It is the greatest wish of countless "surrogate parents" to educate left-behind children into useful people through the most scientific education method. And "appreciation education" is undoubtedly an effective way for "surrogate parents" to train their children to grow sturdily. For growing children, appreciation can discover the advantages and strengths of children; It can help children to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, overcome inferiority and cowardice, and establish self-confidence. There is a story about a singer who grew up in Europe. It is said that a boy aged 10 always wanted to be a singer, but his first teacher said, "You can't sing because you can't sing. Your song blows the shutters like the wind. " The boy was very sad and cried to his mother when he got home. Mother hugged him and said softly, "son, you are actually very talented in music." Listen, you sang much better today than yesterday. Mom believes that you will become a singer! " Hearing this, the child feels much better and keeps on working hard. Later, the boy became a famous opera singer of that era. He is Enrico casulo. Casulo, recalling his own road to success, said, "It's my mother's affirmative words, like a warm current pouring into my heart. That moment was a turning point in my life, which made me what I am today. " That's exactly what happened. Mother's praise made a great singer of an era.
In our research, we also heard some "surrogate parents" say: "We always hope that the children we bring are the best. However, in our eyes, the children we bring are always inferior to those of others. " Why on earth is this?
This stems from the mentality that parents (including biological parents and "surrogate parents") want their children to succeed. The scientific theory of pedagogy psychology tells us that everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and so do children. Parents always seem to see their children's shortcomings, but ignore their children's advantages because they live with them. In particular, some parents often compare the shortcomings of their children with the advantages of other children, and even over-beautify and exaggerate the advantages of other children. They want to set an example for their children, but in fact they have brought great harm to them and even affected their lives.
From the process of growing up, every child has his strengths and advantages. Although children have different talents, they learn things quickly and slowly, and their academic performance is high and low, but judging a child's quality can't just look at one aspect.
As parents, we can't think that children are inferior to others and have no future just by their looks and grades. Instead, we should be good at discovering their advantages and their differences, always believe that our children are excellent, leave the praise to our children, and let them continue to carry forward their advantages and strengths in your praise.
Of course, "appreciation education" is a kind of knowledge, which should be carried out according to children's psychological characteristics and infiltrated into children's daily study and life. Appreciating children in every detail of study and life will bring real happiness and encouragement to children. My bosom sister Lu Qin said, "I will never forget the encouragement my mother gave me when I was a child. I think my mother's love for me is reflected in her encouragement. Everything I do, my mother is not deliberately praising, but expressing her feelings from the heart. When I was 5 years old, I once cleaned the house at home alone. My mother came back and said,' Wow, who worked so hard to clean the house!' So I stood behind the door. Mom said,' I didn't expect it to be you. You are really capable! In this sentence, I fell in love with cleaning the house and always wanted to surprise my mother. Many examples illustrate the truth that parents should treat their children with a normal heart, no matter whether their children are excellent or not. Only when you treat your child as an ordinary person, can you appreciate and praise him from the heart when you discover his advantages and strengths. When you want to appreciate children, you must look at them carefully and say to them gently, "Son, you are my pride!" " "