Since primary school, we have heard the teacher say, "Children, you are the flowers of the motherland …" Now I have become an educator, and I have also told the children, "You are the flowers of the motherland …" What happened after these words? What have we done? We told them that you can't do this, which will hinder your healthy growth; Then you can't do it, which is not conducive to future development ... However, is there a time when we try to trust them and encourage them? Let's tell them with practical actions that "you are beautiful flowers, and you will bloom."
I have contacted many parents. Many parents will say in front of their children: Our children are not good, or our children are particularly careless. I told him many times at home, but he still couldn't change. What can you do? ..... whenever I encounter such a problem, I will let my children see the environment first, and then chat with their parents. Because I am not familiar with my children at this time, parents say that they are not good, and children will think that they are really bad, which will lead to children's lack of self-confidence, and they will be more disgusted with his problematic subjects, and they will think that the idea of "I couldn't learn this well" and "I was careless" is even more unfavorable to children's learning and growth. When he makes the same mistake in the future, he may say, "I'm not good at this." That is what we often call "broken pots and broken falls". In fact, the sages once said "seven don't blame". The first point is that "irresponsibility to the public" gives children dignity. Can't we do better by inheriting the wisdom of the ancients? Please appreciate and care for your children.
I once read an article called "A Mother and Parents Meeting". At the first parent-teacher meeting, the kindergarten teacher said to his mother, "Your son has ADHD and can't sit for three minutes. Mother went home and told her son that the teacher praised his progress. He can sit for three minutes from the original, and his son ate his own meal that night. At the second parent-teacher meeting, the primary school teacher said to his mother, "There are 50 students in the class, and your son ranks 49. We suspect that he is mentally ill. "The mother went home and told her son that the teacher said that he was not stupid. As long as he was serious, he could surpass his 2 1 deskmate. His son suddenly became docile from depression to bright eyes, and went to school earlier than usual the next day. At the third parent-teacher conference, the junior high school teacher told his mother, "According to your son's grades, it is a bit dangerous to enter a key high school. "The mother went home and told her son that the teacher said that as long as she worked hard, she could be admitted to a key high school. When she graduated from high school and was admitted to the first batch, the teacher told her son to go to school. After coming back, her son told her that he was admitted to Tsinghua. It happened to me, too. A little boy, who is not stupid, can get into the top ten of the class if he works hard, but his homework has been dragged to the end and his words are crooked. I never knew why. Later, I chatted with him, and he told me that he felt that learning was meaningless. Nobody cares, nobody cares, his parents only care about his newborn brother. When I saw him after the summer vacation, I found that he seemed to have grown up, his homework was not delayed, and his handwriting was neat. I asked why. It turns out that during the holidays, my parents have time, care about him very much and often encourage him to make progress.
Miracles may be rare around us, but our achievements are everywhere. These two stories clearly tell us that every step of a child's progress and growth is closely related to our encouragement. Appreciating children may not be that difficult. Maybe he is not good at math, but he can get high marks in Chinese and English every time. Maybe he is careless, but his mind runs fast; Maybe his grades are not good, but he is sincere and helpful ... encourage your child and set an ideal goal for him. Change and progress are not that difficult.
Maybe your child is a rose, gorgeous and beautiful; Maybe he is a sunflower, sunny and enthusiastic; Maybe he is a lotus, pure and persistent; Maybe he is a plum blossom, proud of the wind and frost; Maybe he's not like this. He is just a humble little wild chrysanthemum, but he is tough and strong, isn't he? Every flower has a moment of blooming, and every child will have a day of success. Please give him more care, trust and encouragement before that day comes, and wait for him to bloom. He will not live up to these sunshine and rain, this wonderful time.
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: "Every flower will bloom-please care and encourage children"
Author: Zhao Yujie
Chapter 2: What can we do on the day of Dad's dereliction of duty?
I have worked in Longwen for nearly a year and have been in contact with different children. Most of them come from wealthy families. Most of them are carefree and innocent. Every day, lovely children walk around us with smiles. Most of them do have different problems. In the process of contacting them, I also contacted many parents. Through communication, we found that most children have serious problems in family education, especially in the education and care of their fathers. As we all know, family is a lifelong school for children, and parents are their first teachers. Educating children to grow up healthily is the common responsibility of parents and educators. Create a good atmosphere that really cares about children's healthy growth and happy growth, lead parents to change their family education concepts, and let our children grow naturally and live poetically.
