Researchers have summarized 10 common forms of doting in many years' family education investigation and research, and introduced them to you for comparison between young parents and grandparents, so as to prevent and correct doting in a targeted manner.
The first form of doting is to give children special treatment.
Children are superior at home and take special care of them everywhere. All the delicious food is his own. Grandparents can not celebrate birthdays, but children's birthdays are big; Also, I often buy new toys and clothes for my children. Such children feel special and accustomed to being superior, and will inevitably become selfish, unsympathetic and uncaring for others.
Children should be regarded as ordinary members of the family. Everything in the family is shared by everyone. Even if there is only one apple, don't let him eat it alone. It's best for everyone to share. Usually, children should be educated to take care of the elderly and patients, and encouraged to "help others" and "love others for pleasure".
The second form of doting is to pay too much attention to children.
Family always looks at him, takes care of him, accompanies him and talks about him. During the Spring Festival, relatives and friends came, and they often talked and laughed. Everyone in the family has to revolve around him. Such a child thinks he is the center. He must become very delicate, conceited, rude and disobedient. He can't be quiet all day, and "people are crazy" is particularly serious. Even if the guest comes, he won't speak.
Parents should not care too much about their children, sometimes they can only take care of him secretly and pay attention to him. When guests come, don't be too enthusiastic about children, and don't take children as the central topic. Before the guests come, parents should educate their children. Guests must be polite, don't make noise and concentrate on their own affairs.
The third form of doting is to easily meet children's material requirements.
Many parents think that no matter how poor they are, they will buy their children anything they want. In particular, some busy parents are always used to expressing or making up their love with material things. This will make children develop a bad character of not cherishing things, paying attention to material enjoyment, not caring about others, lacking the pursuit of ideals, being impatient and suffering.
Never meet the material requirements that children should not meet; What is satisfied is generally not satisfied immediately, so let the children wait and endure. Tell children that the pursuit of life, even a small goal, will not be smooth sailing. In an active life, there are too many things to wait, to endure, to overcome difficulties and to fight for.
The fourth form of doting is laziness in life.
Parents let their children eat, drink, and have fun irregularly, play and study irregularly, do whatever they want, and sleep lazily.