Should ordinary families in Chinese mainland educate their children from an early age to be as polite as pears written by Kong Rong, or should they educate their children from an early age to actively safeguard their personal interests? The story of Kong Rong Jean Pear shows noble character and considerate behavior, which is a part of China traditional culture and worth learning and inheriting. However, in modern society, we also need to pay attention to and actively safeguard our rights and interests, which is not only a way to protect ourselves, but also helps to safeguard social justice and personal dignity.

Therefore, for children's education, we should comprehensively consider these two ways and apply them in specific situations. In family education, we can pay attention to cultivating children's gentle, obedient and tolerant personality, so that they can learn to understand and respect the feelings and rights of others. At the same time, in the process of children's growth, we should also educate them to learn to fight for their rights and interests, let them know their goals and positions, and safeguard their rights and interests through appropriate means.

In a word, the story of Kong Rong Jean Pear provides us with a noble moral example, but in modern society, we also need to pay attention to safeguarding our rights and dignity. Therefore, in children's education, we should comprehensively consider these two ways and use them flexibly according to the specific situation.