Their psychology is very clear about who loves her and what to do, but when they are sick, some things can't be controlled and they can't do it themselves.

My niece was basically under my supervision for three years. We silently supported her with love and action. Finally, she returned to school and got back on the right track (she struggled for several years, getting in and out of school. The family has tossed about countless times, and everything depends on her and respects her decision. From the initial heavy medication to the gradual reduction, antidepressants can be stopped immediately. If the surrounding environment and people are positive, she will not be too bad. She has a bottom line.

To tell the truth, we have experienced many things to learn and accept. She is not so stubborn as ill. Because I don't go to school, I watch dramas on the Internet all day and turn them over day and night. I even sent her to a compulsory school. This kind of school is risky, including corporal punishment and intensive physical exertion and brainwashing. I was struggling, but there was nothing I could do. Because she was in a confrontational state at that time, the adults in the family could not control her. So there is no way to try, at least let her realize the need to respect the rules and obey the guardian's teaching. So I only let her stay in it 1 month. In the meantime, I also kept a high degree of vigilance (for fear of rudeness or child abuse at school) and communicated with the instructors every day. Even in order to make her understand my intention and not hate my decision, thinking that I was only aiming at her or punishing her, I sent my lovely daughter and her cousin to do closed practice for a while. I think I used that school as a means to make her realize that minors should obey society and their parents, but I didn't rely on that school to transform her. She hated me at first after she came out, but no matter what she said or did, I was not angry with her. Continue to care and love her. After a while, she forgot the negative emotions inside, but began to feel that something inside had a positive guidance for her. As an experience, she also realized something. Besides, when I came out, I was healthy and ruddy. It's completely different from the pale face before going in.

Then our relationship was readjusted. I tried coercion, but my heart melted. After she was willing to talk about her own problems, she cooperated. We had counseling together and treated mental illness together. Repeated tossing, sometimes good and sometimes bad. But there is a certain consensus. She didn't touch my bottom line, and I tried my best to support her idea. If she doesn't go to school, she will learn her favorite street dance, take English classes in English training institutions, and even work occasionally. I won't interfere with her as long as she goes out for a walk, meets friends and actively finds something to do. This is very difficult for me. I want to worry about customer service, but I still have to adjust myself to give her support.

Helping a child with psychological problems actually begins with his parents. Family factors must have something to do with her illness. Everything is for the children, we should repay them with firm determination and never give up on her. We can only digest our own grievances and grievances, and don't feel unfair. Guide slowly, and flower of life will bloom.

Suffering from depression, he was sent to a mental hospital for treatment without saying anything. The disease can be controlled or even cured soon.

There are two kinds of depression, one is depression, which is characterized by eating less, moving less, sleeping less, talking less, feeling depressed and even suicidal. The second is mania, which is characterized by eating more, moving more, talking more, being in high spirits and laughing all day.

Depression or schizophrenia, general self-control, judgment, perception are reduced, that is to say, it is useless to reason with her, she must be diagnosed and treated by a psychologist.

It's good that children can go home every day. Leave a door for the children to go home. Parents are anxious, angry, beating and cursing, mobilizing relatives and friends, and even calling the police are useless.

Girls come home late every day. When you ignore her, you say you have depression. Parents are really upset when they meet such children.

In the face of such a situation, we can handle it like this.

1, first determine whether the child has depression.

The word depression is very popular now, and many parents are afraid that their children will get depression.

Some children have grasped this point and deliberately used depression as a shield.

For example, some time ago, junior high school boys next door played truant. He doesn't go to school, but he plays games in the Internet cafe every day.

His parents found him, just trying to educate him, but he said he was depressed and crying to commit suicide.

His parents have no choice but to send him to a mental health center.

After being diagnosed by a doctor, someone directly said that your child was not depressed, just looking for an excuse not to go to school.

Therefore, whether there is depression is not the child's decision, but the psychiatrist or psychologist has the final say.

The biggest feature of depression is low mood, not interested in anything, and being bored in everything.

If children are interested in playing and have fun, it is obviously not depression.

Since the girl in the question says she has depression, well, take her directly to the hospital.

If you have depression, treat it honestly.

Without depression, you have to have a good education.

Parents should learn to communicate with their children.

It is very unsafe for girls to play outside all day.

As parents, we must pay attention to this behavior and discipline our children well.

Discipline, of course, not preaching It's not that parents are saying that children don't listen with their heads down.

Discipline refers to communicating well with children and then guiding them in the right direction.

Many parents don't know their children at all. Children's rebellion is largely due to lack of love and parents' attention.

