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Know No tells the story of the growth, career and marriage of Ming Lan, an ancient official family girl, about the struggle of a woman who grew up under ancient legislation and the rise and fall of her family.
In fact, if you watch it carefully, "Know No" is actually a very good family education film except house fighting and romance!
The mother's model determines the child's life.
After watching the first few episodes of Know, we can find a particularly obvious and interesting phenomenon-Ming Lan, Moran and Rulan are actually "copies" of their mothers!
Do I "know": Look at the influence of mother's pattern on children under family education.
1, Wei Xiaoniang: The biggest job, forbearing and generous.
Speaking of Wei Xiaoniang, many people will have a modest, forbearing, decent and generous image. After all, in her eyes, it is not necessarily a good thing to be competitive.
Xiao Minglan made a splash for her sister at the pot throwing party, which attracted the attention of thousands of people. Naturally, she also fell into the struggle between mistress and concubine.
At that time, Wei Xiaoniang's little education was worth learning.
She said: "It's a kindness to help your big sister stand out from the crowd, but you should know that some pain is only superficial to your big sister, but it's a bone and blood injury to you."
At that time, Wei Xiaoniang was helpless alone in the big house. As a concubine in the government, she came from a bad family. She knew that as long as she got ahead, she would be a victim of the dispute, and she finally met with an accident because of Xiao Minglan's top-notch performance.
Many people feel wronged for her and think that she should not be bullied by others, but should take the initiative to fight back. But it is precisely because Wei Xiaoniang can see everything clearly, and the pattern is bigger and longer-term, so she chooses to proceed step by step, fight for it, and act cautiously.
She hoped that her daughter Ming Lan would learn to be self-reliant not because of cowardice.
Wei Xiaoniang gave Ming Lan "Li Niangzi Guarding Niangziguan" before she died, hoping that Ming Lan would be independent and strong, not attached to anyone.
In Wei Xiaoniang's last dystocia, she also taught Ming Lan one last thing-to know how to repay kindness.
Fortunately, Ming Lan became what her mother expected when she grew up.
2. Aunt Wang: She has a bad temper, but her mind is not bad.
Mrs. Wang was born in a big family and is the daughter of a cabinet university student. She married a large bureaucratic family. It can be said that she is rich, beautiful and has a good life. People around her have been respectful to her since childhood.
And this has also developed her bad temper. When she encounters unhappy things, she will vent them at once, and she will be outspoken, but her mind is not bad.
Her daughter, Rulan, has the same personality. She was spoiled and charming since she was a child, but her mind was simple and she never beat around the bush, nor did she hide any intrigue.
For example, when Ming Lan gave knee pads to his two brothers, the attitude of the big lady and Lin Xiaoniang could tell the difference between them.
Although the big lady has a bad temper and looks overbearing and unreasonable, she treats ordinary people equally and has three views.
3, Lin Xiaoniang: insidious and cunning, fish begins to stink at the head
Lin Xiaoniang is definitely the big boss in KnowNo. She is insidious and cunning.
In addition, when Ming Lan gave knee pads to his two brothers, Lin Xiaoniang's family was very unfriendly when accepting gifts from Ming Lan. Although Ming Lan sewed the kneepads himself, they are worthless. They feel that only valuable things can be called real intentions. Under the influence of her mother, Moran also accepted her mother's idea. I was controlled by my mother since I was a child, instilling that "if you are beautiful, you should find a rich husband quickly."
Lin Xiaoniang hopes that her daughter will be the first, and Moran will live up to everything.
Moreover, her struggle is unbridled, and she can do harm, murder and even hurt her sister.
It can be said that Lin Xiaoniang is a typical representative of fish begins to stink at the head.
Second, the mother's pattern determines the child's life.
Behavior education has always been subtle.
Some people are neither arrogant nor impetuous; There is a population that is unobstructed and unreasonable. These are not derived from the children themselves, but are influenced by their parents.
Many people think that the most important part of the family should be the children, but in fact it depends on whether the family is really harmonious or not and on the mother.
I have seen such a news before: a mother in Chengdu 1 year-old began to take her daughter abroad, and her child has been to more than 20 countries since she was 4 years old.
Her mother once said in an interview with reporters: "If she wants to run, I will let her run; If she falls, I will let her stand up by herself. "
It is precisely because of the mother's education that the child is very lively and cheerful, and kindergarten teachers often praise her for her adaptability and quick response.
The mother's model is the starting line for children.
In a family, it may be that mothers spend more time with their children at present, and the speed and way of thought transmission are faster and more amazing.
Mother is the soul of a family and the stabilizer of the family atmosphere. Many times we will find that the mother is happy and the whole family is happy; Mother is anxious and the whole family is silent; A grumpy mother can't raise a quiet child, but a calm mother and son will also have good personality and temper, which complement each other.
Last year, Jackson Yee gave a speech at the opening ceremony of China Opera as a freshman representative. He said: "As future artists, our eyes should not only look up, but also look down at the diseases and pains in life, and look down at corners and gaps."
This passage was praised by netizens as "the most modal speech." Many people like Jackson Yee because he is calm, enlarged and has a big inner structure.
These are actually inseparable from his mother's teaching. His mother was positive and optimistic, and her attitude towards life was serious, which also deeply influenced Jackson Yee. So he makes progress, loves the world, and even sees maturity and calmness different from his peers from him.
Jackson Yee once publicly thanked his mother on the show: "Mom, I remember you told me that if you work harder now, you will be happy in the future. Now that I'm grown up, it's time to protect you. Do you feel happy, mom? "
Third, real education is to grow up with children.
The "pattern" we often say will feel very advanced and unattainable, but it is not difficult to really do it.
1, set an example and convey correct values
When we treat our children, we don't need to instill in them what we think is right all the time, such as optimism, positivity, self-discipline, etc. Many times, if we do this in our daily life, children will learn faster than we think.
The child was born with a blank sheet of paper. After subtle copying, they unconsciously got the shadow of their parents.
Sometimes ten thousand sentences of nagging and preaching are not as good as your own practice. The so-called words and deeds, imperceptibly, is the most far-reaching education for children.
2. Insist on self-study.
The so-called "pattern" is not static, we still have to keep pace with the times. Children are very keen when they are young and can capture our progress. What children see in their parents is new knowledge and vitality.
In life, we can choose to learn the same skills, or read books and newspapers, or communicate with people more, which can affect children and thus have corresponding personality and character.
3. Take more children to see the world.
Many times, the collision and communication of different cultures is also a door to open children's inner world. Such a fusion of knowledge and culture is actually very helpful for children's concept opening and ideological promotion.
Wang Yuheng, a popular "water brother" in the super brain, is not only superior in ability, but also praised and recognized by everyone for his educational methods.
He likes to travel and take his children around. He said: "Girls' knowledge is very important, and the world is very big. If you have more knowledge, you will not be ashamed. "
In fact, whether parents or children, the pattern is very important. Whether it is looking at the world, teaching by example or lifelong learning, it can affect children's outlook on life. Real education should actually be accompanied by children's growth.