I remember when I was studying, most of the parents' meetings were attended by my mother. I feel that my father's lack of family education is very serious. A child wrote in his diary: "Father is a good man: he told his mother to quit her job and take care of my life wholeheartedly;" And he desperately makes money every day, so that we can live in a big house, sit in a big car and live a life of "being rich and happy". At the same time, he is also an incompetent father: every morning before I go to school, he has already gone to work. When he goes to bed every night, he hasn't come back yet, and he has to socialize and work overtime almost every day. My mother attends every parent-teacher meeting. We have no time to communicate with each other, and there is no topic to talk about, because his eyes are only on work. In my opinion, he is just an advanced money-making machine. Dad became my' most familiar stranger'. "
The child's voice really hopes to resonate with you. What did the father do in the whole process of the child's growth? I have also heard many teachers around me say that their students' fathers are always harsh and even swear at their children. One student wrote on his QQ signature that in my memory, my father would only beat me, and I didn't get any warmth from my father. This is my tutor. This is the real feeling of children, and one parent really touched me. Now the little girl is in the third year of high school, facing the pressure of college entrance examination, but her father has been with him. Every time I send her to campus, I basically have to wait for my daughter to accompany her home after a class. He will communicate with teachers of various subjects for children. Let every teacher help his children as much as possible. The kind of care and education that fathers give their children is beyond the reach of most parents now.
Recently, "Where is Dad going?" It is the hottest program on the screen in recent months. Also remind every dad that no matter you are a star or a poor man, we all have the most important identity in the world-father. Fathers need to understand that their task is not only to give children life, but a real father needs to be able to raise children and pay for them. We might as well ask ourselves, how many fathers hold the concept of bringing home the bacon and putting work first, leaving all the responsibility of raising children to their mothers? How many fathers go out early and come back late day after day, and their daily communication with their children is limited to finishing their homework? How many points did you get in the exam? A reality show magnifies the silhouette between father and son, reflecting the current emotional dilemma and tutor's doubts. "
A father said with shame, "Go back and reflect, be a positive father and try to be an excellent parent next time." In such a complicated, fast-paced and stressful environment, there are various advantages and disadvantages in family education and school education. Many problems are gradually exposed, and even many contradictions are constantly intensifying. Then, when everyone is turning like a wheel, these seemingly neglected and abandoned children are left to us. As a real educator, I think we are not only thinking about how much we have learned, how much education we have received and how much benefits we have gained every day. The real value of living is what we have paid for these children in need. Have you ever tried to help them, get to know them and get close to them from your heart? Being a special parent of children, being a good friend and teacher in children's minds, making children learn happily, knowing the value of learning, knowing the true meaning of life, and making up for the shortcomings brought by family education, the starting point of the conscience project of education is there, but the process is so long, and the efforts of practitioners are there, but it is not enough, and many aspects are worthy of reflection.
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: "What Can We Do on the Day Dad Fails His Duty"
Author: Wang
Chapter 3: Don't let children become angels with broken wings.
A new primary school student, when he first came, was shy, quiet, lovely and lovable. When he came, all the other teachers looked at me sympathetically. I don't know about him, and I don't care. Children are introverted and don't like to talk very much. I tried to teach him pinyin before I found out that he might have a slight stutter. ...
I taught him to spell my last name, and he always pronounced Zhang as dang, and other pinyin was not very accurate. I tried to communicate with him, but he kept looking at me innocently and didn't answer.
As usual, I asked my boss about the new students' family situation. The boss told me that his parents were divorced, his father was newly married and he had a three-year-old brother. Suddenly he felt very distressed. Such a young child has to admit the pain of his parents' divorce. ...
In the days that followed, I always paid special attention to him. After school, help him correct his pronunciation again and again, teach him the correct writing method again and again, tell him stories in his spare time, teach him to do crafts, play games and play with him. Although, sometimes I feel bored, a simple pronunciation is not standard after being taught so many times, and I feel guilty about other children, just for him, ignoring other students. But after a period of hard work, now he is no longer that shy little boy, his personality is much more lively, he no longer resists contact with people, and his grades are getting better and better. Seeing his change, I am happy from the heart, and being a teacher may be the greatest comfort.
Every time I receive a child from a single-parent family, I feel distressed, but now it is so common. A child once asked me: Teacher, am I not cute? Why else did my father leave me when I was three? Another child asked me, Teacher, why did my parents get divorced because of another aunt? Another child said: Teacher, my mother is very kind to me and takes care of me, but I just don't like her. I miss my mother. Why didn't she come back after she left me? Grandma said she was dead, but I knew she wasn't. She was driven away by her grandmother. ...
