"Knowing a child like a mother", parents should observe and know more about their children in peacetime to see what they are interested in and what they are good at.
For example, my son's ability and performance in music and language are obviously better than those in sports and painting. If I intend to make great efforts to cultivate him, music and language will definitely take precedence over sports and painting.
2. Target Positioning To know your children, you must know yourself-what are your expectations, development and planning for your children (don't say that planning is so young, isn't it a little early). Wang Jinzhan wrote about the example and role of parents in planning for their children in The Cai Ying Family in China. Of course, planning is like planning, and planning is not static. If, like Lang Lang's father, it is clear that he should be trained as a pianist from an early age, then he should invest more: money, time, feelings and everything. Friendly reminder: you may not succeed. If you don't plan to take the professional route, you can take a more relaxed attitude towards enrolling in classes: of course, you should be eager to learn, but not so utilitarian. Parents and children can treat learning in a more relaxed state and learn to appreciate learning.
3, the distance is as close as possible, if not, the traffic is as convenient as possible, and the bus and subway stop directly. Just like going to work, being close to home is a blessing. You know, some classes take a semester, that is, four months, or more than a few years. If it's a long way, it's really boring to run. Therefore, the most taboo to report to class is to go with the flow. When I went to the agency to inquire about the audition, I was fooled and reported it.
The advantages of proximity are: a, saving time. After seeing the children off, parents can go home to rest and do housework. If it is a long way, parents can only stroll around and wait after seeing their children off, which is a waste of time and tiredness. B, easy to insist. Being close to home, even if the weather is bad, windy and rainy, and it snows heavily in winter, it is not easy to be timid. It takes a few minutes to walk, so I will bite the bullet and walk. The road is long, and all kinds of situations, bad weather, busy work, tired parents and getting up late have become excuses. It's no big deal to pay for nothing. The key is that the child has not even developed the habit of persistence, and this account will be a big loss! C, easy to take. This is that if the road is near, anyone can pick up the children, but if the road is far, parents can only pick them up, and the elderly will be disappointed. D, not tired. Not only adults, but also children. After a morning's class, I still have to go home by car. Even if I drive by myself, I am still very tired. It's better than walking home in a few minutes, or playing freely, or lying in bed.
For me, my son's early education and painting are all within 200 meters of my home. Even when my son was young (two and a half years old) or when the weather was bad, he never missed class, which left a deep impression on the child from an early age-1. He can't go to class as he pleases, and he can't go if he wants to. 2, the choice must be adhered to in order to have a harvest. And these are actually more beneficial to life than what knowledge and skills you have learned in a short time.
Look at the children who study with us. They often miss classes for various reasons, such as adults getting up late and the weather is bad. Sometimes children just adapt to a few classes, and as a result, they miss a few classes in special circumstances. When they come back next time, all the rules, habits and adaptations have to be started from scratch, wasting time and making children suffer.
One of the important reasons why I didn't sign up for English class is that the distance is a little far. Although the bus is direct, it takes two hours to go back and forth. I think this time is too bad. It is much better for children to spend these two hours, play more freely and have more rest than to be crowded in the car or on the road.
4. Teachers learn, and teachers are of course the most important factor. If the teachers are good enough, the final distance can also be compromised. As far as I know, some children attend remedial classes for a teacher, his fame, his level and his methods. If the teacher's level is high enough and his attitude is serious and responsible, it is great luck! However, it is really hard to meet. Parents can spend more time looking for a good teacher, but time waits for no one!
In the enlightenment stage, I think the attitude and methods of teachers are even more important than the level. For example, in Beijing, if you can afford a piano, you can afford a good teacher, and all kinds of institutions, overseas students and award-winning teachers can be invited. However, such a teacher's high level of playing by himself does not necessarily mean that the teaching level is high. Or, the teacher is good at everything, but dismissive of beginners, impatient, and has no good effect.
5. Standardized management Whether it is kindergartens, compulsory education, or universities, the public is more inclined to choose public schools. One of the most important reasons is standardized management. For example: teaching preparation, stable teachers, strict discipline, and so on. If the management of training institutions is standardized, then children can get good study habits like going to school, even without complete knowledge, there will always be gains. If a purely profitable organization is happy for its children, it will not dare to take care of it. If you leave the child alone, it will ruin the child.
At this point, our early education is more standardized than the current painting class. There is a notice before class, even if you don't go, there will be a phone, and there is a children's bathroom indoors. At present, no one asks you not to attend class, skip class directly, and limit the number of times you take leave (in other words, we won't take leave casually unless it's special circumstances). Publicity always says that there are teaching assistants to take care of children and take them to the toilet, but I have seen them many times with my own eyes. The teacher is lazy or has something to keep the children waiting-can I wait for the toilet? Moreover, the toilet is not indoors, but the toilet in the shopping mall is used, and there are many security risks without an adult.
One more thing, whether we are attending early education or painting, the teachers are actually stable, but they often take time off to take the place of classes, which is completely different from having sons in our public schools and public kindergartens. Teachers in public schools rarely ask for leave, and the stability of teachers is becoming more and more important for younger children, which reduces the adaptation problems of children.
6. Caution and stability. I mean: be careful before choosing, don't be hasty and hasty; Try to be stable after choosing, don't swing from side to side, and don't give up easily. Because children have higher requirements for stability than adults, always changing institutions and teachers will greatly affect the learning effect. Giving up casually is easy for children to develop bad habits of giving up halfway; Changing institutions at will affect the efficiency of learning, and seriously will hit children. Just like our last audition class, the teacher of the organization made a pre-test for another child. If I am evaluated, two years' study is said to be fruitless, I will feel very depressed and confused about my judgment, and I will probably lose my interest and courage to continue studying and working hard. Of course, perhaps the teacher's evaluation is realistic, or it may be because of the inferiority of peers. Whatever the reason, it is always the children who are injured.
So, my son learns to draw. I don't intend to change institutions, teachers or class hours, but persevere and learn for a long time. Only in this way can we see the effect and gain.
In fact, training institutions, like schools, are professional educators with rich experience and many more ways than parents. Therefore, smart parents should learn to use their own resources to provide more and better educational resources for their children and help them become better people, and never shirk their responsibilities!