As a baby, he needs more care from his parents. During primary school, learning became his main task; When entering junior high school and senior high school, parents should ensure the rear and spend adolescence smoothly.
Children have different needs at different ages, so parents should give their children the right upbringing and help them grow better.
Professor Li Meijin pointed out that before 18 years old, children have four stages of growth, so parents must pay attention to them. If they catch them, their children will benefit for life!
Children aged 0-3 have the strongest emotional needs. If there is emotional deficiency during this period, it may cause a gap between parents and children.
But it is during this period that many children's emotional support is lacking!
For work reasons, many parents send their children to the elderly for raising as soon as they are born, or the elderly play the role of the main caregiver. There seems to be no problem on the surface, but when the child is taken back, parents find that the child is no longer close to themselves!
Children lack the love of their parents since childhood, and they have both emotional yearning and inexplicable hatred for their parents. They think that their parents don't love themselves, and some of these estrangements will last for a lifetime.
At the same time, when raising children, the elderly will also have some personality problems, or arrogant and extreme, or withdrawn and inferior. When they reach puberty, these personalities will exert great destructive power in their formation.
Children raised by their parents are full of security, and their personality and emotions are relatively stable.
Therefore, for children at this stage, parents must raise their children by themselves, give positive responses to negative emotions such as children's crying, help children establish a good sense of security, and lay the foundation for stable emotions and personality in the future.
"Character determines fate", and a person's character will determine the direction of his future life.
Teacher Li Meijin pointed out that children's character education is more important than ability education. Personality is an acquired social behavior, which is related to the way you treat people.
She pointed out that 3-6 years old is the golden age of children's character cultivation, and parents should cultivate their children's character from five aspects.
Bacon said, "Habit is really a tenacious and huge force that can dominate a person's life. Therefore, people should cultivate a good habit through education from an early age. "
Li Meijin pointed out that the age of 6- 12 is the key period and the golden stage of habit formation. Once a habit is formed, it will be very stable, and its formation will have a lasting impact on people.
At the age of 6, the child has entered the first important stage of life, and his identity has changed and he has become a primary school student. Habits formed in primary school, such as listening habits, learning strategies, thinking habits, etc. There won't be much change in junior high school and senior high school, even in lifelong learning, accompanied by all stages of learning.
20 19 the mother of Yang Chenxi, the champion of Guangxi college entrance examination, said frankly when sharing her parenting experience: "We have never used any special methods to educate our children, nor have we sent our children to remedial classes too much. In my opinion, the greatest help to Yang Chenxi should be to let the child develop good habits from an early age and let him learn self-discipline. "
If children want to have good habits, parents should first form good habits and set a good example for their children.
Teacher Li Meijin once said, "When a child is over twelve years old, his parents' words are rubbish. "
12 years old, children begin to enter the second critical period of life-adolescence.
When a child reaches puberty, he becomes a completely different person. Their self-awareness is getting stronger and stronger. They are eager to be adults and make their own decisions, so they begin to rebel against their parents' discipline, seek privacy and avoid their parents.
Teacher Li Meijin believes that parents should respect and educate their children when they enter adolescence!
First of all, let yourself learn to stand in the position of children and unite with them, so that children can accept their parents and their future education will be easier.
Giving a child some choices and decisions in life can give him many choices, but don't make decisions for him. Parents just need to control the bottom line and boundaries.
Pay great attention to children's personal privacy, put away their curiosity and don't pry into their world.
Leave a blank space for children to think, rest and relax freely, instead of pressing hard.
Teacher Li Meijin pointed out that among the four stages of children, the first two stages are the most important, and the first two stages are also the most invested.
Because the cultivation of character and the protection of emotion are laying the foundation for children, only when the foundation is laid can you build a magnificent building more smoothly.
Teacher Li Meijin clearly pointed out the key points of raising children at different stages, which I think is very reasonable. As parents, we should refer to these four steps to make suggestions, grasp the key to children's growth and help them become better!