How to guide the education of puppy love for rebellious 13-year-old girls Girls go through a rebellious period and are prone to puppy love, so we should deal with it in time. The following is some information I have compiled for you about how to guide the rebellious puppy love education for 13-year-old girls. Let's have a look!
How to guide the education of puppy love for rebellious 13-year-old girls 1 1 What should teenagers do about puppy love?
1, reflect on yourself and spend more time with your daughter. Girls reach puberty earlier than boys of the same age. Adolescent girls who fall in love with students usually lack the love of their parents, especially their fathers. Just like this, parents should pay more attention to their daughters during their adolescence. Interpersonal communication is indeed indispensable, and many parents have to reflect on this.
2. Establish contact with teachers and work together. In this kind of work, the lack of truth will not work! Only talking about learning and training, talking about the main performance of other levels on campus, has the same transfer and concentration function. Here, what needs to be filled in is that girls receive cultural education in a solution way, and they must never spread it around or even abuse it indiscriminately. That will make girls cause obvious adolescent rebellion, and the situation is not good.
3. What about puppy love? Teach children, they are like some trees now. They must constantly absorb nutrients, withstand the wind and rain, grow into a strong tree, and be able to shoulder the obligations of starting a family and neutralizing their feelings.
Second, the educational concept of adolescent girls' puppy love
1. The first thing parents should do is to give their children 1 an effective and objective evaluation of "the feelings of adolescence". Educating children that everything is normal proves that they have entered the stage of youth development with emotional desire for children. And pay attention to children's personality characteristics and emotions in life, and don't ridicule and laugh at children.
2. Help children recognize the "feelings of adolescence". Parents should educate their children that perfect love is not only a simple same-sex repulsion, but also contains lofty character and rich spiritual essence. If your child already has feelings, parents should help the child analyze these feelings. If children are attracted by each other's strengths and advantages, they should turn this happy feeling and admiration and appreciation for each other into motivation to improve themselves diligently; If children are attracted by each other's appearance or family background, parents should educate their children. Such feelings are superficial, chemicals and external ones are only superficial, and the nobleness and richness of the essential spirit is the most critical.
Parents should chat with their children more here and pay attention to the concept trends of adolescent girls. You can even assign some parent-child interactions, such as watching a movie together, singing karaoke with children, going to a concert tour and holding sports competitions together. There is no need to deliberately "criticize" children, just like chatting with friends in the basin, educating children to express their thoughts. Parents don't have to deliberately stop talking about "adolescent feelings" in front of their children. I think that the more parents are open to the outside world, the more sincerely they talk to their children about "the feelings of adolescence", and the more children can get rid of the novelty of "love".
4. Educate children to get along with different friends of the opposite sex. Parents should never blame their children for calling, sending messages and playing with friends and classmates of the opposite sex. I remembered a sentence I read on Sina Weibo a few days ago, which said that our parents in China put pressure on their children to get along with friends of the opposite sex during their adolescence. After their children graduated, they hoped to find 1 suitable lovers at all levels to marry. This is really very different. When your children can't learn to interact with friends of the opposite sex well in adolescence, it will often do great harm to their future interpersonal communication, love and friendship consciousness. Therefore, parents must not forbid their children to get along with friends of the opposite sex, but should encourage them to establish friendship with friends and classmates of the opposite sex.
Parents should strengthen the sexual initiation education for their children. If your child has a tendency to get along with his beloved friends of the opposite sex, parents should also talk to their children with relief about the matters that must be paid attention to in the whole process of getting along, educate their children to control their personal behavior and protect the emergence of sexual personal behavior. Parents don't have to feel ugly about such things with their children. Now the information content is so developed that there are many ways for children to get this information content. Children can't find it by themselves, compared with parents telling them about the gender knowledge of scientific research.
6. Parents should help their children shape a correct view of love. Educating children is not asking for answers from beloved friends of the opposite sex, but caring more about each other and solving difficulties and incentives when they have to. If children only have unrequited love for each other, parents should educate their children that they really love each other. If the other person has no feelings for you, you should take that emotion to heart, be gentle and considerate. That can help children treat "feelings" correctly, and also help them establish a healthy view of marriage.
How to guide the education of puppy love for rebellious 13-year-old girls In order to deal with the phenomenon of puppy love of girls well, parents should first understand what the reason is, and know the reason before they can prescribe the right medicine. There are generally three reasons for girls' puppy love. The first is that girls develop earlier. With the popularity of the Internet, children can see romance novels and TV works online, especially in love.
Boys' minds generally develop later than girls'. When they were students, they were more likely to indulge in online games or martial arts novels, while girls had already gone to The Seeds of Love. Another reason is that girls feel like a big girl because of their obvious physical development characteristics, especially after menstruation. They yearn for sweet love more and feel that they have grown up. Besides, they are curious and competitive. Many girls fall in love early not because they really want to fall in love.
If parents find that their children have puppy love, remember not to use violence to solve it. When the child reaches puberty, the more violent you are, the more rebellious she is. The first thing parents have to solve is to know whether the child is really in love or on an ignorant lover. In fact, my parents came from this era. At this time, it is normal for children to have a small flame of love in their hearts, so don't make a hullabaloo about, and don't be too nervous about it, because your emotions will directly affect it.
Girls are actually sensible at this time. You just need to communicate with her calmly. If you ask her what she thinks now, encourage her to tell her that you have full confidence in her ability to handle this matter, put you on an equal footing with her and guide her to tell the truth. If the child is really puppy love, you should tell her that everyone's first love is actually the best, and you will enjoy this simple feeling in your later life, but you are students. Be responsible for your actions and your future. If you are a girl, you should tell her that she will meet many people in the future and have a beautiful marriage. First love must be pure to be sweeter.
For girls, parents should tell them to know how to protect themselves. It's not necessarily a bad thing that the other two have a crush on each other. We can encourage each other, urge each other and improve our performance together. Since we want to be together, we must plan the future and get into a good university together, so that the campus life of the university will be more abundant. So puppy love is not terrible. What is terrible is the ignorance and violence of parents and the lack of sex education for children. Every child will have a wonderful period of ignorance.