Many parents spare no effort to let their children sign up for various interest classes and advanced classes early, hoping to let their children win at the "starting line". As we all know, parents are the best "starting line" for children. Three keys to family education: companionship, reading and habit formation. Parents should pay more attention no matter how busy they are.
First, the best way of education is to accompany children, which is the unshirkable responsibility of parents. The cultivation of children's good character is not simply learned from books, but from the companionship and guidance of parents, from words and deeds. A child without parents in childhood is like a sapling without sunshine and rain. Children who lack parental companionship tend to be more introverted and feel inferior more easily. Parents must know that no amount of money and material conditions can make up for their children's lack of companionship.
I have a friend around me who was a so-called "left-behind child" when I was a child. His parents went out to work when he was very young. He grew up with his grandparents, who gave him endless love, but they can never replace the care of their parents. He has formed an independent but paranoid personality since he was a child, and likes to make trouble, so he missed many opportunities and has never been able to talk about marriage with anyone.
Now, his grandparents have passed away, his parents are over half a year old, and he is almost 30 years old. There is still an insurmountable gap between him and his parents. He is used to escaping from his parents' care and preaching, and even refuses to go back to that home. It has yet to be completed, and the road to starting a family is still far away. Even the whole family is happy, which seems to be an unattainable expectation. Far-sighted parents are willing to spend time with their children, let them know that there are parents behind them, let them feel love and learn to love.
Second, education should attach importance to reading. Bi Shumin once said that making children fall in love with reading will definitely become the most cost-effective education for parents. Good reading habits can benefit children for life. Reading is not only to get good grades, but also to let children experience life and increase their experience from reading. Yin Jianli, an expert in children's health care, once said: "What children get from reading is not only the nourishment of the soul, but also the psychological strength."
To cultivate the habit of reading, parents should work together with their children. Only families that attach importance to reading can cultivate children who love reading. To make children love reading, parents should do the following.
1. It is very important to create a reading environment for children at home. You can set up a small bookcase for children and choose books that they need to know or are interested in at this age. To create a reading atmosphere, we should make rational use of other spaces at home, not only desks, sofas, but even bathrooms, and put some books or magazines properly. Let reading be everywhere, so that children can read anytime and anywhere.
2. Accompanying children to study and accompany them can not only enhance the parent-child relationship, but also make children more interested in reading. After reading this book, encourage children to tell the stories in the book to adults. Children's stories not only exercise their thinking, but also affirm their reading achievements.
3. Parents should set an example, reduce the time of using mobile phones at home, turn over a book with the time of looking down at mobile phones, and restrain children from reading mobile phones whenever and wherever they go out. Leading by example is the best education.
Third, let Excellence become a habit. In 20 19, Yang Chenyu, the top science scholar in Guangxi, broke the record of the highest total score of science in Guangxi since the college entrance examination. When talking about her son's high score in the exam and winning the title of top scholar in science, Yang Chenxi's mother said bluntly, "I think he will do well in the exam, but I didn't expect him to do so well in the exam."
When talking about the experience of raising children, Ms. Yang said: "When children can't think independently, we must urge the formation of habits. After shaping, the road ahead will be easy. We usually take care of his logistics and give his lessons to the teacher without disturbing him. " Mother Yang also mentioned that it is very painful to supervise the development of children's habits, so we should always pay attention to and supervise him.
Moreover, in the process of supervision, parents should be self-disciplined and not let their children learn. They are playing with their mobile phones. In the final analysis, when parents cultivate their children's awareness, they should first set an example and set a good example for their children. With such a mother who can educate her children, it is no wonder that Yang Chenyu can stand out among many candidates and become the champion of the college entrance examination.
If Yang's mother didn't have the ability to think independently, she could have predictably guided and supervised him to develop all kinds of good habits, and probably wouldn't be as good as she is now. Because the establishment of self-awareness is a long and complicated process, before that, children can't consciously study and work hard, and they must be accompanied, guided and supervised by adults.
After all, the supervision of adults can only play a role for a period of time, not to mention that children will have their own ideas more and more, so the sooner they cultivate their awareness, the better. If a child develops good habits in all aspects from an early age, he will feel the joy of learning and be praised and rewarded in his subsequent study and growth, thus forming a positive cycle and making Excellence a habit.
Some people say that children are the epitome of family education and the mirror of parents. We can often see parents' educational ability and dedication through children, and feel their family relationship and atmosphere. Many parents often praise other people's children, but they don't know that they often can't provide good education for their children. The three keys of family education are companionship, reading and habit formation. I hope parents can really implement it and create a better future for their children and the whole family.