Once wisdom knows what children need.
Every parent wants their children to be good, but few people know how their children can be "good". If "good" means success and happiness, what qualities do children need to have to win their own success and happiness?
Many parents aim to "enter the university". In fact, you don't have to go to college to have a chance, and you don't have to go to college to have a chance. Only paying attention to the pursuit of academic qualifications is actually turning a blind eye and not seeing Mount Tai!
A healthy personality, a positive attitude, the ability to adapt to the environment and seize opportunities are the most basic guarantees for happiness in life.
Wisdom 2 knows what your words and deeds mean to your children.
Children feel too much about us, without deliberate observation, imitating too many attitudes, without deliberate imitation. It doesn't matter what we want, what children see from our behavior and what they learn are important! In front of children, we should not live and do things without thinking. We must be careful and consider what this means to children.
Knowing what to do is called having a direction; Knowing how to do it is called having the ability; Without direction, effort and speed are meaningless; Only direction, no method, direction itself is meaningless.
Parents are not easy to be, but they must be good. There is a solution to everything. We should not give up because of difficulties. We must explore how to solve it.
Wisdom three knows how to do it.
Knowing what to do is called having a direction; Knowing how to do it is called having the ability; Without direction, effort and speed are meaningless; Only direction, no method, direction itself is meaningless.
Parents are not easy to be, but they must be good. There is a solution to everything. We should not give up because of difficulties. We must explore how to solve it.
Wisdom four knows that being a man is being a parent.
Since education is to make children live better in the future, then life is the direction of education. What we need in life is what our children need in the future; What tests us now will test our children in the future. All the troubles, challenges and opportunities we face will be faced by our children in the future. Although the climate of the times is constantly changing, the basic problems such as getting along with people, digesting pressure, resisting inertia and weakness, restraining desire, self-improvement, opening up the situation and grasping opportunities are eternal. We handle our own affairs well and do ourselves well, which not only provides children with experience worth learning, but also conveys a positive attitude to them. Therefore, when we are human beings, we are also parents, and the process of our life is always to educate our children.
Parents' healthy values and outlook on life are one of the most important conditions for the success of family education. Parents make demands on their children, get along with each other day and night, and infiltrate their values and outlook on life into their children all the time. Values and outlook on life determine the direction of children's life and the way of feeling the world.
In life, parents demonstrate to their children through their own practice, put forward suggestions and requirements to their children according to the specific situation they face, and create a better family atmosphere and living environment for their children, thus realizing their education. Therefore, the boundary of life is the boundary of education, and the process of life is the process of education.
From the moment the child was born, our life began to change because of the child. Some people become unexpectedly good, while others become unexpectedly bad. Children lead the whole family to grow up together. The direction of children's growth is to grow up, and the direction of adults' growth is to parents. We expect our children to grow up healthily, and we should also have a sense of "growth". Parents are "learning" and doing it. It is impossible to learn at first, and it is impossible to learn quickly. Parents' skills should be gradually cultivated. With this sense of growth, there will be no loss and self-pity.
Wisdom five has "growing consciousness"
From the moment the child was born, our life began to change because of the child. Some people become unexpectedly good, while others become unexpectedly bad. Children lead the whole family to grow up together. The direction of children's growth is to grow up, and the direction of adults' growth is to parents. We expect our children to grow up healthily, and we should also have a sense of "growth". Parents are "learning" and doing it. It is impossible to learn at first, and it is impossible to learn quickly. Parents' skills should be gradually cultivated. With this sense of growth, there will be no loss and self-pity.
Wisdom 6 understands the necessity of self-doubt
The actual situation of children in our eyes is often very different from that of children. Our understanding of children is not always reliable because of our own experiences and ways of understanding.
Knowing self-doubt, preventing opinionated opinions, holding the attitude that there is no right to speak without investigation, always being cautious and perceiving children in a more diversified way will open up a brand-new parent-child relationship and educational realm.
Wisdom seven education is to help, not to shape.
Education is to help a child become what he could have been. Smart parents know how to observe and discover their children's nature with their children. If the child is more scheming and ambitious, then the child may become an outstanding talent in a certain field, but it is also easy to bear pressure and suffer setbacks because of too much concern; Then, while helping him achieve his goal, he should pay attention to persuading his children not to be dragged down by his own ambitions. Life can't be perfect. Learn to choose and let go. If the child is an optimist and doesn't care about anything, then such a child will be happy easily, without worrying about falling into a dead end. Instead, he will be enterprising, unlearned and live in a lower social level in the future. At this time, it is necessary to help children establish a certain degree of enterprise.
Many parents often say: children are all the same, how can it be so complicated? This is an "amateur" performance. People are born different, each with its own strengths and weaknesses. Wise parents will help their children foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, but only if they find out their own advantages and disadvantages first. A child is not a stone that we can carve at will, but an individual with his own unique nature. The responsibility of parents is to help their children develop their natural advantages and overcome their shortcomings. According to the nature of children to help, it will be as easy as knowing cows; And against the nature of children, according to their own wishes to shape, it will be like overreaching.
Wisdom eight knows the boundaries of education.
Everyone has their own limitations, so everyone's education for children must also have their own limitations. Therefore, we should give children room to absorb new ideas.
The significance of family education is very crucial and far-reaching, but family education is not the whole of a child's growth path. In addition, it is also influenced by peers and schools. A child's real maturity needs to be explored in an independent life after leaving home.
For children, there are always many things that we can't know and many things that we can't control. We just need to know what we should do and do our best. Letting go of the extra burden will make us feel relaxed and confident.
_ Good luck, health, happiness and good luck _