In his view, the biggest difference between Chinese studies and western studies is that one focuses on "Tao" and the other on "technique". When I was young, I didn't pay much attention to the bad aspects, but I was obsessed with learning western technology. But with the growth of age and experience, I gradually found that the techniques without the support of Tao are difficult to be truly portrayed in my mind, and it is even more difficult to really master.
What I said above may confuse everyone, so I still use real people to analyze this conclusion.
When I was still at the grassroots level, I once met a leader. Almost all comrades think that he is very cultured. The most outstanding performance is that he will tell things and will not take it out on others because of emotional changes.
I remember one time, I was about to report to his office, and I walked to the door and heard him arguing with a cadre. It was very loud and unfriendly.
As the report was urgent and could not be delayed, I had to bite the bullet and walk into the office.
The moment I went in, I found those two people ugly. Obviously, they had a fierce argument just now.
At that time, I was timid and felt that I shouldn't shoot this gun.
I saw that the leader paused a little and said to the cadres in one breath: Let's talk about our problems later. I'll listen to XXX's report first.
After saying this, he instantly changed a different face, listened carefully to my work report and quickly deployed his work. Every requirement and arrangement is clearly expressed and organized.
Instead, I was distracted by my emotions, which led to one or two things that I didn't understand and asked several times.
The moment I walked out of the office, I was deeply relieved.
In fact, after that, I didn't have much feeling except admiring the high emotional intelligence of the leaders. Until I took up a management position, I encountered some contradictory problems every day, which made me feel at a loss. Especially when I get home after a hard day, my mind is still full of things and I am very upset.
Once, my three-year-old son dragged me to play with him, and I was so angry that I didn't fight. Instantly carried away by anger, reprimanded, scared the child to cry. He cried and complained to his mother: Dad didn't play with me, and he cursed me inexplicably.
The child's words suddenly brought my memories back to that experience many years ago, which gave me a real understanding of "don't be angry".
There is a famous young Liu in the company. Because of hierarchy, I don't have much contact with him. But what interests me is that in the democratic evaluation of the party branch, he always gets a high vote. I don't know what caused it.
Once, I went to the grass-roots party class, and he was the organizer and liaison.
On the way with me, everyone kept silent when they saw me without saying anything.
I deliberately broke the silence, bypassed others, and deliberately asked the young man directly about the number of people who participated in this time, what level they were, and other irrelevant information.
Maybe he didn't know in advance, or didn't know the exact data, and his face suddenly turned red. At this time, his supervisor was busy helping him solve the problem, reporting: This is the first time XXX has organized this kind of activity, and I am not familiar with the process, so I understand …
Actually, I didn't care too much. Not long after, I went to the grass-roots party class again. It was the same young man. As soon as he got on the bus, he took the initiative to report to me all kinds of preparations and site conditions for this party class, regardless of details.
This reminds me of what happened last time, and I can't help but admire that young people can remember such a small detail. Who doesn't like and support?
At this point, I wonder if you understand the relationship between Tao and Shu mentioned at the beginning?
What I want to express is that many times, when we concentrate on learning tools, methods and skills, we actually fall into the road of only improving "skills" and into a dead end of practice. In fact, the more advanced thing is Tao, which is the direction and guidance. Generally speaking, don't just "lower your head to pull the cart", but also "look up at the road".
Back to today's theme, "Don't be angry, don't be unfaithful", it seems simple, but it contains a profound way to be a man, and it is also an unattainable realm and accomplishment. If everyone can truly understand the meaning of these two sentences in the workplace and life and seriously practice and improve, it will definitely bring about a double harvest of career and family.
Here, I want to recommend a book to you. The book is called "Plain Book", and it is also a secret book of life cultivation that I have treasured for many years.
There is an allusion that everyone probably knows. Huang Shigong deliberately took his shoes under the bridge, and Sean respectfully picked them up and put them on the old man. Later, the old man tested Sean several times, and Sean finally passed the test, so Huang Shigong passed one of his books to Sean, that is, this "Plain Book".
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