According to the research of the Marriage Protection Center, most couples don't discuss whether they want children, whether they want to open a joint account and how to do housework. The Marriage Protection Center is a charity that provides marriage counseling and premarital education courses.
Terry Prendergast, chairman of the charity, said: "Couples usually don't see the key differences between them, not only at the beginning of romance, but even when these differences have become facts or insurmountable problems."
Prendergast, who is also the chairman of the International Committee on Couples and Family Relations, also pointed out that "they didn't determine their plans and future dreams before deciding to spend their lives together."
In this study, the Center for the Protection of Marriage conducted in-depth interviews with more than 500 marriage counselors, and then listed 10 questions. This 10 question is the least likely to be discussed between husband and wife, but if it becomes the focus of argument, it may break up the marriage relationship.
Prendergast found that things that are relatively unaffected by personal feelings, such as career aspirations and whether you want to live abroad, are usually discussed, while personal and controversial things like children and money are unlikely to be discussed.
Two-thirds of couples have never discussed whether to have children or not. Therefore, it is difficult for them to agree on the joint management of bank accounts, debts and pensions. In terms of raising children, education and religion are another area that is not covered in the conversation, and how couples plan to do housework is also an area that is not covered in the conversation. In addition, how much time husband and wife should spend at work and at home, and how much time husband and wife should spend together or alone are also rarely discussed.