Family education is very important. What do parents insist on to cultivate excellent children? At first, children learn and perceive the world mainly through imitation, and the main imitators are the people around them. As the person who spends the most time with children, children will imitate and learn from their mothers' words and deeds consciously or unconsciously, and gradually form their cognition of the outside world and turn it into their own behavior. This subtle influence does not need to be done deliberately, but it will have a far-reaching impact on children. As the saying goes, a good mother is better than a good teacher. That's the reason. If a mother can do these three things well.

1, learn to let go and cultivate children's independent self-care ability. In front of the children, the mother's heart has always been soft, worried about the child's injury, afraid that the child will suffer, and can't bear to bear hardships and stand hard work. In short, she doesn't want to do anything for her children. She takes care of them like an aunt every day and doesn't let her do anything. I think it's love for her children. Actually, it's just the opposite.

Growth is a process of accumulating work experience. Only after experience can you know how to deal with this kind of thing. Children are not allowed to do anything, and children cannot do anything. This is actually taking away the opportunity of children's development and destroying their ability to take care of themselves independently. One day, when children have to leave their parents and step into social development, it will be difficult for a person to survive.

Smart mothers should grasp the boundaries of teaching, distinguish between what is a child's business, what is an adult's business, and what is a child's own business, try to let the children do it, and encourage them to take the initiative to try. Even if the child is not doing well or doing wrong, it is ok to correct it. Parents should give their children moderate and strong support and advice, but you can't decisively replace them and don't interfere too much. You can only rely on children to develop these things.

2. Set an example and set a good example for children. In the process of communicating with their children, many mothers are worried that their children will not understand, or that they will not implement it immediately, and will repeatedly urge them, or keep nagging in their children's ears. This will not only fail to teach their children well, but will make them bored and produce a rebellious psychological state from their hearts. Nagging may be the most ineffective and resistant form for children.

In fact, nagging really doesn't play a role in teaching. Only when parents' inner anxiety is constantly passed on to their children's negative mentality will children become more and more depressed. It's better to slow down and set a good example for children than to nag every day. On the contrary, children will inadvertently follow the example of learning and training. This kind of publicity effect, don't nag, or telling the truth is more effective, and children are more willing to accept it.

Good education is actually to set an example for children and help them form good habits in their daily lives. For example, if you expect children to love reading, you should take the initiative to take out books and help children develop good reading habits, without having to do some parent-child reading with them. If you don't expect your child to look at the mobile phone, then try to reduce looking at the mobile phone in front of the child, wait more and communicate more. Your behavior is the best example for children.

3. Control emotions and give children a warm family atmosphere. In the process of children's growth, it is inevitable that there will be some personal behaviors that annoy parents. Some mothers have lost control of their emotions. When children do something wrong, they can't help getting angry with them. But after they get angry, they are depressed and worried about causing harm to their children. However, the next time they encounter similar things, they will still be angry and gradually fall into "anger-regret-"

When children are young, it is difficult to manage their personal behavior. It is normal to make mistakes. Mothers are ordinary people, and anger is inevitable. However, as a mother, it is difficult to solve any problems. Children who are often yelled at by their mothers will lead to greater psychological trauma and make them more and more manic, sensitive, insecure, serious and even timid.

Mothers must adjust their emotions and learn to master their children's inner thoughts. Many children will correct their personal behavior after doing something wrong, as long as they know it is incorrect. But because they are afraid of their mother's bad temper, they will find excuses to escape, master the appropriate response to their children's mistakes, communicate with their children calmly and unswervingly, teach their children to take responsibility, and create a warm family atmosphere for their children. How can we make them grow up healthily?