When a child makes a mistake, don't rush to criticize the child in front of outsiders. The child is very concerned about his parents criticizing him in front of classmates, friends, relatives, neighbors and outsiders. In the long run, he will become more and more rebellious.
It is suggested that if the child has any problems, parents can talk calmly with the child in private. Go and talk about your own views and feelings about this matter. At the end of the conversation, you can add, although mom doesn't accept your approach to this matter. Even if I am angry, I am very uncomfortable. But because you are my child, my mother believes that you will become more and more mature and excellent. The only thing mom can do is to grow up with you and change together.
2. Learn to use empathy.
We should be brave enough to admit our mistakes in front of children, and let them admit their mistakes not because of humility, but because of respect and responsibility. Learn short videos or read different books, and you can talk to your child about your feelings. Mom and dad have learned a lot recently. Mom and dad didn't educate you well and didn't care about your feelings. And many methods are useless. Yes, mom and dad want to apologize to you, and mom should study hard. Love you and train you in the right way. What will your child do if he hears you say that? Parents bow their heads in front of mistakes, which is the most stalwart existence in children's hearts.
Parents must listen more and talk less.
When we communicate with rebellious children, if your language ability and emotions can't inspire and guide them positively, then all we have to do is talk to ourselves and listen to them. Listen to what he wants to say. Don't try to impose your own ideas and principles on others. Sometimes it is better to listen more.
4. Always communicate with children in a benign way.
Many parents complain that their children are unwilling to chat with us. Why? Because you can't live without learning and complaining and nagging. So the child doesn't want to talk to you, so what can we talk about? Talk about children's favorite topics, also talk about state affairs and family affairs, and talk about anything meaningful in the world. If the child really doesn't want to talk to you. But we must close the distance between us and our children. What shall we do? You can write. Personally, I think writing letters is better than face to face. Maybe this is better. What's on your mind? I didn't point out anything wrong with the child, but wrote about the child's growth from birth to now. Those beautiful things can be written in your heart. Finally, write down the wishes of parents for their children.
5. Give more affirmation and encouragement in communication.
Children's rebellious psychology is relatively heavy, which is mostly related to the psychological accumulation of long-term dissatisfaction with their parents. In particular, some introverted children are not good at expressing themselves and have nowhere to vent their dissatisfaction with their parents. If you accumulate in your mind for a long time, you will naturally form a confrontational psychology. In addition, some parents like violence education, and often carry out high-pressure management on their children, which makes many children dare to be angry and dare not speak, and will also form rebellious psychology over time. These are the sources of rebellious psychology. In view of this situation, in order to eliminate children's rebellious mentality, parents should first correct the wrong education methods, reduce their children's dissatisfaction with themselves, and at the same time encourage them in communication, so that children can feel that their ideas are recognized, so that their rebellious emotions will gradually ease.