Every time they wink at me with clean and innocent eyes and ask me these questions, I feel very sad. Actually, I don't know what it is. I always tell them, no matter what, mom and dad love you ... but why do they divorce, giving their children an incomplete living environment, which leads to many children's sensitivity and inferiority, thus forming many problems.
Now the divorce rate is getting higher and higher. The so-called sense of family responsibility is no longer a dogma that binds people's personality. On the contrary, personal comfort and happiness have replaced the traditional sense of responsibility. People blindly pursue self-satisfaction. If you are happy together today, you will be separated if you are unhappy tomorrow. The same is true of marriage, satisfying personal pleasure and selfish desires. The greatest product of marriage is that children become the most innocent and pitiful victims. ...
Perhaps many times people have forgotten their children's feelings, or think that children don't care as much as they do, or think that children don't understand these things. In fact, how can those little angels not understand that children's hearts are the most transparent and clean.
Speaking of which, there is nothing I can do. I can't change the status quo, and I can't erase the shadow left by those children because of their parents' divorce. What I can do is to consciously guide them to downplay these, hoping that they can grow up happily like ordinary children.
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: "Don't let children become angels with broken wings"
Author: Zhang Dan
Chapter 4: Growth Blog
20131kloc-0/I swaggered on the land of Dongguan in autumn, without much dressing, but it also brought coolness as usual. At this time, the Federal International Plaza is particularly clear under the imprint of the sky. A special "Longwen Education" is broadcasting a "Growing Blog", hosted by Party A, Party B and Party C.
A, B and C: Good morning, dear! Welcome to Growth Blog. I am a, b and c, and everyone's growth is a history. In history, we may be as colorful as pictures, as boundless as the sky, as cloudy as clouds and as narrow as streams. Historically, we, you, all want to go. Today, we will share some feelings between teachers and children.
(Song's "Initial Dream"-"Heart" Road)
A, B and C: By my side, there is such a woman. She is in Grade Two this year. Her skin is white, her eyes are clear, her eyelashes are as new as willow buds, and she has layered and messy black hair. She is not particularly talkative, lacks self-confidence and cries easily. Don't say that she is too dependent, not strong and not introverted. In the teacher's view, she is seeking the call of "heart". My mother went to Guangxi because of something. She called her mother and listened to her carefully. Tears swirled in her eyes. However, after the phone hung up, she cried weakly. This is our "heart" road. Children have their own fragility, but they will also be strong. As teachers, we should give her affirmation, hug her, comfort her, and let her gradually understand the strong truth.
(Song "Broad Sky"-Heart "Lang")
A, B and C: It's gray today, with a little light rain, like cotton needles and cow hair. But because of the child's temperature, Gloria is very warm. There is such a him. He is an obedient child, because of his weak foundation, he has some difficulties in reading pinyin, his homework questions are unclear, and some questions can't be answered. In the sea of knowledge, he is like a lost boat, and he is afraid of his homework. Every time I see his eyes, I feel distressed. His teacher told me that although his learning foundation is still weak, his heart is clear, just like his name. As teachers, we should be patient with our students.
(Song "I want to fly"-heart "Han")
A, B, C: I have a child with excellent grades. She came to Longwen to study, mainly to improve her grades. She is a lovely sixth-grade girl, who loves singing, dancing and active thinking. Every time the teacher gives her a class, she pouts "Kawaii". She is very sensible and understands her goals. Her teacher told me that it was a great pleasure to give her lessons. However, such a lovely and happy child also has her troubles. She was also hurt by her full study time, and there was still a sad and helpless charm under her happy eyes. For such a student, as a teacher, we should make friends with her easily in the way of adults, so that we can really walk into the child's heart and let the child's heart begin to have "weight".
(Song "Like You"-Be elated)
A, B and C: Dear listeners, maybe you are still an innocent child. Enjoy your innocence and believe in the beauty of the world! Maybe you are an adult now, maybe you are a father and a mother. I hope you can remember what you really wanted in your childhood. Maybe you are a teacher now, so let's work together as teachers to create a relaxed, happy and meaningful life atmosphere for our children, OK? Same time next week, bye!
(Location, 20 13 1 1.00, on the grass)
On the grass where life is free, the sun shines on the children, and the children run to the white clouds. Parents, from a distance, are smiling. Teachers, my heart blesses.
