"I have also seen a 4-year-old child whose parents are highly educated. Grandma used to be the accountant in charge of the unit, and she was also very capable and clean. Parents have been entangled in eating hands since their children were one and a half years old. According to parents, at first, children were prevented from eating their hands in a reasonable way, and they were told that their hands were dirty and could not be eaten. They think that a one-and-a-half-year-old child can understand, but the child continues. If you think it's useless to reason, you should be tough and hit people. If the beating doesn't work, you will beat them hard, but it will only work for a short time. As soon as the child stops crying, he will forget the pain and put his hand into his mouth. Later, the grandmother who took care of the children took out stitches. As soon as the child's little hand was put in her mouth, she pricked it with a needle and deliberately hung it on the wall for the child to see, but it didn't scare the child. Later, parents also used various methods such as putting pepper water on their children's hands and wearing gloves for 24 hours, but the problem has never been solved and it is getting worse. According to parents, children are particularly fond of losing their temper, because they will break into a furious rage at the slightest thing. They can cry for two hours, or even hit their heads against the wall, completely unaware of the pain and danger.
When I saw the child, his thumb had been deformed by eating, and his two small hands were covered with broken wounds and scars, but the child seemed to have no pain at all. He still bit his hand with his mouth and dug up the blood scab with his nails. To make matters worse, children's psychology is also seriously hindered and they will not communicate with others. When others talk to him, he basically doesn't respond, his eyes are always avoiding, his expression is indifferent, and he keeps people away.
What happened to this child shocked me at the ignorance and cruelty of my parents. How normal it is for children to eat their hands. Infants and young children initially perceive and know the world with their mouths. Small hands are the closest thing to them and the only thing that allows them to control themselves. Therefore, eating hands is almost the instinct of all children, which is unnecessary and should not be stopped at all. When he can use his other sensory organs to understand the world, he will naturally stop eating his hands, just as a person who learns to stand and walk will naturally be unwilling to crawl. For such a natural cognitive process, parents should find ways to stop it. The practice of beating and cursing, acupuncture and rubbing pepper water is simply extorting a confession by torture! A weak child, at the beginning of his life, was inexplicably treated with continuous cruelty. How can his life unfold normally and not be distorted? "
Therefore, these people who support strict education either have too little knowledge, or know nothing about the past, or have received severe education as children, which leads to psychological distortion. Of course, it does not rule out that they have brain problems.
In addition, I recommend you to read Yin Jianli's "The Most Beautiful Education is the Simplest" and "Her Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher", both of which are good educational books.