Theme: How to Cultivate Future-oriented Children

Moderator: Dean Guo Yufeng and Huifang Sun (principal of Wei 'er Road Primary School in Jinan)

Distinguished guests: Professor and Professor Dong.

Huifang Sun: The purpose of education is to train future citizens, so how should family education train future-oriented children? First, please ask the two professors to express their opinions, and the students also talk about their own opinions.

Zhang Jinghuan: There are two fields of education, one is family and the other is school. School education has stages, and family education is long-term. Influenced by many factors such as enrollment rate, school education is utilitarian and family education is utilitarian. The family must shoulder the responsibility of the child's long-term development and give him a permanent harbor. The future society needs world citizens with competitive ability and courage, which requires family education to inherit traditional culture and face the future.

What will a long-term education be like? what do you think? Through today's forum, we may face the future education more clearly after the collision of ideas. What matters is not what the experts think, but what you think. In communication, we may have a lot of consensus on family education.

Dong: Let me solve a problem for you to think about first. As far as this topic is concerned, the core element is the future. We should consider what the future society will be like. What kind of talents will society need in the future? What kind of requirements will be put forward? Family is an important place to cultivate children, and we should focus on the following issues:

1. Cultivate a qualified child. Cultivate children's ability and motivation to give back to us.

2. Cultivate a qualified husband or wife. Because our children will eventually become husbands or wives, then we should consider the qualities that a qualified husband or wife should have.

3. Cultivate the child into a qualified brother and sister. Brothers and sisters should have the spirit of cooperation to help each other and accomplish the common mission, so we should also consider cultivating a person who can cooperate. What should we do?

Li: I have been committed to promoting family education since I was 48 years old. I summed up the word 16: nourish the soul, make rules, cultivate habits and let go of dreams. If a parent can follow this 16, it is similar in raising children. Many children think about the future without a trace of attachment, so that children can face the future and their own lives correctly. He should know what I want to be. There must be a dependency relationship, which can be a historical figure or someone in one's own family. When children are sure, they will be more powerful when facing the future. Not necessarily good, but at least he will become a qualified person.

Wang Wenjie: As parents, we all want to cultivate a successful person in the future. What does success include? Sun Yunxiao gave a definition that success is development and success is harmony.

How do parents nowadays give these qualities to their children?

1. Let our children live in life instead of learning, and let life promote their learning.

Parents should have correct values, beliefs and rules. The process of educating children is also the process of parents' own growth and self-improvement.

3. Parents should first be themselves, live a good life, take care of their children as little as possible and let them live a high life.

Yu Na: Family education is to teach children love. With love, they can love life and live happily. How to let children learn to love?

1. Create an atmosphere of love. There is a wall in our home, which is called the happiness wall. Every day, the whole family sticks happy post-it notes on the wall.

2. A loving hug. Our family gives each other a loving hug every day.

3. Use actions to influence children. By participating in public welfare activities, we constantly learn to improve ourselves and set an example for our children.

Zhang: I deeply regret that some parents let their children become "little adults" too early! I feel helpless for some parents to give their children too high expectations and pressure! Parents should continue to learn and grow, so that children can learn how to be human and grow naturally in a subtle way.

Dou Chenghua: The essence of China traditional culture has an important influence on children's spiritual world. If we want to train children facing the future, we must first train parents facing the future. What kind of person do you want your children to be? What kind of person do you want to be first? Now many parents have the mentality of quick success and instant benefit, which will harm their children. Family is the place where life begins and the place where life ends, so only by educating parents can children be better educated.

Zhang Jinghuan: Regarding the inheritance of traditional culture mentioned by Mr. Dou, I think the traditional culture of China is our background. As China people, we must inherit the traditional culture, but what is the essence we should consider? What are the dross? What should we do to cultivate future citizens facing the world?

Dong: What will the future society be like? With the development of science, the relationship between people will become closer and closer, which requires future talents to have more similar or common things. Should have strong communication skills and adaptability.

Guo Yufeng: Facing the baton of the college entrance examination, how can we educate our children at home?

Yu Na: These two questions are not contradictory. The baton of the college entrance examination is to guide children's knowledge reserve. If we jump out a centimeter to look at children's academic performance, you will find that many things you do that seem useless to children's academic performance have promoted their academic performance. When children have love and can realize what they want to do, learning is not a problem.

Wang Wenjie: Parents should protect their children's interest in learning and establish a good parent-child relationship. This is the level of Tao. Only when you have the right things can you have the skillful things.

Huifang Sun: We should guide children to see what qualities should be cultivated behind exam-oriented education. Examination-oriented education is not all examination-oriented education. When we cultivate an exam-oriented education that is higher than the exam itself, our children will be able to cope well with the senior high school entrance examination.

Cui: In front of the baton of the exam, parents should respect life, guide their children to recognize life and conform to the natural growth law of children.

Huifang Sun: Trav, your father and daughter came to practice together. Please talk about what your father values most.

Cui: When I was growing up, my father paid the most attention to the cultivation of quality, which made me a kind person.

Zhang Weiguo: Parents should be good parents, and schools should do a good job in education. Don't think about how to put family education in exam-oriented education, and do your own thing well.

Zhang Jinghuan: Knowledge education and knowledge reserve are only a part of our life. Children's academic performance is not only a matter of grades, but also a matter of self-esteem. Respect and tolerance are very important. Attention should be paid to cultivating children's balance ability and art, and life needs wisdom to balance. From the perspective of the whole life, we should cultivate a child, or we should grow up slowly with the child. Success means being able to appreciate yourself. We should cultivate children to be happy no matter what they do. Once you find the right starting point to cultivate your child, it will shake your child's life and eventually everything will be fine.

Lv Haitao: Many of our teachers will say, "The best students are not taught by teachers, and the worst students are not taught by teachers." As a family education instructor, don't deify our work. As teacher Li said, as long as you can pass the right person, you will have boundless merits. What I want to say is: Follow the course, Do not forget your initiative mind, and persevere.

Dong: There is nothing wrong with the baton of the college entrance examination. While teaching children to learn knowledge, we also cultivate their many abilities. In the process of learning, especially in senior high school, the cultivation of thinking ability is very important. At this stage, the ability to resist setbacks and solve problems is cultivated.

Zhang Jinghuan: Today's discussion has reached some consensus for the time being, and there may be different understandings. With different, diverse and even contradictory things, we have greater motivation to explore on this road. I am glad that there are so many like-minded people in family education. Let's continue to explore this road together!

An afternoon of ideological collision and a gluttonous spiritual feast left everyone wanting more. On the way of family education exchange, thank you colleagues for fighting side by side and walking well all the way. May we be more determined and happier on the road of family education!