From the first day of primary school, many parents will be asked by teachers to accompany their children to do their homework, check their homework and sign their names every day. As we all know, it is most important for children to develop good study habits and living habits from grade one. As a result, many parents give up a lot of precious time and accompany their children to do homework every day.
Accompanying writing will inhibit children's brain potential.
What is the purpose of parents accompanying homework? Nothing more than supervising children and being afraid of making mistakes! When the child was doing his homework, the mother sitting next to him said that the handwriting was crooked, that the topic was wrong and that the sitting posture was wrong. What happened? When children do their homework, there is always a "supervisor" around them, and their mental state is always in a state of tension, anxiety and even fear, which will inhibit the use and play of their brain potential.
In order to let parents know how to treat their children's learning, Mr. Rong once gave guidance to a fourth-grade boy who gave up studying mathematics.
At first, Teacher Rong gave the boy a very simple question. The boy looked at her while doing it, and she was expressionless. The boy tried to finish it and did it well. At this time, he looked at Mr. Rong again. At this time, Mr. Rong showed a dissatisfied expression on his face. As a result, the child quickly found an eraser to wipe the answer he had just made and looked at Teacher Rong's face. After repeating it three times, he said gloomily, "I won't do it!" " "Later, Mr. Rong told him," You did it right the first time, but you thought my face was wrong, so you changed it. In fact, you are good at solving problems, but you are too afraid of mom's criticism! "
Now, the teacher will give you four more questions. I believe you can do it well, but it doesn't matter even if you can't do it well. Everyone makes mistakes when studying. Let's make as few mistakes as possible! Now, do it yourself, I'll do something, and I'll come back later to see how well you did! "After 30 minutes, Mr. Rong went to the child's side, and his problem has been solved. He hesitated and said, "Mr. Rong, do you think I did the right thing? Teacher Rong smiled and said, "It's your business to check whether it's right or not. Can you show it to me after you check it out? "
The child checked 10 minutes again, and then said firmly, "I finished checking, it should be right!" " "Rong teacher took it and looked at it. No problem. Teacher Rong called the child's mother in and told her the good news. At this time, the boy's face was shining and he looked at his mother proudly. After understanding the whole process, my mother said guiltily, "It was I who accompanied her homework every day that hurt him!" " "Later, children's academic performance continued to rise and they became good students who consciously studied.
? Accompanying homework makes children "premature aging"
"My son is in the first grade. He is very slow in doing problems and makes mistakes. I am on your side. I do it quickly and accurately, but I am not independent or dependent. I always look at my face. Let him do it himself, and the 40-minute problem can be done for two hours ... ""I am also very contradictory. Sometimes I'm in a hurry, and I just say if I can't finish it before 9 o'clock, I don't want to do it. Children are afraid that it will be faster without homework. "
When it comes to doing homework with children, many parents feel the same way. Faced with the confusion of many parents, Rong, the director of Zhengzhou Zhilingtong Kindergarten, who has studied early childhood education for many years, made a surprising statement: "Who is more likely to become a talented young tree or a withered young tree? Everyone knows the answer, and so do our children. A happy, confident and interested child will become a talent more easily! However, the actual survey found that a considerable number of children are getting old before they are old-they are not interested in anything, their mood is depressed, their expressions are numb, and they feel that living is meaningless. This is a very terrible phenomenon. An important reason for this phenomenon is accompanying reading assignments. "
The teacher thinks that accompanying homework has four major hazards:
1. Kill children's self-confidence and interest;
2. Hurt the independence of children;
3. Erase the child's sense of responsibility;
4 deprive children of happiness.
Originally, learning was a child's own business. As a result, the child studied for his parents, and the child lost his sense of responsibility for the learning task, just to escape punishment. The high frequency of accusations, punishments and quarrels in accompanying reading homework directly hurts children's happiness. Because children will think that "mom and dad can't accept me, can't like me, I'm a loser, and I'm incompetent." Such a child will dislike and accept himself all his life, and will be in contradiction and pain all his life.
Yin Jianli, an educational expert who is engaged in family education research and consultation in China, also believes that accompanying homework is not to cultivate children's good habits, but to disintegrate them, which is a growing wear and tear on children's self-control. The habit of "companionship" is only physical, and "no companionship" leaves room for children to grow up in their hearts.
? Mobilize internal force to learn.
First of all, let the child understand that doing homework is his own business.
Secondly, let the children guess questions with a large number of words, and then do them. Many children know how to do it even if they can't read, and he will cultivate their visual understanding through seemingly feeling. Read it to him if you guess wrong, but don't advocate explaining it to him. When you hear a passage, take the initiative to understand it, which is also a kind of learning of auditory understanding. The improvement of vision and hearing ability is an effective way to improve the efficiency of attending classes and learning.
Third, parents should do their own thing and let their children do their homework alone in a room. If the child is inattentive and prone to procrastination, it is necessary to remove all possible interference factors in the room.
Fourth, let the children check for themselves after finishing their homework.
Fifth, parents check, at the same time explain the problems that children really can't do, check where the children's knowledge defects are, and finally sign.
In addition, in the process of children's growth, we should always encourage them positively, don't blame them, and dilute bad behavior. If the child makes a little progress, it should be affirmed in time. Accompanying children with homework is the practice of acting on children with the help of external forces, which has little effect and may even be counterproductive. If the child's internal force is mobilized, it will affect his life. Why don't parents use the role of role models to tell their children about the growth experiences of successful people, encourage their children to make progress, be not afraid of setbacks and be willing to learn?