For adults, on some occasions, it is really "every minute counts" or "every minute counts like a year". But for children, this concept is completely absent. /kloc-What will you leave in 0/0 minutes? For them, there is no concept at all. Even in the hearts of many children, time is like a bowl at home. It is something that will definitely appear in front of you as long as you need it. In this case, there is no need to cherish it.
Therefore, children will be very calm when their parents urge them, and this kind of performance, in the eyes of parents, is procrastination.
Therefore, children have no concept of time, especially children before the age of 3, and know nothing about time management. If mom and dad take the time to ask them, they can only get twice the result with half the effort.
How to cultivate children's concept of time accurately, including the sequence of time and the distance of time. To cultivate children's good concept of time, we must first help children understand what time is.
The order of time is actually very easy to understand, that is, the order in which some things develop and some scenes appear. Children actually understand the order of time more easily.
Say more time nouns to deepen your child's impression.