June, 2020 10 18 is the first day that Xuan Jing officially began to learn English.

Before using English, I first got a sentence from Song Hui, an English service provider, "Do psychological construction with children."

Very interesting.

Learning is never a simple process, which contains a lot of psychological factors. This kind of "psychological construction" makes me feel good about English and curious. I vaguely feel that this is not a simple learning machine, and there must be deeper connotation and gameplay behind it.

As a post-80s generation, we have all experienced the English learning times of British overlord, BBK, VOA and BBC. No learning product in this world can sweep the world. As a trainer, I know that in the process of learning, some people must be excellent, some people are mediocre, some people do one thing, some people learn one skill and fail another.

It's not that the tools are not good, the resources are not enough, and the teaching skills are not superb, but the relationship between all tools, resources, teaching skills and learners.

So, I began to do "psychological construction" with Xuan Jing seriously.

How? Set an example? See xian Si Qi? Shout come on, can you do it?

Although there are many short videos of excellent students on the official British English video number, they are only watched to appreciate the "children of Lao Wang's family next door". Old mothers can see for themselves and show more to their children. The children's inner drama began to play. What do you mean I'm not good?

Everyone in the world knows that beauty is beauty and evil is evil. Everyone knows that good is good, and bad is bad. I took more than 200 parents to read the Tao Te Ching for a year, and I memorized this passage. With this trick, the baby can see the routine and trigger confrontation for no reason.

Whether you will watch it or not depends on the "key dialogue".

I asked Xuan Jing, what is the purpose of our English study?

"Good test scores."

"What else?"

"Books that can read English."

"What else?"

She tilted her head and couldn't figure it out?

"Imagine that you go to work, live and travel abroad. English, airports, restaurants and maps are everywhere, but you look at them as if they were from China. How do you feel? "

Xuan Jing's eyes widened.

"If you insist on reading English for 30 minutes every day, what do you think you will become in a year?"

Silence, thinking.

"A year ago, you just went to the women's queue of Hongkou District Youth Sports School and couldn't do anything. Now you have 65,438+0,000 balls against the wall, serve and spike, and you can get 6 minutes at a pace of 5 kilometers. Xuan Jing, if you stick to one thing, what will you be like in a year? "

If a child can achieve something, he will have confidence, courage and perseverance.

Xuan Jing has light in his eyes. No, there is always light.

So, we started like this, after testing, the initial level 6.

Because Xuan Jing has a very intensive volleyball training schedule for a week, there are still half a day on Monday, Monday, Tuesday, Friday and Saturday. Therefore, Xuan Jing's daily life is simple and full, and it will always be a triangle cycle of school, home and volleyball training ground.

In this arrangement, 30 minutes of English is embedded. A few nights ago, I will train to go home and become a dog. I must catch up with my homework and read English for 30 minutes. She suggested that I watch it for a while before going out to school in the morning. Where there is a goal, there is a way.

In this way, in the morning, our whole family will be awakened by English music. While brushing her teeth, washing her face and eating breakfast, she listened to her favorite cartoon theme song.

After two hours of training in the evening, whether it's cold or hot, whether it's winter or summer, whether it's wearing Dai Yue, or whether it's windy or rainy, Xiao Mo carries my little women's volleyball team home, catches up with her homework, takes a shower, reads the last word and goes to bed.

In this way, day after day, after a year.

Finally, it's time to summarize the report. This is Xuan Jing's latest report card.

Reading vocabulary is 300,000+vocabulary;

Read 2463 books;

Book level 24 (with map)

China Skill Value Unit 2 Volume 2 Grade 7 (Xuan Jing is currently in Grade 4)

Listen to the dubbing of a pregnant ear!

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This year, my child upgraded the system and algorithm of English website, and I also upgraded to be a service provider of English website.

20 16 I started to build a lifelong learning community, focusing on the concept of "lifelong learning". There are a group of like-minded friends who love learning. Suddenly, I found that I can not only support them in their career and personal growth, but also support their children's growth and even family education with the help of Ingley, and I also developed another important IP from an enterprise trainer.

I found many friends and their parents who studied English together in our lifelong learning community in Jingxuan. With the mutual support of parents and the mutual influence of children, a "learning center" for the common growth of families has been formed.

