1, "Happiness is the purpose of life, and reciprocity is the principle of love"
Wu Danru: Happiness is the purpose of life, and reciprocity is the principle of love.
"The happiest people don't have to ask the meaning of life." This is Wu Danru's first assertion in Happiness is the Purpose of Life and Reciprocity is the Principle of Love. The author tells readers that if you want to be happy, you should not ask what is the meaning of life, otherwise, you may "only get a meaningless answer". However, the author added in the following text: "People who live a meaningful life will be happy inside." I really don't know whether the author is confused or I am confused.
At the beginning of the book About Wu Danru, there is an evaluation of Wu Danru: "As a woman, she looks at life with perceptual eyes and discusses feelings with rational thinking." After reading the second volume of this book, "Smart Love, Happiness is at hand", I have a deeper understanding of this sentence. The author's feelings are really rational. It is said that men and women in love are idiots. If one day they are smart, they may not fall in love. But I want to ask: I wonder if the author used these to deal with your lover when he was in love? If all the methods in the book have been practiced by the author himself, I can only say "I'm impressed" and buy a book for my little girlfriend to see, so that she can be "smart and happy".
"Happiness is the purpose of life, and reciprocity is the principle of love", which sounds good. However, the purpose and principles here are like castles in the air, gorgeous and empty, tangible and intangible. Perhaps, the title of the book should be changed to "Life is to pursue happiness, and love is to pursue the principle of reciprocity", and then, happiness in pursuit and reciprocity in pursuit.
2. Positive happiness
Kong Jianxia and Li Qiongxin: Active happiness.
It is said that in the first half of this year, the most popular course at Harvard University was to teach "happiness": "positive psychology". It makes sense to think about it: if you are happy, what are the interests of the hero?
"Positive psychology" is a new research field in American psychology. In the eighth edition of History of Modern Psychology published in early 2004, Schultz, a world-famous psychologist and American psychologist, called "positive psychology" one of the latest developments in contemporary psychology. "Positive Psychology" holds that psychology should not only study injuries, defects and injuries, but also study strength and excellent quality. Treatment is not only to repair and make up for injuries and defects, but also to explore human potential and strength.
It seems that we really need to learn how to make ourselves happy, instead of just waiting for the happy apple to fall from the successful tree and hit us on the head. To put it bluntly, happiness is very close to us, very simple, that is, active happiness.
As the book Active Happiness points out, active happiness should have self-esteem and self-confidence, the ability to completely control emotions, the relationship between work and rest, correct communication with friends, positive values, and dreams forever, especially the last point ("dreams"), which seems to be the most rare in this materialistic era.
Growth is more important than success.
Ling Zhijun: Growth is more important than success.
Dr Kai-fu Lee, the recommender of this book, once complained that China's teaching methods were too rigid. "Education in China is like a production line. Every child comes in a variety of ways and comes out the same, because there is a unified standard. " . However, Dr. Li Can did not fully agree with the American teaching method, and thought it was "too loose and careless". In my opinion, education in China is actually a choice based on the current situation in China. For a big country with a population of1300 million, a unified standard is definitely needed to select talents. Although the current education system is often criticized by people, it is undeniable that it was a relatively transparent and fair system before a more reasonable system appeared. In this context, we should learn from the advanced methods in American education to optimize ourselves.
In Ling Zhijun's book "Growth is More Important than Success", "E-student" is mentioned in many pages, such as the experience of Microsoft boy mentioned in the book. This "e-student" is characterized by independence, self-confidence, optimism, broad vision and foresight. Frankly speaking, each item is not particularly harsh; But on the whole, it is not the height that ordinary people can reach. Therefore, being an "E-student" seems easy, but it's not that simple.
The enlightenment of this book is that we really need to further develop children's initiative, so that each child can express himself better and develop his ability and interest to the maximum extent. Of course, we don't need to learn from Bill Gates to drop out of school and start a business. He is an extremely special success, and most of us don't have such opportunities and abilities. I'm sorry if you make a move to achieve your long-cherished grand goal, but people around you must think you are crazy.
4. Individual entrepreneurs
Zhang Xiaoping: Individual entrepreneur.
Huang Guangyu, CEO of Gome, Zhou Jianhe, Chairman of the Board of Directors of Zhuangsheng Group, and Lan Lixin, Chairman of Dongxing Group Co., Ltd. These prominent figures are the main characters in the first part of Zhang Xiaoping's Personality Entrepreneur. These successful people all have extremely distinct personalities. Huang Guangyu: "He is strong and I am strong, but everyone is equal before the fact. A strong voice makes sense. This is the voice of the strong, but it does not mean unreasonable. " Zhou Jianhe: "The rapid development momentum of the enterprise is in great contrast with Zhou Jianhe's extremely low-key style." Lan Lixin: "You eight adults beat me when I was a child, but you couldn't make the child cry? The planes of the eight airlines add up to 1 1,000, and we only have 1 frame, which is the smallest airline in China. "
One common feature of these people is that they are broad-minded and far-sighted. These two factors may be the most critical personality factors for their success. Lan Lixin exchanged one mouth for 20 brand-new A320 to form East Star Airlines. How energetic!
The experience of these successful people also tells us that if we want to succeed, we must be ourselves. This may be a disaster for the sales of self-help books, because most self-help books teach you how to be another person, or, as they say, how to be popular with others.