Tao Tao's mother is a typical "tiger mother" and thinks that educating girls should be stricter. In my daily life, I strictly control Tao Tao and always supervise my study, but Tao Tao's grades just can't get on. Not only that, the relationship between mother and daughter is particularly bad. The school organizes activities, and Tao Tao learns from the best parents. Parents told Tao Tao that children should not be too tight, and the tighter they are, the more uncontrollable they will be. He also said that he usually doesn't care much about children and does whatever he wants. Children are self-disciplined and don't need to say too much.
After listening to her parents' education methods, Tao Tao's mother turned a blind eye to Tao Tao after returning to China. Sometimes Tao Tao plays crazy with other classmates outside. When she comes home, she just says that she is doing her homework at her classmates' home, so Tao Tao's mother won't get into it. Slowly, Tao Tao met a group of social youths outside and even got into a fight with them. Finally, the parents of the injured students found their home. After Tao Tao's mother apologized to the students, she severely taught Tao Tao a lesson. Now the relationship between mother and daughter is worse than before.
Choosing strict or "stocking" education depends on the child's personality characteristics and the right medicine before making a decision. But for children with these characteristics, stocking style is not suitable for them, or it may be conniving at children's irresponsibility.
Children with these characteristics are not suitable for "stocking" education. Poor self-control Too many temptations in life will affect people's self-control. With the popularity of smart phones, adults can't completely refuse the temptation of mobile phones, let alone a child. On the internet, even around us, we can see two or three-year-old children, skillfully playing games with Tik Tok, and crying when they take away their mobile phones.
Many parents think that their children are clever, but in fact they are hiding a crisis. Parents don't care about their children, they are completely "stocking". Children watch mobile phones and play games. Without a specific rule, children are likely to play endlessly. Therefore, children with poor self-control are not suitable for stocking education.
Like to make trouble, every child has his own unique personality. Some children are peaceful, while others like to jump up and down and make trouble. The latter kind of children, if their parents do not restrain their children, may have a certain impact on society, whether in school or in society, or even embark on the road of breaking the law. Just like the school bullying incident that happened frequently in recent years, it is an irreversible situation caused by parents neglecting their children's life and study and letting their children develop freely.
Without a definite view, this kind of child is a clever and obedient child on the surface, but it is precisely because he is too clever and obedient that he has no idea in his heart. It is easy to be angered by others, or to be biased by others. If parents don't ask, children are easily affected.
Deng Chao's father, Ma Haoyu, played in the bank cram school, gave his son Ma Fei a free-range education, and eventually Ma Fei became a famous astronaut. Proper "stocking" education for children is still very beneficial to their growth.
The benefits of "stocking" education to children exercise their autonomy. Parents learn to let their children go, eat and dress, or let their children explore life by themselves when they encounter difficult problems. Children can think independently, and parents only need to be their "guides". This can be a good exercise for children's autonomy. After children have a certain sense of independence, they will face various problems more calmly in the future.
In fact, there are many things in life that children can do by themselves. However, because parents do too much for their children, children become dependent. Therefore, children can never pursue their inner thoughts and do what they could have done. Educate children to relax control properly and develop freely according to their own interests.
Harmonious parent-child relationship
How many parents strictly control or nag their children under the psychological effect of "everything is for your own good" However, children are born free. Children are often strictly controlled, even if they understand that this is for their own good, they will be very resistant to their parents' practices. But free-range education will give children and parents a free breathing space, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious.
"Stocking" education, if properly used, is certainly beneficial to children's growth, and it is also an educational concept actively advocated by many educational experts at present. But at the same time, parents also need to pay attention to these aspects, and "stocking" education can play a great role.
Educating children with "stocking", parents should pay attention to the changes of children, and various accidents will occur during their growth. Adopting "stocking" education does not mean that parents will never care about their children. In fact, stocking education is not to spoil children, but to learn to be responsible for their own actions. Pay attention to children, you can capture the changes of children at any time, and good changes can be encouraged in time. On the contrary, bad changes can also guide children in time.
Being friends with children and becoming friends and good partners with children means that parents can understand children, and children are willing to communicate with their parents and enter their inner world. However, in life, how many parents like to be the "rulers" of their children, blindly suppressing their children's nature, making them resistant, and the parent-child relationship will naturally be tense. Friendship not only makes children emotionally dependent, but also improves their perception of the outside world.
Borders are very important.
"Fiona Fang cannot be made without rules". Only when children have a certain bottom line in their hearts can they develop in a good direction, and they will not develop freely and go astray. Therefore, the premise of letting children develop freely is to set "boundaries" for children and understand what they should do, so that they will have better development in the future.
In short, the "stocking" education, literally, seems very relaxed, and it is not necessary to control children and let them develop freely. In fact, such education requires parents to pay more attention to the development direction of children, so that stocking education can have a good impact on the growth of children. No matter what kind of education is adopted for children, the most important thing is to respect them.