In the summer vacation of 202 1, Xuan Jing and I organized an efficient reading camp together. I tried to use the English book part, listening, reading, retelling and advanced buttons to practice deliberately from reading to expression, and a group of friends participated in punching in. On average, every pupil does English expression exercises every 3-4 days.

This time, it fully proves that the underlying logic of English-massive reading and comprehensible input are a pair of "hot wheels" in children's English learning.

We held an offline commendation meeting for every child who reached 100 and 200 days. Parents give prizes to children, and everyone eats cakes and plays board games together. We also ask children to use the articles they read in English for extended learning and shift work. When a child talks to Kan Kan in front of their own PPT, we all witness the highlights of their lives.

Then, we use Tencent Conference to hold a family reading meeting once a week. In every small square window, we see many children, many patterns of parent-child interaction, some children's shyness and evasion, and many children's sparkling and growing up.

We re-recognize the status of parents in accompanying their children to study, re-see what children really want and fear, and re-think how I should help them. Is it our anxiety and judgment, or is our trust, companionship and support more useful?

Parents who follow their children to learn English and come to Jun Hu Shuo School gradually open their eyes, understand their children's self-awareness, love life and find the meaning of life. At worst, we must have some comprehensive qualities, which is the real hard currency in the future world.

Of course, from the perspective of language, the comprehensive ability of language is definitely hard currency, not a score on paper.

Besides English, Chinese reading is also neglected by parents. We all spent too much time on English and lost the first-Mover advantage of our mother tongue. Besides listening, speaking, reading and writing are far from enough in school training.

Therefore, the purpose of our family's joint reading club is to synchronize children's input and output and create a two-way street of language ability. At the same time, parents themselves love reading, and establish a scholarly family with their children. Parents' investment in games is the best example for children, and family education has also become an important training ground for parents' personal growth.

Read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road. Without the input of life experience, reading more books will not produce "feelings" from body and mind.

In addition to reading, it is also an important practice for you to take your children into the vast world of nature and society and experience massive experiences.

Let the children go outdoors, from experience to thinking in the team, and believe that their hands and feet can be created.

This is the beautiful picture of future education that I expect, and it is also the vision described by Professor Zhu Yongxin in "Future School". With the help of English, I met her.

Frankly speaking, if English is just an intelligent learning machine, it is not worth writing such a "hard and wide" article for her today.

What I see is that with the help of English, a picture of future education is slowly unfolding, and what I see is the return of the king of family education.

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Parents often tell me when I say I punch in for 30 minutes every day, and I'm afraid my children won't stick to it.

Every time I hear this answer, I will smile and ask, "Do you want your child to develop the quality of persistence?"

Nothing parents don't want.

Then, when you say, "I'm afraid my child won't stick to this sentence", is it helpful to cultivate the quality of children's persistence?

It doesn't help at all! That is a kind of doubt, timidity and hesitation from parents themselves! It is also a limited judgment on children.

The more you doubt, the more evidence you will only see. The more timid you are, the more easily you are frightened by the fluctuation of your child's state; You hesitate, this kind of hesitation, stall your child and make her stop! Look, look, I told you, my child can't hold on.

How many parents have turned themselves into the ceiling of their children.

Recently, our husband said that the husband of the lifelong learning community said that he organized a frozen-age running training camp in the middle school playground of Jingxuan volleyball training. When the students of the volleyball team came out for running training, Jingxuan saw me lying in the middle of the playground, and the students in the training camp helped me tie my legs with elastic ropes to do hamstring training. She is very happy.

When she came back, she secretly told me that her teammates envied her and had a mother who loved sports. I said I want to be a baby that makes you envy by others because of me. Guess what? Xuan Jing said, then I want to be a mother, because I let you be envied by others!

As a mother, when I used persistence to understand the meaning of persistence and change in running training, family education naturally happened here, just like water flowing from high places to low places, and the energy of persistence was transferred from me to Xuan Jing.

I prefer to spend more time in my children's spiritual world than my academic achievements, because persistence, courage, responsibility, friendliness, empathy, willingness to study for life and find the meaning and love of life are the real "strength" for children to cope with the future world.

A child who is nourished, forged, inspired and empowered by reading and sports, what are you worried about? You don't have to be your child's crutch. It is enough to be a child's railing.

Then, this winter vacation, join the chief helmsman with Wa, grow up a family in the community with Jun, exercise together, study together, and persist together!

It is not a pity to miss the double eleven and double twelve, but the most fatal injury in life is to miss the growth.