Some people compare children with family problems with survivors in concentration camps and find that they have similar mental and psychological problems. Like prisoners, they are beaten, scolded and asked to do things. Parents give their children a beating if they are slightly dissatisfied. This is a daily process. It means that they have to bear this kind of fear, helplessness, despair and lack of emotional care every day, which leads them to distrust anyone and look at the world coldly. The distortion in their hearts tormented them. They don't destroy the world, they don't kill people in series, which means they are hurting themselves. This result is really the same as that of a concentration camp. Parents: I bear the burden of humiliation to train you to study. If it weren't for you, I would have divorced. What's the use of these words? Is it to motivate children to study hard? That's wrong, the spiritual world is distorted, because children are straight and don't care about your personality at all. They only care about what you say. Children will not consider why you say these words, but will only be directly affected by these words. They will only think that they are dragging their families down. Invisible pressure makes them think they are living for their parents. Living by yourself is worthless, and life is meaningless. China's parents, I think the biggest problem is not beating and cursing. The biggest problem is three words, which I don't agree with. Parents deeply disagree with their children's views, which has brought them a deep sense of frustration since childhood. This kind of frustration will turn into a deep sense of inferiority, which will make children always blame themselves when they encounter something they can't do well, and think that they can't do anything well.

What kind of family education is successful?

First, family harmony and stable marriage. This is the most fundamental and basic family education.

Second, parents are stable and complement each other at worst. Because a stable personality is one of the basic guarantees of family education. The most taboo of family education is unstable personality and bad temper.

Third, parents themselves love reading and learning, and have a strong reading and learning family atmosphere. The so-called education is nothing but edification, bit by bit.

Fourth, parents can have a good habit of sticking to 10 for more than 0 years. Our family has been reading with our children every night since 1 0 and a half years old. It has been nearly 10 years without interruption. Desalinate good parent-child relationship. Excellent parent-child relationship is a powerful guarantee for family education. Any educational problem stems from the failure of parent-child relationship.

Fifth, parents are excellent in self-education. No matter the unit, society and family, it has a high reputation and has a certain contribution to society. For example, as parents, we insist on public welfare all the year round. This is education, silence is better than sound.

Sixth, learning attitude is more important than academic performance. Personality education and cultivation are more important than academic performance. Simple happiness is the standard of loving reading and learning. At least I personally think that 60 points in academic performance is long live. The best homework is reading a lot.

Seventh, no matter family or school, including society, they are unconditionally and firmly on the side of children. Parents are strong in their own hearts, and the first thing they pass on to their children is self-protection and love for life.

Eighth, the subjects that children are most interested in are strictly required to study hard. Only concentration can lead to success and Excellence.

Ninth, we should form the habit of sticking to a sport. For example, the eldest daughter concentrates on practicing Taekwondo and keeps running every day. A healthy body is not only healthy, but also cheerful and tenacious. Of course, we must achieve sports.

Tenth, adhere to the principles of equality, freedom and democracy. To be children's intimate friends and partners, be good at listening and encouraging, and parents should have the most basic knowledge of psychology, pedagogy and sociology, be able to correct mistakes, sincerely apologize to children or really learn from them. Think and solve problems from the perspective of children. It's really for the children.