? Although parents are divorced, their relationship with their children will never change. I hope that neither party will speak ill of the other in front of the children, do not prevent the father and daughter from meeting each other, and try to provide a relaxed environment where they can continue to get along with their parents, so that children can feel that although their parents are separated, their love for them has not changed. On the issue of educating children, we should also exchange views and make certain plans, and two people should participate in children's education at the same time. Children are not personal belongings, not one person's, so we should educate them together.
2. Don't pass on "sadness" to children.
Divorce is a great blow to both parties, and it is also a kind of trauma to children. I hope that parents who take care of their children will be strong, don't infect their children with sadness, and don't be moody because of it, lest their children become anxious, depressed and even give up on themselves. Parents' optimism and strength are the best role models for children.
3. Don't neglect children.
Parents' divorce always makes children feel less ideologically than others, so they can't be ignored mentally or materially. Once they have any needs in study or life, even if the economic conditions are poor, they should try their best to satisfy their children and make them feel that there is not much difference between me and my children in their parents' families except their parents' divorce. If it is a little worse, you should also try to reason with your child and eliminate his inferiority complex. Psychologically, I try to communicate with my child as much as possible to understand his psychological needs. In this way, the child will have self-confidence and others will be more willing to approach him.
Don't pin all your hopes on children.
After the divorce, some people put all their hopes on their children because they didn't remarry, so that their study, life and health would not go wrong. There is no room for a flaw. In this way, children feel great pressure because of the high demands on them. At a certain time, children will have emotional outbursts. At this time, children will have psychological problems. So parents should establish a correct outlook on life. In the education of children, it should vary from person to person and should have its own life goals. Don't pin all your goals on children. In this way, once a child's education goes wrong, you can't find your own goal and you will be at a loss.
5. Don't indulge your child because of psychological compensation.
"My child has no mother (father), which is very pitiful." Many parents hold this kind of psychological compensation and meet their children's requirements unprincipled. This is not love for children. The more divorced the family, the more parents should ask their children to abide by a basic "golden mean" principle and make clear what their children should and should not do; What is reasonable for a child can satisfy him, and what is unreasonable should never be done by parents. Only in this way can it be conducive to the healthy growth of children.
6. Living a good life is the best education for children.
Some people can't get out of the failed marriage after divorce, and they are depressed every day, which produces all kinds of negative emotions, which is very unfavorable for the growth of children.
As a single parent, don't talk to our children when we are in a bad mood. Show them the positive side of life as much as possible, set their own life goals again, work hard for them and lead them to grow together.