Parents should talk less and listen to their children more. Listen to what they are thinking. They met with any difficulties and needed our help.

Spend more time with your children and learn more about their thoughts.

Only in this way will children be willing to obey.

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Your child is not depressed, but rebellious. The reason is due to the lack of family education. They pay too much attention to their children's academic achievements and ignore the tempering of their hearts and life experiences. Nowadays, the pace of social life is fast, and many parents pay attention to their careers, but seldom care about the inner communication with their children, which gradually leads to the generation gap between the two generations, different views on life and world outlook, and the ideological integration of the two generations. By adolescence, children's world outlook and outlook on life have just opened, they don't recognize their parents, overestimate their future, don't fully understand their abilities, have a bleak future, and can't find their place in society. This is the main reason for adolescent rebellion. As parents, actively guide, don't pay too much attention to children's academic performance, but let children really integrate into family life and experience the dribs and drabs of parents in social survival. Let children start from small things and start from their own side, unlike the lesson that family education lacks, let children know that their parents are the closest relatives around them, have a grateful heart for their parents, and gradually increase the teaching of their social experience and hard-working exercise. Many parents think that it is enough to spoil and give their children a better education. In fact, we have trained children with high scores and low abilities, and their parents are wrong. Education in China is also adding fuel to the fire, which is also wrong. Your child is not a case, but the main problem of education in China. Your child is not depressed, so you should be happy. Many children have just entered the high school stage and left their parents, so their psychology is too fragile and their study pressure is increased. It is normal to have depression, so I'll stop here.

Hello, I'm a psychological counselor, Chengdu Qiushui Tian Chang. I am here to answer your questions, hoping to help you!

Judging from the situation described by the subject, it is obvious that your daughter should not ponder the situation of depression. Therefore, there are several issues that need to be clarified:

First of all, how did you make sure that your daughter was depressed? What institutions and hospitals were diagnosed? Or was it diagnosed by some bad institutions or bad consultants? Because the obvious manifestation of depression is low mobility, since you can go out to play every day and come home late, this obviously does not meet the standard of low mobility, and it is difficult to define depression.

Secondly, how old is your daughter? What the hell is going on?

So, what you need to do now is not to worry about your daughter's depression, because from your account, it is not true at all. Instead, you should go to a professional psychological counseling institution for family counseling. With the guidance and help of professional psychological counselors or psychologists, we can see what kind of problems have appeared in the power system of this family, find out the root of the problems and make it clear.

Solve the problem effectively, otherwise the blind man will dismount, face the abyss in the middle of the night and be in a hurry, which will only make the situation worse and worse! !

I hope my answer will make you think! ! !

You said your daughter was depressed and went out to play late every day. You want to know what you did. I want to ask you first, has your daughter been diagnosed with depression in the hospital?

Depression is the main type of emotional disorder, which is characterized by obvious and persistent depression. In adolescence, people often regard depression as depression.

There is no doubt that students are under great pressure to study, and they will feel tired of learning. In addition, they will have conflicts with their parents because of the great emotional fluctuation in adolescence. They will try their best to fight against their parents. Parents should not only pay attention to their children's physical and mental health, but also grasp the essence and go to the hospital for diagnosis.

If the hospital diagnosis is positive, it should be divided into mild, moderate and severe. If it is mild, mental health consultation can be conducted through a psychological counselor; If it is moderate, I am afraid I need medicine+mental health consultation; If it is serious, it needs drug stability and mental health consultation.

If children are having fun outside, parents need to reflect on family education. What makes children depressed when they see their parents? Parents may need psychological counseling to change the mode and atmosphere of family education.

Children's problems seem to be children's problems, but they are essentially family problems. Relationship between husband and wife, family education mode, parent-child communication mode, etc. It is necessary to make a comprehensive investigation and formulate a feasible plan.

When parents change, so will children.

First of all, you need to find out if your daughter really has depression. Many people just take it for granted that they are depressed, or make excuses for their bad mood and negative state. I suggest you take your daughter to a professional institution for diagnosis, to determine whether she really suffers from depression and the degree of depression, so as to prescribe the right medicine.

If your daughter is not depressed, it is just an excuse to play outside, or if you think her daughter is depressed, forcibly labeling her as a "depressed person" is not conducive to her physical and mental development.

Secondly, find out the reasons for her daughter's depression. The cause of depression is quite complicated. You should try to find out the cause of your daughter's depression according to the advice of a psychologist or counselor. From your analysis, your daughter may be in a rebellious period. Playing outside and not wanting to go home reflects the tension between your parents and children.

