Not if you don't fight? It is an old saying, which contains the ancient people's summary of educational methods, but any educational method should be combined with the characteristics of the times and specific conditions. ? Children can't be destroyed? This sentence comes from Bai Wei's Song of Reclamation. At that time, under the general cognition of parents, scientific educational means could not be effectively spread, and that was the only way? Cost performance? The tall and straightforward education method, at a time when the children's thinking was relatively simple, was taught by friends around them. So, what's the big environment? Not if you don't fight? This theory is favored.

Things are different now. In today's society, children's cognition far exceeds that of any historical period in China. Accordingly, parents' educational methods also need to be flexible and changeable in line with the times. ? Beat and scold? It can only be used as a means of education, not all. Whether to use the means of beating and cursing depends on the situation, and the degree of beating and cursing should be measured.

For example, in the first grade, children do homework, haggle over every ounce, watch TV and play mobile phones, and are completely inattentive. Parents use various pre-prepared educational theories and life maxims to persuade, but to no avail. At this time, parents can't stand it, they can only beat and scold. Because the first-grade children don't understand these truths, they can only use force to regulate their behavior. Parents tried education, but they didn't do it at first. For children, they can feel their parents' intentions, not just want to beat themselves. Gradually, children will know how to listen to their parents' sermons before they start. From this perspective, beating and cursing is a means for children to face up to the original preaching.

Another example: a child in high school is lazy in learning. Can parents still beat and scold? Obviously not, children have persisted in the high school stage, and the knowledge they learn is not lower than that of their parents. Unless parents can give a convincing reason, children basically choose to ignore it, and beating and cursing will only encourage their rebellious psychology. At this time, it is even more necessary to provide counseling to understand the children's difficulties and explore the reasons why children are tired of learning.

Of course, in addition to learning, there are many aspects of children's growth education that need the guidance of parents. Beating and cursing is only one of the means, not completely undesirable, and must be timely and moderate.