A, B and C: As long as the children are happy!
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: Growing Blog
Author: Tang Ling
Chapter 5: Squat down and look at the children's world.
The recent hit "Where's Dad Going". It was broadcast by powerful media, and I also paid attention to this program. This group of stars and their children, who are far away from the warm and comfortable comfort zone, must support each other and meet the challenges they have never met.
There are many feelings during this period. A few shots hurt my heart, because the program adopts the shooting method of pursuing the first vision and feelings of the parties. When the camera ran after Kimi Lin, all I saw in the camera were people's legs and grass taller than him. As soon as the camera is lifted, we see accustomed people and sparse weeds. The familiar adult visual environment is a completely different scene in the eyes of children.
Among all the star dads, Jimmy Lin speaks highly of them. I won't say much about other aspects, but one detail that can be noticed is that Jimmy Lin and Kimi Lin are together, and more than half of them are squatting. He sees the world from the same perspective as children and puts himself in their shoes to understand their fears, interests and thoughts. In the program, children often get into trouble. In fact, children often hide what they are really afraid of through words and deeds. For example, some children always cry when their father wants to go out, because they are afraid that he will stay alone in the house. Therefore, it is necessary to carefully observe the child's daily words and deeds and understand what he is really afraid of. Some fathers often reprimand their children in this situation, calling them "cowards" or even punishing them, which will do great harm to their self-esteem. This will not only change the child's timidity, but may aggravate the child's fear. A child psychologist once said, "Children are afraid for the same reason as adults. The key issue is that adults know how to deal with fear, but children don't know yet. " Therefore, parents should observe carefully, find out the causes of children's fear, help children eliminate fear, and thus cultivate their self-confidence and brave quality.
We should eliminate their fears in the way of children. Children know ghost stories from picture books and fairy tales since childhood, so they are afraid of ghosts. At this time, it is useless to tell them about science. The effective way is to tell the child that he is a brave child, and ghosts are afraid to run in when he is in the house, or that ghosts are afraid of good children. This way, children can easily accept your words and eliminate their fears. Facing fear with children, the most important thing is to help children overcome fear, not to restrain it.
For adolescent children, this "squatting down to communicate" communication method is still feasible. Adolescent children have poor self-control and great mood swings. If you command and reprimand blindly, it will only make them rebellious and irritable, and they won't listen at all. Not only can you fail to achieve your educational goals, but you will also feel frustrated, no longer trust your parents, and even contradict your parents. Get down, keep your figure down, and don't condescend. Only when children feel treated equally can they slowly open their hearts and talk to their parents like friends, and only when parents thoroughly understand their children's thoughts can they guide and educate them. Look at the world from the same perspective as children, and encourage children to listen, see, think and do more. Ordinary parents can guide their children to listen to some fairy tales, guide them to read some science fiction books, show them more natural beauty, and listen to peach blossoms and willow leaves. And encourage them to "conceive" some imaginative stories; Reading with children and encouraging them to ask questions, compare guesses, draw pictures, perform and express different ideas in the process can cultivate imagination with half the effort. Children often receive some imagination training. For example, give some simple symbols, such as a line, a semicircle and a circle, and let children combine more complex and completely different stories according to these combined stories. Of course, for all these behaviors, parents should give necessary guidance and help, so that children can be happy and successful in activities, their fantasies can be recognized, and their fantasy self-confidence can be continuously enhanced. Don't set the only correct standard answer. I remember a classic case: the teacher asked, "What is snowmelt?" A child replied, "It's spring when the snow melts". As a result, this answer was marked with a red cross by the teacher because it didn't meet the standard answer. Don't stop children from being different. There is also a classic case: a child drew a green sun in a picture book, which was corrected by teachers and parents because "the sun should be red". This practice will make children dare not be whimsical. Don't do what children can do for them. For example, washing dishes, washing clothes, carrying schoolbags and tying shoelaces make children lose their basic hands-on ability and curiosity. To borrow a sentence from Mr. Lu Xun: "Children can be respected. He often thinks about the fields above the stars and the moon, the underground situation, the use of flowers and the language of insects. He wants to fly into the sky and sneak into the ant nest. " Squat down and see the world of children. Let's think about our childhood and give our children what we once longed for!
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: "Squat down to see the children's world"
Author: Chen Xiangyu
Chapter Six: Tian Xiang and the Wings of Phoenix.
Flowers still bloom every year, but they are different from year to year.
