"strict father loving mother" is much better than "strict mother loving father". Because mothers can't give their children dignified love and authoritative security.

In adolescence, both men and women need a strong, powerful and authoritative love. And this kind of love can't be given by my mother, only my father can afford it. This is related to the natural differences between men and women. As the saying goes, "a mother's love is like water, and a father's love is like a mountain."

If children can't get such satisfaction in adolescence, then boys will form gangs, because they can get such satisfaction in gangs, while girls are easy to be dead set on the sweet-talking opposite sex and go astray. So "strict father loving mother" is much better than "strict mother loving father".