I chatted with my friend Ayu the other day, and she said that her son was worried about her. Although he is a bully at home and seems to be fearless, he is getting smaller and smaller when he goes out. I really can't figure out why.

Take the previous bullying of his son as an example. He had an argument with other children downstairs in the community and instantly turned into a little sheep, which scared him to cry.

Friends have taught him many times that if you are bullied or have conflicts outside, don't cry first. We can be reasonable if we have a reasonable basis, but it doesn't work to say 1000 sentences and 10000 sentences. We are still timid when we should be timid.

I believe that many families have the same situation as their friends' children. Here comes the question. How should our parents educate such children?

First, family education? There should be unity.

When educating children, couples must unite and give them clear codes of conduct. One can't be a bad COP, and the other can't be a bad COP.

Otherwise, when a child makes a mistake, if someone is around to protect him, he will not be able to accurately realize his mistake, and even the child will escape criticism by pretending to be pitiful.

Second, for the children? Carry out "cold treatment"

When children make unreasonable demands and cry or even scream in order to achieve their goals, parents must calm down and try to calm their children's emotions, and then reason with him after the children calm down.

Third, let the children? Learn to solve problems by yourself.

It is normal for children to play with each other and have a little friction. Parents don't have to make a mountain out of a molehill and solve the problem by themselves.

Contradictions between children are left to children to solve. When he has several experiences in dealing with problems, he will know how to solve them the next time something similar happens. Slowly, even if you are bullied outside the children, you won't cry any more.

-Today's topic-

Is your child in the nest? How do you usually educate?