The dog in white is fleeting, and the bell of 20 14 is about to ring. As the principal of Yangzhong Longwen, my nerves are like the strings of the full moon, and I dare not relax for a moment. Although in the eventful autumn of the past, we returned home with a full load and achieved fruitful results. We hit Ma Kaixuan, put up banners and wrote poems thousands of miles away, but it's all over. I deeply understand the will that "scholars should strive for self-improvement and shoulder a long way to go", so we should still look at the present.
Three years later, the three students went their separate ways, but in my opinion, each student is a unique angel and the most precious wealth in my life. Although before entering Longwen, your academic performance was not satisfactory, even unsatisfactory. Although you have different personalities, some are naughty and some are clever, when I see your lovely faces, bright smiles, hear your immature words and hearty laughter, the mission of "teaching people tirelessly" arises spontaneously-I will try my best to help you correct your learning attitude, improve your learning methods and improve your learning efficiency. From then on, your words and deeds, every move and smile are deeply imprinted in my mind; Since then, your little progress, little improvement and little gratifying achievements have quietly flowed into my heart. Observing and examining my own changes and growth from nuances has become my daily compulsory course. And the formation of every good habit and the improvement of your academic performance are great support and encouragement to me.
Someone once asked me: among so many students, which one do you like best, or who are you closest to? I am speechless. The distance of closeness can't be measured by a ruler, just as the depth of friendship can't be calculated if life can't bear it. They are all passers-by in my life, and at the same time, they are all walkers who have left their marks on my heart. I can't favour one over the other, I just hope to treat every student equally-treat every student well, trust every student and never give up every student. It is these lovely classmates who make my life rich and colorful, let me know the unbearable lightness of life, let me know my great responsibility, let me feel the warmth of the best in the world, and let me gain the joy of struggle ... Those youthful faces are deeply imprinted in my mind, and those vigorous spirits are full of my mind, turning into the track of my struggle and evolving into the thrust of my success.
Since I became a principal, I have truly understood the meaning of education-education is a combination of dedication, responsibility and love. The mission of our school is to pave the way for students' future and forge each student into a unique and powerful self. Therefore, as an educator, I should do my duty, respect and care for every student, and let them grow up healthily under the sunshine of love. Let our personalized education stroll in the spring rain of love, nourish students' wisdom with the sweet spring of love, water students' happiness and happiness with the sweet rain of love, and cultivate students' strength, courage and gratitude with the fertile soil of love. At the same time, I think the process of education is also a process of perception, and the process of management is also a process of service. Our task is to be responsible for the happiness of every family and the future of every student. All the work of the school is to create a good educational and cultural atmosphere, so that students can learn, think and understand in a positive atmosphere, improve their abilities, purify their souls, sublimate their personalities and improve themselves. As a principal, it is my responsibility and obligation to build a team of high-quality teachers who are caring and people-oriented, and it is the core of the school's survival, development and growth.
I am not a poet, but I must have the temperament of a poet; I am not an actor, but I must have the talent of an actor; I am not a philosopher, but I must think like a philosopher. I am not a general, but I must have the spirit of commanding a thousand troops. Just because I am the principal of Yangzhong Longwen No.1 Middle School, I am the center where all teachers gather, an example for all students to learn and the trust of all parents. Therefore, although there are still some shortcomings in our management mode and teaching methods since the establishment of the school, I will, as always, strive for a good strategy to change course and do a good job in all aspects. Just like Qu Yuan, a great poet, said, "The road is long, but it's Xiu Yuan, so I will go up and down for it.". In order to achieve my goal, no matter how difficult it is, I will stick to it; No matter how hard it is, you should hold your head high and wear the morning glow. So what? What's wrong with taking Yuelian home? Because I am facing the expectations of my parents, classmates and my own conscience-my campus may not be the best, but it must be the hardest; Not necessarily the best, but it must be the most difficult; It is not necessarily the best, but it must be the most professional-at this point, I am lucky to live up to my life.
Xiongguan road is as iron as iron, and now it is still one step away from the beginning. Facing the past, I will cherish every encounter, remember every happiness, care about every separation, enjoy every friendship, and wish every student success in school. Looking forward to the future, I will work harder, because I firmly believe that if I work harder than others, I will get more achievements; If you are more ambitious than others, you will have more ambitions; A little more persistence than others will win; A little more persistence than others will create miracles!
Selected Works of the First Longwen Education "Longwen Cup" Education Essay Contest
Original title: "Tianxiang with wings"
Author: Zhu Chunfang