It may be helpful to start improving the parent-child relationship.

I hope my answer will help you. If you have any ideas, you can discuss them with me in the comments.

Subject, it's hard to understand that your daughter can go out to play every day when she is depressed. Because depressed patients are characterized by depression, lack of interest, unwillingness to communicate with others, and even passive going out, I think your daughter's situation should be identified by a specialist: what is the problem?

If I tell you my family experience, it may help you.

Many years ago, my daughter had mental problems when she was young. At first, she didn't want to associate with her classmates, which was similar to adolescent rebellion. I've thought about it, too. But later, children became more and more reluctant to associate with others, and their temper began to get bad. I started to look up relevant information, feeling a bit like depression, so I thought I would treat my child as depression, thinking that my child's illness would make me better.

However, after a few months, the child became more and more serious. When they were depressed, they asked ten questions and didn't answer any of them. When they are in high spirits, they go shopping crazily. They are like two people when they are excited and like two people when they are depressed.

I began to feel that I had made a directional mistake and began to take my children to the provincial mental hospital. At that time, the doctor asked about the condition and said that the best treatment period had passed. The child's condition is suspected of bipolar disorder and it is recommended to be hospitalized.

Your child is not suitable for depression. It is a serious problem for a girl to come home late. I suggest you go to a regular public specialized hospital for a test: Is the child depressed, rebellious in adolescence, or other mental illness?

Of course, our best expectation is adolescent rebellion, so that children can return to a normal life track after a stage, but it is very unfavorable to restrain the problem girls from returning late.

If there is a mental problem (depression is also a mental disorder), if it is bipolar disorder, then your daughter's lateness may be a sign of hypomania. So it is imperative for you to find the right doctor and give your child a reasonable conclusion.

In fact, to this day, I don't know whether my child is bipolar disorder or schizophrenia. Children have been to the hospital several times, and doctors have seen experts. Doctors give different answers, some say bipolar disorder, some say schizophrenia. However, because some antipsychotics can be commonly used in sperm and bipolar, the condition is now under control.

I myself have been depressed because of my child's illness, and I have also improved it through drugs. Different topics say that I never want to go out to play when I am depressed, and even hate talking, let alone coming home late.

So my suggestion is that the subject should take his daughter to make a medical judgment as soon as possible. What's wrong with the child? Only when you have a direction can you be targeted.

Don't be impatient. And don't demonize depression. This is a comprehensive disease of the body, which responds to emotions, that is, abnormal secretion of neurotransmitters in the brain, and it is a systemic disease. Go to the hospital with your brain. The doctor will find a way, can control it, and of course use drugs. Depression also needs children's cooperation. After the illness is relieved, you should be strong and rational, adjust your lifestyle and mental state, fight the disease, learn positive psychological suggestion methods such as positive psychology and happy psychology, adjust your mentality, and have regular rest, especially sleep. If you can stay with her when you go out late, it is best that she can accept the company, which is also a good turning point. There may be cognitive impairment at this time to ensure its safety. Especially life safety and depression, if you can't pull yourself back, it will be fatal. When you come out, you need more attention from your family. Patients should also cooperate with doctors, adjust diet, dredge qi and blood, be able to control their thinking and live rationally, and will not fully recover for the time being, but will not affect their normal study and work. It may take years or even a lifetime to get out of depression completely, and living is victory. Communicate with children more and find the root of thoughts, which is the root of psychological obstacles that cause her depression. Generally little girls are more emotional. Students have learning problems, and the seeds of love secretly love a boy, and there are always things that she can't solve. Third, she is confused, afraid, helpless and at a loss about the future. Talk to your child more and get to know her. If she is willing to talk, she will naturally open her heart to you. After all, she is her own child, and she should know how to get close to her children and let them cooperate with their parents for treatment.

If your daughter is really depressed, maybe going out to play is her way out.

Most children's psychological problems are rooted in the family education environment.

Some parents, especially those who care about their children, think that their children are born and raised by themselves, so they should make their own decisions, ignore all kinds of conditions and even suppress coercion, so as to control their children and influence their behavior. The reason is for the children, but also for their own good, but they are not willing to let their parents take care of themselves.

Many of these parents, when their children are in adolescence, can't calm down, listen to their children's voices, see their world, and use their decades of experience to mechanically discipline and influence their children's lives, which will inevitably lead to their children's depression, escape or resist family education. Whether they really have depression needs correct persuasion, formal medical examination, change the unfavorable or even quick success education methods, and give them a relaxed space.