Many parents misunderstand that companionship is to stay with their children blindly. Actually, it is not. Companionship in the true sense is not inseparable, but spiritual persistence. Even if it is far away from Wan Li, it is also company.
Parents who work outside all the year round, parents who are both busy at work, can also achieve high-quality companionship and achieve unexpected results as long as you are sincere and caring enough for your children.
What is the key to the ideal effect of intangible companionship?
Invisible companionship must be based on mutual understanding between parents and children. Because you can't get along with your children day and night, you must explain to them, let them understand why you can't accompany them, let them understand the significance of your efforts, and let them know what you can't forget in your busy schedule. Frank communication helps to eliminate misunderstandings, deepen heart-to-heart, help children accept reality calmly, maintain a peaceful attitude and enhance parent-child feelings.
Father (mother) and son are United and benefit from each other. As parents, working day and night to support their families is for family happiness; As a child, studying wholeheartedly and determined to succeed is for the happiness of the family. Parents work with peace of mind, students concentrate on their studies, perform their duties and live in harmony, which is the greatest support for each other.
Living thousands of miles away, it is more necessary to convey warmth; Away from children's sight, it can also spread the feelings of love.
When children feel lonely, you have a mobile phone with temperature; When children lose confidence in learning, you can say a few words of encouragement and appreciation; When children encounter difficulties and stop, your call for passion and hope will certainly nourish their hearts and give them endless strength.
Therefore, as a parent, you must find out what your child wants and give him psychological comfort and material help in time. Left-behind children are fragile and must be carefully cared for; Sometimes it is impetuous and needs patient care. In short, think about what children think, worry about their urgency, and ensure that children are optimistic and enterprising and grow up happily.
Give true love, not spoil it. When children make unreasonable demands, they should not only stick to the bottom line, but also carry out detailed education for children to establish correct values.
Invisible companionship requires more educational responsibility for children. We should not only care about children's lives, but also care about children's learning, start from all directions, undertake the responsibility of family education within our ability, and accompany children to grow up all the way.
For the cultivation of children's habitual character, some parents have adopted the method of letting their children comment and correct themselves, which is worth learning.
They agreed with their children that the weekly telephone chat or WeChat chat should be integrated into a link to let the children report their performance this week. Parents listen, children express and reflect. Parents give appropriate appreciation and praise to their children's highlights; Parents give affirmation and encouragement to the problems that children have not done but have realized; For children who have neither done anything nor realized their shortcomings, parents should remind them in time to help them establish the confidence and courage to correct them.
Doing so not only exercises children's expressive ability, but also improves their self-management ability, and the effect is very good.
Many parents are full of expectations for their children's study, which makes them impatient and violate the law and discipline. You are not around the child, don't criticize improperly and hurt the child's heart.
Usually, we should learn more about his study through teachers or ask children. The key point is to correct bad study habits and cheer for children. Mid-term and final exams, when we call our children before the exam, we must remember not to put too much pressure on them, and let them keep a positive and optimistic attitude: "I believe you can do it, I believe you can do it well!" If the grades are improved and excellent, parents must give enough rewards; Children have regressed and fallen behind, so don't criticize them, but try your best to help them analyze the reasons and find ways to improve their grades.
Although I can't accompany my child, in my child's heart, I can always hear his parents' call for success, urging him to strive for self-improvement and forge ahead. This is the ideal effect that intangible companionship should pursue.
"the strong take advantage of the trend, and the wise exert their strength." Invisible companionship must rely on tangible strength to achieve the ideal goal. This power comes from other guardians who are with the children, and from the children's teachers.
Wise parents keep close relationship with teachers and other guardians and contact them regularly. On the one hand, accurately understand children's learning situation and master their development trend; On the one hand, through communication and coordination, a consensus on children's education is formed, and the three parties work together and cooperate tacitly to take different effective educational measures to effectively promote the healthy development of children's body and mind.
Especially for problem students, the three parties should exchange needed items in time, the division of labor and cooperation should be just right, teachers should be the main force, give full play to the advantages of professional education, and attach importance to warning and punishment; Backed by parents, give play to the charm of family education and pay attention to moral education and edification; Other guardians, as assistants, play the role of family, focusing on enlightenment and care, thus forming a trinity management network and providing multiple guarantees for students' transformation.
No matter how good the invisible companionship is, if the children's problems are serious, it is not enough to rely on teachers and other guardians, then no matter how busy your parents are, even if you sacrifice your work, you should return to your children. After all, the roles and responsibilities of parents are irreplaceable.
Children's problems, from a small point of view, are related to children's life and family happiness; In a big way, it is related to the future of the country and the nation, and it is worth paying!