I decided to read Especially Cruel and Love first, because the title of this book attracted Shuang Bao's attention. She wondered, "How can you still love if you are so cruel?" I asked her mother to answer this question after reading the book.
"Sarah, the author of this book, is a descendant of Jews. She was born in Shanghai, China, and has two sons and a daughter. After the establishment of diplomatic relations between China and Israel, under the call of "returning to the homeland", and in order to enable children to experience hardships in different environments, learn to be strong and know how to live, Sarah gave up the superior life in Shanghai and came to war-torn Israel with her three children to start a special experience of transnational education. "
The above is part of the introduction of the book. There is such a sentence on the cover of the book, "Notes of Shanghai Jewish Mothers Raising Wealth". It seems that "Judaism" and "raising wealth" are the gimmicks of this book. So what attracted me?
What attracts me is the "paid living mechanism" mentioned in the introduction to cultivate children's financial quotient. I think I am a person with low financial quotient, and I don't want to do things with low and stable income. I never wanted to be a rich man, and I probably really don't think I have the ability. But I don't want me to define Shuang Bao. If possible, I hope she can live more freely. Freedom, on the other hand, requires the ability to make money to create a material foundation.
Also, I know that I should be strict with my children in theory, but in fact I am often soft-hearted. I really need to listen to other people's opinions to strengthen my determination.
Of course, like some other parenting books, after all, they are not produced by professional writers, and the whole book seems unclear. Although it is also divided into several chapters, there is no reasonable logic between the chapters, and not all the small articles in each chapter closely focus on the theme of this chapter. It seems that many articles on parenting are put together, and even some paragraphs of some articles are repeated.
However, this book is still a unique parenting note, and the Israeli parenting concept mentioned in many places is very inspiring to me. For example, "Don't think that you are a mother, the hen will have children", for example, "housework is the basic course of children's survival education", for example, "financial quotient starts with dolls" and so on. Generally speaking, Israelis love their children for a long time, thinking about their future, rather than being emotional in the name of love, so they pay special attention to cultivating their viability. I quite agree with that.
In addition, the author faces different parenting concepts in China and Israel. This contrast made me realize that under the background of the one-child policy, we must keep a clear head, and we must not be short-sighted in educating children, let alone go with the flow.
Seeing the author's 23-year-old son buying a villa for his mother in Shanghai, I sincerely admire his ability and morality. Think about it. I keep telling my dad that I want to leave a house for Shuang Bao. In my mind, is Shuang Bao a child who can't buy a house by himself? Alas. . . It seems that the gap is not children's, but my mother's realm. So, Shuang Bao, after reading this book, my mother decided not to consider leaving you anything or giving you better material enjoyment. Only by training you to be an independent person can your mother really rest assured.