Although everyone thinks that sons and mothers are closer, we have to admit that some topics are more suitable for men to discuss. In order to make my son healthy physically and mentally and grow into a masculine man, it's time for my father to make some contributions. First, gender awareness Some people say that today's children are precocious, and only children in kindergarten know how to please beautiful girls, while others say no! Boys of five or six years old will still clamor to take a bath with their mothers. In fact, this may be due to their father. The word sex has always been taboo in China, but now it has been made public, and there are signs of abuse. But in any case, for boys, same-sex fathers should help him establish a correct gender awareness from a very young age: don't let his family dress him in fancy clothes; Tell the baby that he is a boy and should pee standing up. Don't always think that he can take a bath with his mother. Tell his mother that she will come out after going to the toilet, and don't lie under the door to monitor whether she will slip away. Every child has a follow-up period when he is about one year old, and will follow his mother like a chicken, even if he goes to the toilet. At this time, his father should come forward to stop the boy's behavior. First, find something that interests him to attract his attention. When the child grows up, you can tell him that his mother is a girl. Boys can't go to the toilet with girls, but you can stand at the door to protect his mother. In this way, children will feel strong and generally won't ask you why boys can't go to the toilet with girls. The child is still young, but the father can't condone his waywardness and shirking just because he is young. On the contrary, after helping him realize that he is a boy, the second step for fathers is to cultivate the boy's sense of responsibility. As mentioned above, you can take every opportunity to say that when the child is inconvenient to be with his mother, it is the mother who is doing things inside and can't be seen by others. Will the baby stand guard outside the door to protect his mother? You can also tell him that you are a boy, and you are destined to be physically stronger than girls in the future, so you should protect girls and be humble to them. Just like dad protects mom. Of course, it is best not to say these words in front of your wife, otherwise she may refuse to admit that she is protected. In addition, you can also try to tell your son that dad will come back tonight when you come home late or on a business trip. You should take good care of your mother and protect her! This can not only reduce the probability that the wife will be naughty with the children alone, but also give the children a heavy mission, making them feel great responsibility and proud. And although your wife refuses to admit that she is protected by you, she will certainly accept the little man's request for protection. The cultivation of sense of responsibility also includes making the child responsible for all the consequences of his actions, making him keep his word and so on. In the education of children, fathers generally like to use extensive management, which determines that they can tolerate some setbacks and lessons for their children without harm. As long as the follow-up is in place, it is actually a very good way of education different from that of mothers. 3. Courage Perhaps because they are all only children now, parents are always worried that their children will be hurt in one way or another. This anxiety will inevitably limit their freedom of movement. Over time, we will find that boys nowadays are more and more greasy, less and less courageous and less and less manly. It would be much better if fathers paid more attention to the cultivation of boys' courage. For example, when you go to flip-flops, don't nag after you like your mother, and say be careful 10 thousand times! . Fathers can give full play to their advantages of quick response and great strength, and let their children play as freely as possible. It is believed that most children's playground facilities are safe and reasonable enough, and their own ability is enough to cope with the possibility of long-distance protection. Think about it, when we were young, we played so heartily in the children's playground. In the eyes of adults, why don't we have that thrilling and dangerous action? Too much protection will only inhibit the response of human instinctive emergency mechanism. For example, don't intimidate children with imaginary terror, help them overcome their fear of the dark, and encourage them to try bravely. These are all things that fathers should do. 4. Parents who stay away from violent boys are always worried about one thing. If a child shows enough courage, he will start to worry that he will become fond of using violence. In fact, as long as the correct guidance, this situation can be avoided. And in this respect, dad is responsible! Why do you say that? Because dad is the first idol of a boy's personality development, no matter whether he worships you or resists you, his son's personality orientation when he grows up is more or less influenced by his father. Therefore, in order to keep his son away from violence, the father himself must first never use violence and not instill the concept of fighting violence with violence in his children. In this regard, the power of example is far greater than words and deeds. Secondly, let children know that violence is not courage. You should tell your child that the father doesn't use violence to fight back at someone, not because of cowardice, but because violence can't really solve the problem, so that the child can foresee the possible serious consequences of using violence. You can let your child imagine that today, because you were beaten by your child, you must ask your father to help you fight back tomorrow. How about the day after tomorrow? Third, you should tell your children some correct ways to solve the problem. Boys generally don't like feminine ways such as telling teachers, so you can teach your children some ways between men, such as staring at each other with your eyes, or persuading each other with words only. Let your children believe that only civilized means can truly solve contradictions perfectly. V. Sense of Direction Many people know that a man's sense of direction is naturally much stronger than that of a woman, so in order for your son to live up to this natural advantage, to make him never get lost when he was a child, and to lead his wife and children to take the wrong road when he grows up, you need to cultivate his sense of direction from now on. When he is very young, you can take him to lie on the grass and look at the stars, so as to cultivate his son's interest in astronomy. When he can walk, you can pretend to be lost and let your precious son take you home; If you are older, you can teach him to read maps and get familiar with globes. There is nothing wrong with entertainment at any time. You should take advantage of all available opportunities: when enjoying the cool on the balcony, walking in the park or going sightseeing, you can teach your son to distinguish between east, west, north, south and left, not by formulas, but by the orientation of the sun, stars, plants and, if necessary, a compass, which usually makes women. 6. Isn't there a classic saying in football? Call football and tell women to go away! Although the attraction of women's football in our country far exceeds that of men's football, most parents are still unwilling to practice with their baby daughters. For boys, playing ball is a matter of course, and watching ball is an obligation. Even if a woman claims to like football, she is mostly just a fake fan. Once her obsessed star retired, she lost interest in the stadium. Men, on the other hand, regard football as a war and a fight. He likes to study strategy and tactics and appreciate technology rather than stars. Aggressive nature determines that men are natural fans, so you have had friends since your son was born. I don't have to worry about staying up late to watch the ball at night, and I don't have to struggle to grab the right of the TV remote control. Even many sports newspapers seem to get a bargain for no reason, because the utilization rate has soared 100%. Cultivate a small fan, and your family's voting result in this regard will always be fixed at 2: 1, what's more, it is not difficult, because the son is a male animal and he is a natural fan.