1August, 996, I left my hometown-Longquan, Zhejiang. Since then, my hometown has always been my concern. Come to Xi 'an and marry in Ningxia. My story is incredible to many people. The most common question is this: How did you, a Zhejiang native, get married in Ningxia? I don't know how to answer love. For a man? The listener must be thinking about how naive and frivolous I am. But now I think so, too If I can make another choice, I will resolutely stay in my hometown, with my parents and siblings, and with my relatives. It takes a lot of courage and pain to get married far away. Some people say that it is an enviable thing to be with your beloved when you are young, and the place where you have him is your home. I also have a positive attitude towards this view. But there are many responsibilities in your life that you need to perform. There is a saying in Qu Li that "my parents are here, and I don't travel far", but I am an unfilial girl. I don't know what my parents and siblings think of me, but I really blame myself in my heart. I lost confidence in myself. I doubt myself ... before I got married, other people's advice was nonsense in my own eyes, and I didn't know what regret was until I got married. People are always like this, but after knowing that they are wrong, time can't go back. If you choose the road, you are not allowed to regret it. Getting married is not as simple as inviting people to dinner. Now his love has become my only bargaining chip. As for the rest, I'll settle for the second best, and it doesn't matter. If one day the only chip is gone, I will leave the city, because there seems to be nothing worth nostalgia for the time being. I personally advise girls who are planning territory to be careful about marrying far away! ! There is a kind of love called "distant marriage". If a girl is willing to marry you, please love and cherish her all your life! Women who marry far away have to bear more pressure in marriage. I can't take care of my family when they are ill. At this time, I will hide at home and cry. When I had an argument with him, I pushed open the door and walked into the street. I don't know which direction to go. We had a fight and he hit me. If I had a knife at that moment, I would not hesitate to cut it down. I still hate it when I think about it. This incident has given me great humiliation and pressure. Even if we can finish this life, it is also a big knot for me, and it is a hurdle that can never be crossed. Although he would rather let me slap him twice afterwards, I did, but I will never forgive him. I can only see my parents once a year or more, but I can't get together during the New Year, and the travel expenses are expensive. Going home has become a luxury. Regret, the intestines are already green. When you are married far away, you are faced with a dialect you don't understand, a culture you can't get into, and you are always worried about the health of your parents far away. Both work and making friends are faced with confusion. Nowadays, many jobs are inseparable from your contacts, which is definitely not the case. Language communication is also an obstacle. In a certain place, if you speak a certain dialect, the communication will be more cordial and the distance between people will be nearly doubled, which is definitely not available. Speaking of which, I am deeply touched. I usually communicate in Mandarin. That year, because my father had an accident and went home, I was able to communicate with my hometown in Lishui. I feel very kind and feel that everything is so beautiful. The moon in my hometown is particularly round. Everything seems like a duck to water, and the whole person's spirit is twice as good. When I went out to play, I couldn't find my way. The son said beside him, "mom, can't you say something?" Ask them! " Even my son has feelings, and his heart is full of joy. Besides, making friends, alas, is even harder. If the culture is not integrated, you can't make friends. Commodities have local protectionism, not to mention people, hehe! Better lack than abuse! Maybe the rest of my life will be accompanied by loneliness. Man, this lovely woman is married for you. When there are differences in family opinions, she needs your support most. If you are a responsible person, please do not leave her. So I think every man should sign such a guarantee: 1. Take turns going home during the Spring Festival: I will stay at your parents' house this year, and I will accompany her back to her family next year. 2. When your mother and wife are in conflict, never leave her in an isolated position. 3. endure three seconds before each quarrel: don't forget that there is an elderly father in the distance. When he agreed to his daughter's long marriage, he believed that you could protect her as you did in the past 20 years. Every time there is a contradiction, parents must be on your side. Please put yourself in others' shoes. Every child is the baby of parents, no matter how old she is or where she is. My old father once said to me: If you marry in the past, it will be like a broken arm for me, but for you, you will lose more than just your hands and feet. Now I admire my father from the bottom of my heart. My father has experienced ups and downs and hardships in his life. He has experienced the ups and downs of his life. Every time I think about it, I feel endless apologies and endless pain. Dad, dad, can you hear your daughter screaming hysterically? Mom, mom, I have my own flesh and blood now, and I deeply feel that it was not easy for you to raise the three of us. I was wrong. Sorry, loneliness is with me.