Of course it is necessary. Family education is very important. Educating children is a systematic project, and parents grow up in the process of education. Parents should not only take care of their children's lives, but also accompany and educate their children with high quality.
There are no bad parents, only unfortunate parents, because they have not received scientific family education and training; There are no bad children, only unfortunate children, because they can't enjoy a good family education. Therefore, as parents, we should study family education and grow and progress with our children.
The purpose of studying family education
1. Be a prepared and wise parent.
In reality, no matter what you do, you must study in advance and even hold a certificate. But as parents, we don't have to study in advance, and we don't have to hold certificates, because we all believe that we have the "talent" to be parents. In life, we can do many experiments, but everyone's life is only once. We can't do experiments on children's growth. Once something goes wrong, I'm afraid it's too late to regret and correct it.
Why is this happening? The fundamental reason is that we have not learned how to be wise parents, do not understand children's psychology, and do not understand the laws of education. We always educate in our own way and in the traditional way, and we don't understand the inner world of children and their needs at all. We always impose the wrong way on our children as love.
Learn family education, the sooner the better. Smart parents who are prepared can really understand the needs of their children at every stage and in different periods from the birth of their children, and implement education with a clear aim, instead of waiting for problems in education before thinking about learning. You know, life is irreversible, growth is irreversible, and character is irreversible. ...
2. Find the root of the problem.
The real reason why most parents start studying is that their children have all kinds of problems: dropping out of school, indulging in games, unwilling to study, procrastinating, opposing their parents and even hurting themselves ... These problems make parents feel anxious and tired. So many parents hope to "diagnose" and "cure" their children through learning, hoping to find an answer: Why is my child like this? How can we change them?
As everyone knows, what real family education needs to solve is not the children's problems, because the children's problems and symptoms actually come from their parents. A child is like a mirror. What parents sow is what they get! If parents are originals, children are replicas. Therefore, as parents, we should understand that the ultimate goal of learning is to let ourselves learn how to be a truly capable and intelligent parent and realize the growth of children with correct education methods. Parents' problems are solved, and children's problems will be solved; Parents' problems are not solved, but they just ask their children to change. I'm afraid the more education, the more serious the problem.
At the same time, parents should also understand that behind every unreasonable behavior, there is an unsatisfied psychological need. "Irritability, irritability, fear of difficulties, lying, carelessness, procrastination, difficulty in making friends, love to start work" and so on can be summarized into three categories: emotional instability, interpersonal communication obstacles, and deviant behavior. This is because of the lack of psychological nutrition such as unconditional acceptance and attention, security, affirmation, praise and recognition, which requires parents to prescribe the right medicine and give corresponding psychological nutrition.
3. Cultivate a sound personality
Children's education mainly consists of family education, school education and social education. Among them, family education is particularly important. The fundamental purpose of family education is to cultivate children's sound personality and ability to obtain happiness. Simply put, it is to let children learn to live, learn to be human, and learn to recognize.
Children's suicides are always heard, which is heartbreaking. Millions of huge data survey results prove that the suicide cause of those children seems to be the pressure of study, but the deep-seated reason behind it is that parents and healthy families have not paid attention to it.
A special middle school teacher, whose daughter has been regarded as a bully since childhood, not only has excellent grades, but also is good at singing and dancing and has a wide range of hobbies. It is such a perfect student who had a nervous breakdown due to obsessive-compulsive disorder during his study abroad and chose an extreme way to end his life. Such a blow is painful for the mother, and it also makes her fall into deep thinking. "My concern for my daughter is too materialistic and there is too little spiritual exchange. I lack understanding of her spiritual world, which is also a problem for most parents in China. " The mother tried to wake up more parents with her own experience.
Perhaps all this will not happen in every family, but while meeting children's material needs, understanding their spiritual and emotional needs and giving them more understanding and support should not be ignored by every family.
Family background, a proper term in the field of psychology, has been recognized by more and more people in recent years. Because people find that almost all psychological problems and marital problems can't escape the influence of family background. Therefore, some people call the influence of family background a "curse" passed down from generation to generation.
Therefore, the far-reaching significance of our family education lies in that we should train "qualified parents" from generation to generation for the future. We not only pay attention to how parents behave today, but also pay attention to how parents behave tomorrow.
At the same time, we should also understand that on the road of family education, it is not too late to wake up and take action.