The complexity of today's social changes and the rapid development speed make people overwhelmed; There are more and more new things, and children are facing more and more challenges and temptations, which makes people feel at a loss; Diversified views on success and education lead to increased selectivity and confusion, which makes people feel at a loss; Children are thoughtful and spiritual individuals, and their psychological and emotional changes are difficult to ponder ... these are too numerous to mention. As parents in the new era, we must keep pace with the times, keep learning, improve our knowledge level, update outdated concepts, improve our abilities and enrich our wisdom, so as to help our children grow up smoothly. On the contrary, if children think that we are ignorant, short-sighted and outdated, it will be difficult for us to make our children do something by exerting their parents' prestige, putting on airs and telling them what to do. As for the fist in verbal intimidation and anger, it can not only subdue children, but also have the opposite effect, leading to confrontation between children and intensifying parent-child conflicts.

Therefore, parents are called upon to strengthen self-study, learn the basic knowledge of family construction, learn how to get along with husband and wife, learn how to be a father and a mother, learn how to love children, how to communicate well with children, how to guide their academic development, how to maintain their mental health, how to teach their children the correct concept of consumption and making friends, and how to cultivate their good habits and qualities. There are also many learning channels to choose from. You can learn from books, experts, school teachers and excellent parents around you ... There is a saying that the strength of parents' learning determines the height of children's flying. Only when parents study hard and improve their own quality can children fly high under your influence and guidance.

Second, we must think, "Learning without thinking is useless." At present, there are many channels to learn family education knowledge. In the face of massive information, we should not only have the awareness of learning, but also have the ability of thinking. Learning to think is an important part of effective family education. First of all, we should think about whether the family education knowledge we have learned is scientific and applicable, and really understand the essence of some family education concepts, not just superficial understanding. For example, after studying Isabella Chow's appreciation education, we must not think that we can only praise children and not criticize them; After learning the happy education in the west, we must not understand that children should only be relaxed and happy, without efforts ... If we can't really understand the connotation of these educational ideas and misunderstand the essence of these educational methods, we will turn appreciation education into strangling education and happy education into stocking education, and its harm can be imagined. Secondly, we should think about children's personality characteristics and personality characteristics.